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 Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 2:40 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 7:09 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 7:50 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 8:03 pm
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hella uncool Heavenly Paradise ummm ... think about it u might just need sum time wut else can i say? how long have u guys been dating? edit : during the first few months of my 1st ( n still going ) relationship i thought he liked sum one else Dx when he thought i liked sum one else xD we had a talk bout it n it was ok p.s if they cheat on u they arent worth ur time they are just jerks srry u had to meet them early we haven't been together too long. just since march 23 of this year. about 4 months isn't to long to me. but he's so great and we've never gotten frustrated with each other and haven't even bickered and neither of us harbor any bad feelings towards each other. I'm just waiting for him to realize he desrves better than me or something...I have really really bad skin so I know I'm not the prettiest girl out there. I'm sure there's a pretty girl who's far superior to me out there.
ur pretty to him ur relationship is great n it could go on 4ver so dont let it go only if u haveta
gonk i fought wit ma bf b4 but it was resolved oh n march? that cant b just 4 months ... i've been wit mine since march 9th its gonna b the 7th month ... o.O how can urs b the 4th? |
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Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 10:54 pm
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Heavenly Paradise hella uncool Heavenly Paradise ummm ... think about it u might just need sum time wut else can i say? how long have u guys been dating? edit : during the first few months of my 1st ( n still going ) relationship i thought he liked sum one else Dx when he thought i liked sum one else xD we had a talk bout it n it was ok p.s if they cheat on u they arent worth ur time they are just jerks srry u had to meet them early we haven't been together too long. just since march 23 of this year. about 4 months isn't to long to me. but he's so great and we've never gotten frustrated with each other and haven't even bickered and neither of us harbor any bad feelings towards each other. I'm just waiting for him to realize he desrves better than me or something...I have really really bad skin so I know I'm not the prettiest girl out there. I'm sure there's a pretty girl who's far superior to me out there. ur pretty to him ur relationship is great n it could go on 4ver so dont let it go only if u haveta gonk i fought wit ma bf b4 but it was resolved oh n march? that cant b just 4 months ... i've been wit mine since march 9th its gonna b the 7th month ... o.O how can urs b the 4th? |
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Posted: Sun Sep 09, 2007 7:58 am
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hella uncool So my boyfriend is a wonderful, amazing person in sooo many ways! He's somewhat nerdy and yet exstremely social. He's very clean and has great manners. He's also one of those people everyone tends to think is awesome. he's in college now, about two hours away.(he's not able to get a ride back home often and I can't drive) I've been cheated on before by two other guys so I always worry that the same is going to happen with him...he talks to me every day and tells me about who he met and whether or not he made new friends. usually it's guys on the same floor as him in the dorms but every time he mentions a girl even if he only says one sentence I worry like hell about it. I really do trust him to the fullest extent that I've ever trusted anyone but yet I still worry. I even talked to him about my worry and he told me he'd seriously rather be dead than hurt me like that. I could tell by his voice that he really meant it. He went on for about 20 minutes telling me how much he loved me and then about how he worries about me worrying. even with all that he said to try and make me feel better and reassure me I still worry and I feel bad about it...I absolutely refuse to break up with him over this worry and the distance doesn't bug me. But I feel so bad about worrying! It feels like I'm betraying my trust for him... any advice?? EDIT: and I just remembered to add on so there's no "how old are you" things. I'm 17 and a senior in high school, he's 18 and a freshman in cllege
nah, dont break up with him. but I'm going to be very honest in this post. lets face facts... due to past experiences with other guys you *dont* trust him due to association. I think it is quite natural, and I've kinda been there. trust issues run deep which is why they say it's the hardest thing to gain back. you need to over come this fear. when will you be able to get a license and a car? long distance relationships are incredibly stressful (again, been there.. a few times), and in most cases dont last. and not being able to get to eachother makes it worse. if that obstacle can be alleviated somehow then you guys have a better chance. |
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Posted: Sun Sep 09, 2007 5:34 pm
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lilraine hella uncool So my boyfriend is a wonderful, amazing person in sooo many ways! He's somewhat nerdy and yet exstremely social. He's very clean and has great manners. He's also one of those people everyone tends to think is awesome. he's in college now, about two hours away.(he's not able to get a ride back home often and I can't drive) I've been cheated on before by two other guys so I always worry that the same is going to happen with him...he talks to me every day and tells me about who he met and whether or not he made new friends. usually it's guys on the same floor as him in the dorms but every time he mentions a girl even if he only says one sentence I worry like hell about it. I really do trust him to the fullest extent that I've ever trusted anyone but yet I still worry. I even talked to him about my worry and he told me he'd seriously rather be dead than hurt me like that. I could tell by his voice that he really meant it. He went on for about 20 minutes telling me how much he loved me and then about how he worries about me worrying. even with all that he said to try and make me feel better and reassure me I still worry and I feel bad about it...I absolutely refuse to break up with him over this worry and the distance doesn't bug me. But I feel so bad about worrying! It feels like I'm betraying my trust for him... any advice?? EDIT: and I just remembered to add on so there's no "how old are you" things. I'm 17 and a senior in high school, he's 18 and a freshman in cllege nah, dont break up with him. but I'm going to be very honest in this post. lets face facts... due to past experiences with other guys you *dont* trust him due to association. I think it is quite natural, and I've kinda been there. trust issues run deep which is why they say it's the hardest thing to gain back. you need to over come this fear. when will you be able to get a license and a car? long distance relationships are incredibly stressful (again, been there.. a few times), and in most cases don't last. and not being able to get to each other makes it worse. if that obstacle can be alleviated somehow then you guys have a better chance.
actually, the distance issue sort of solved itself today. he told me he has a friend that lives nearby him back here where he actually lives that also goes to the same college. He offered to give him a ride back whenever he needs it. then he has another friend that's an hour away from his college but he also lives in the same area back here and he passes my boyfriends college on the way home. He also offered rides. so I'm feeling quite relieved. |
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Posted: Tue Sep 11, 2007 7:51 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 4:58 am
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i agree with liraine, bcs of past experiences u r still feeling like this, regardless of how much u *think* u trust him.
altho in my case it's different [bcs i've never been cheated on...since the relationship i'm in happens to be the 1st one; i'm 20, btw], i'm on the same boat except it's not him who went to college 3 hrs away, it was me. and i'm the one with the car and liscence [tho currently no car bcs sis crashed it, still getting fixed, blah blah, end story i don't have a car at this very moment]. it's true, long distance relationships are extremely difficult, specially on college time. while he may have a ride, he will more than likely have lots of things to do [eventually] in which case u guys might go 2 weeks without seeing eachother [BEEN THERE].
also, instead of feeling bad for worrying, try to slowly work it out. we all know it's normal [considering ur past experiences], so instead of feeling guilty, try and work around it. it's normal to worry, i do too sometimes [in truth, not that much, but i still do occasionally] even tho i've never been cheated on, even tho i fuly trust him [and he trusts me, too, bcs i have a knack of always knowing more guys than girls, so while IN THAT SENSE he would have more than enough material to worry about it, he trusts me greatly].
lastly, 4 months may not be a great deal of time, but it's *long enough to be considered long* if u consider other people's relationships....tho that really IS besides the point. what i was gonna say is that "problems" and "far worse bickering" usually happens after the 6 months [been there]. HOWEVER!! regardless of when it might happen, if there's really something there, talk it out. relationships are NOWHERE NEAR "always peachy". the KEY to a good relationship ISN'T NOT FIGHTING, IT'S GETTING PAST IT, it's talking it out, reaching a balance, working past it. most ppl break up bcs they don't talk [excuse the cliché, tho in my opinion, if it's a cliché it's bcs it's been around long enough, bcs IT'S TRUE]. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now, and it was in fact on our 6-month "anniversary" that we had a HUGE @$$ FIGHT. he almost broke up with me [he considered it, he told me so]. BUT we talked about it, after he had had time to cool down of course. we r still together and love each other very much. we talk evry day even tho we only see eachother once a week, if not once evry 2 weeks [doesn't happen often, THANK GOD]. so my point is: bickering isn't the problem, not talking and not working it out IS. keep that in mind.
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 1:01 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 9:37 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 10:19 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 18, 2007 11:10 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 9:29 pm
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The advice from the old woman:
If you think he's honest, he probably is honest. If you can hear his mean it in his tone, trust your gut and believe him. Keep in touch and keep your spirits up. He'll love you all the more if when you talk to him you're genuinely happy to be spending time talking, rather than being jealous or worrysome. Enjoy the time you get together.
Plan some times that you can come and see him, if possible. Whatever your time and budget allows. Honestly, when people are seperated, you start to think of all the *good* things about the person you care about, and forget most of the bad - it makes the times together so much better.
Really, the only way it gets ruined is if one or both people are constantly jealous or angry or sad when they both get together. That makes the other person wonder "Is this really worth it?" and start looking for someone else.
So, if he's honest, trust yourself, trust him, and enjoy what time you do spend together - make it happy and make it worth remembering.
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 4:03 am
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