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Posted: Fri Jul 16, 2010 7:10 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 16, 2010 7:21 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 18, 2010 12:09 am
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Well, for me..it wasn't that hard. I was seeing someone for about a year and a half..thought I might just love him, maybe. I never thought about our future together, frowned at the mere mention of it. In fact, he started to grate on my nerves quite soon. We fought a lot. Okay, I fought at him... He was very agreeable -- one of the most annoying traits a man will ever have. I could go on, but I won't. I finally broke it off with him months after I really should have. He saw it coming. Took it much harder than I did. It didn't hurt too much because I'd stopped liking him awhile beforehand. But it was definitely weird. I was so used to being in a relationship. I didn't feel lonely -- in fact, I felt free. I could flirt with who I wanted, go gaga over whatever hunky celeb popped up on the TV(hello, Lautner!), go out with friends and not have to worry about making time for a boyfriend, blahblah.. Plus it gave me time to find myself; to love myself. To understand what I like in a guy. I thought over everything that aggravated me about him (no sense of adventure, major hypochondriac, inability to hold a decent conversation, lack of trust and support, a terrible kisser..etc) and decided to never put up with that sort of thing again, because I didn't need to spend so much time on an awkward push over. Then I figured out what I liked about him -- nice smile, patient, calm -- and look for those qualities in an even better man.
SO anyway, I think spending time with yourself for awhile and living up the single life will help. Think about the positive stuff, like why you broke up with him, the freedom you have, and how many cuter guys with tons more potential are out there! There's a ton, really, and you damn well deserve them. =]
I have a new boyfriend now and I'm totally, deeply in love with him. We talk about marriage, raising a family, growing old together..<3 (I've never thought about that sort of thing before! I've always seen myself as single and uncommitted for most of my adult life, but that's totally changed.) But I don't think our relationship would be going as well if I hadn't taken time off dating for awhile. It really helped me figure out things.
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Posted: Sun Jul 18, 2010 12:24 am
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Posted: Sun Jul 18, 2010 7:39 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 19, 2010 7:30 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 19, 2010 9:36 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 19, 2010 10:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 20, 2010 3:49 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 20, 2010 3:55 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 20, 2010 3:55 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 20, 2010 3:58 pm
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Quote: I broke up woth him. Over the phone. I know it's mean, doing it during a call. I feel like everything in the relationship was always my fault. I know it wasn't but he always made me feel like it was. I've been thinking about breaking up with him for a good while now, so I know it was probably the best thing to do. The final straw was when he called earlier, my mom answered, told him I was just leaving to get some ice cream, and it drove me batty. I told my mom about how I couldn't take everything, his complaining, his neediness, his mood swings, his anything. It was totally awesome in the beginning, but I honestly just can't deal with how he always needs to be talking to me, or around me, or otherwise he's depressed. He complained that we never went on dates anymore, but that was because he called me every night(sometimes twice a night), we hang out at every break at school, we have a class together, and we have the same group of friends. It was always complaints, complaints. He complained about his home life, himself, his classes, the internet, his teachers, his friends, skateboarding, jobs, how bored he always was, us, me. He never stopped. I tried asking for space, but he got depressed and called more. He didn't do anything. He had a bunch of moodswings all the time. In school he'd be happy, but once he was home, he'd get depressed about everything and call me. He guilt tripped me. Anytime I wanted something from the relationship, space, time, anything, he'd get depressed and say something like 'I'm sorry, but I just wanted to talk to you...' or something of the like. I told myself I wasn't going to cry. Now I'm telling myself that I refuse to take him back. I'll be sticking to that one. I just can't stop feeling bad, even I know it's not my fault. I'm totally not ready for the dating scene.
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Posted: Fri Jul 23, 2010 7:41 pm
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RosesFallingLikeRain Quote: I broke up woth him. Over the phone. I know it's mean, doing it during a call. I feel like everything in the relationship was always my fault. I know it wasn't but he always made me feel like it was. I've been thinking about breaking up with him for a good while now, so I know it was probably the best thing to do. The final straw was when he called earlier, my mom answered, told him I was just leaving to get some ice cream, and it drove me batty. I told my mom about how I couldn't take everything, his complaining, his neediness, his mood swings, his anything. It was totally awesome in the beginning, but I honestly just can't deal with how he always needs to be talking to me, or around me, or otherwise he's depressed. He complained that we never went on dates anymore, but that was because he called me every night(sometimes twice a night), we hang out at every break at school, we have a class together, and we have the same group of friends. It was always complaints, complaints. He complained about his home life, himself, his classes, the internet, his teachers, his friends, skateboarding, jobs, how bored he always was, us, me. He never stopped. I tried asking for space, but he got depressed and called more. He didn't do anything. He had a bunch of moodswings all the time. In school he'd be happy, but once he was home, he'd get depressed about everything and call me. He guilt tripped me. Anytime I wanted something from the relationship, space, time, anything, he'd get depressed and say something like 'I'm sorry, but I just wanted to talk to you...' or something of the like. I told myself I wasn't going to cry. Now I'm telling myself that I refuse to take him back. I'll be sticking to that one. I just can't stop feeling bad, even I know it's not my fault. I'm totally not ready for the dating scene. That made me sad sad . But I liked it. I know how you feel when you say "I just can't stop feeling bad, even I know it's not my fault. " I feel so bad because my ex-boyfriend doesn't seem to be taking it well. I've been talking to him for a few days and he's been up for four days straight and he's barely eaten, and the way his moods are it almost sounds as if he's depressed. But I broke up with him because he'd changed so much, so I pretty much think it was his fault. :/
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