9 Year Difference

[ThisPersonDoesntExist]

Is 9 years a big age difference?
I'm dating a guy through gaia who's 21.. And he wants to visit me this summer.
Do you think it's okay for him to visit me?
I'm 9 years YOUNGER by the way.  

[Chelsea X111]

well for a person who is 9 years younger
well I wouldn't visit him because he might be
some other stranger I don't know  

[anticupid16]

That makes you what, twelve?

Twenty one...twelve...that's actually illegal.  

[ThisPersonDoesntExist]

anticupid16

That makes you what, twelve?

Twenty one...twelve...that's actually illegal.

It's only illegal if we do anything more than hang out.  

[anticupid16]

ThisPersonDoesntExist

anticupid16

That makes you what, twelve?

Twenty one...twelve...that's actually illegal.

It's only illegal if we do anything more than hang out.

You specifically said you're dating. There are multiple things wrong with him coming to visit you if you're dating and there's nine years difference... Do your parents know he's twenty one and wants to visit you? Do they know you're 'dating'?  

[ThisPersonDoesntExist]

anticupid16

ThisPersonDoesntExist

anticupid16

That makes you what, twelve?

Twenty one...twelve...that's actually illegal.

It's only illegal if we do anything more than hang out.

You specifically said you're dating. There are multiple things wrong with him coming to visit you if you're dating and there's nine years difference... Do your parents know he's twenty one and wants to visit you? Do they know you're 'dating'?

They don't know about him.  

[anticupid16]

ThisPersonDoesntExist

anticupid16

ThisPersonDoesntExist

anticupid16

That makes you what, twelve?

Twenty one...twelve...that's actually illegal.

It's only illegal if we do anything more than hang out.

You specifically said you're dating. There are multiple things wrong with him coming to visit you if you're dating and there's nine years difference... Do your parents know he's twenty one and wants to visit you? Do they know you're 'dating'?

They don't know about him.

Then, yes, having him visit is a BAD idea.  

[Laur-Lau]

Omg. I'm pretty sure this guy is a rapist, or seriously mentally ill.
Theres no way a 21 year old would have anything in common with a 12 year old, let alone have reason to even be attracted to one.
If this isnt a troll, just know that visiting him would be a serious danger to your life.  

[Princess_Zelda_Engel]

Laur-Lau

Omg. I'm pretty sure this guy is a rapist, or seriously mentally ill.
Theres no way a 21 year old would have anything in common with a 12 year old, let alone have reason to even be attracted to one.
If this isnt a troll, just know that visiting him would be a serious danger to your life.

everyone's saying that. :/
Edit:: This is 'ThisPersonDoesntExist' I'm not my second account.  

[Moxcella]

does he even know your 12?  

[Princess_Zelda_Engel]

TenshiMystic57

does he even know your 12?

yes, he does.  

[Giavanna Lee]

I totally agree with Laur-Lua. Girl, nothing good can come out of this. 1) You both are at different stages in your life. 2) You haven't even told your parents(which makes if seem as if you really know that this is not a good idea or else you would have been completely comfortable telling them). 3) You don't even know if he is who he says he is. 4) He's a legal adult and you are still a minor and the huge age difference it illegal. I ,honestly, hope you don't go and meet him in person because this whole situation sounds super fishy. And you also need to tell your parents about this.  

[ThisPersonDoesntExist]

Giavanna Lee

I totally agree with Laur-Lua. Girl, nothing good can come out of this. 1) You both are at different stages in your life. 2) You haven't even told your parents(which makes if seem as if you really know that this is not a good idea or else you would have been completely comfortable telling them). 3) You don't even know if he is who he says he is. 4) He's a legal adult and you are still a minor and the huge age difference it illegal. I ,honestly, hope you don't go and meet him in person because this whole situation sounds super fishy. And you also need to tell your parents about this.

I never tell my parents anything and if I told them, they'd kill me.  

[-werewolf-grl-743-]

R U NUTS?!?!?!?!?!?! thats stupid and ya i think it is illegal. dont get 2 seriuos. and no DO NOT HAVE HIM VISIT!!!!! unless u wanna get raped well then be my guest. but no offense but y would a 21 yr old wanna hang out with a 12 yr old. i mean hangin out yes but GOIN OUT?? uhh wats wrong with this picture???  

[M e h P u s s N B o o t s]

ThisPersonDoesntExist

Giavanna Lee

I totally agree with Laur-Lua. Girl, nothing good can come out of this. 1) You both are at different stages in your life. 2) You haven't even told your parents(which makes if seem as if you really know that this is not a good idea or else you would have been completely comfortable telling them). 3) You don't even know if he is who he says he is. 4) He's a legal adult and you are still a minor and the huge age difference it illegal. I ,honestly, hope you don't go and meet him in person because this whole situation sounds super fishy. And you also need to tell your parents about this.

I never tell my parents anything and if I told them, they'd kill me.

I understand why they'd want to.
Hiding an illegal boyfriend you met ON THE INTERNET from your parents and wanting to meet up with him? Imagine if your child did that.

Like someone else said, there is NO GOOD REASON for a 21 year old to date a 12 year old.
First off, online dating that young isn't smart in the first place because you NEVER know if the person is who they say they are.
And again, he said he's 21. Red flag. I'm not trying to be mean, but what you and him want in a "relationship" are two totally different things.