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Posted: Thu May 21, 2009 9:50 am
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I'm sure this story won't be new in these times, but I was recently laid off from my job and so the family has been struggling financially for the last month. My partner is disabled, so I am the only working adult in the home, and while I have been actively looking for work, it's scarce. In the meantime, we bring in just enough money to squeak by - until now. My ex informed me last week that since he too has been laid off, he can no longer afford to pay child support. Now, this completely screws me, because without that money after I pay rent, I have $50 left to pay electricity, garbage, water, gas, etc. Not possible. So I proposed the option to my partner that we move out, live with friends for about 3 months, then get into a smaller (and cheaper) house.
My partner is not happy about this idea, because there really isn't anywhere that all 5 of us can go, so we are looking at me and my 2 kids staying at my best friend's house, and then her and her daughter staying with my dad. I am just wondering what other people think about this idea? Am I being too drastic by proposing it? I am just worried that the alternative is being evicted and ending up in the same position, only then it would be even harder to get a new place.
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Posted: Thu May 21, 2009 10:10 am
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Posted: Fri May 22, 2009 12:32 pm
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Posted: Sat May 23, 2009 8:58 am
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Posted: Sun May 24, 2009 3:50 am
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My husband was disabled out of the Army 21 years ago. Although he could work, he could only take desk jobs and NOBODY wanted to give him insurance of any kind. There have also been long stretches where he was unemployed. I've worked McDonald's, Walmart, thrift shops, etc. to keep things going while he was out of work.
We often talked about how much help from the state I could have gotten had we "split up" and I took the kids elsewhere. However, we really didn't want to split up the family, so we managed.
I think it's very important to keep the family together if possible. If you're making $50 over his disability pay, try to find SOMETHING in some crap job to pay utilities and groceries. (You also might want to ask your landlord to give you a break of $50 to $100 a month. They know how tough things are right now and might say yes, if it's temporary while you look for a decent job. Then again, he might say NO, but you'll never know if you don't ask.) Discount retail, thrift shops and McDonald's are always hiring (and they are doing real well even in this crappy economy.)
Try not to split up the family. My husband and I are both from divorced families, so we thought it was important for the kids to stay together. I know you're not talking divorce, but giving your kids the idea that family can be sorta temporary and only together for the good times, isn't going to create family loyalty, or give them any tolerance or preparation for hard times, and could do alot of damage to those children who have been seperated from their parent.
Just my 2 cents!
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Posted: Sun May 24, 2009 9:36 am
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Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 7:18 pm
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Posted: Tue May 26, 2009 9:54 pm
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