What do you do when...

[o0Roxy0o]

Your best friends turn out to be the bullies/popular mean girls? :3

Okay so I know I'm the captain and I should know that this topic should go
into the Life Issues sub-forum, but I want it to be more of a discussion if
that's alright with you girls? [:

So yeah, my best friends are now the girls that the whole school hates and
are scared of. I don't know, maybe it's the fact that the stare at everyone
and give them mean looks, or all 10 of us walk up to one little girl and start
saying mean things or maybe it was that time when they went up to someone
and slapped them?

Well anyway I've tried speaking to them, but they won't change. I'm not
happy with being stereotyped into this group... I've been trying to do things
so that I won't be... Like today I took a pair of shoes out of a bin like a
total retard after my friends but the poor boys shoes in. Apparently when
I walked away, they went and did it again. I've also apologized to every
person my friends have been mean to.

Not sure what to do anymore. I hate it... I don't even look at them as
friends anymore. Popularity got to their heads. Maybe it's time to move
on... But I don't want to be a loner? :3

Discuss?

 

[Lady Kira X]

your friends need a reality check.
They'll get whats coming to them after high school.
They'll find out that the world isn't so nice to bitchy people & they won't get very far with that attitude.  

[Regina Cordium]

Get new friends. I hate people like that. They're so mean and annoying.

 

[Intoxikace]

Sometimes you just gotta move on.. if your friends are going to be douchebags then you don't need them.
I'm much rather hang out alone then associate myself with people like that. =/  

[o0Roxy0o]

What ever happened to "Don't do to others what you don't want done to yourself"? D:
I just wish they'd realize sooner. They weren't always like this. They just
started drinking and hanging with the wrong crowd and completely changed.

 

[Regina Cordium]

I've seen that happen to several girls in my grade last year. In 7th grade they were super nice and liked everyone, then when 8th grade rolled around they turned into drunk sluts who stole from Claire's (A store that sells jewelery, hair bows, hats, tote bags, etc) I'm not even exaggerating. Two girls were talking about how they stole two necklaces.

 

[o0Roxy0o]

Truth is that they are totally going to regret it... :3

 

[Regina Cordium]

Mhm, if they don't already.

 

[Centipedes In Utero]

Just drop those hoes. Do you really want your reputation tainted by hanging out with such filth?

 

[o0Roxy0o]

It's gonna be tough though... Might have to be a loner for awhile.

 

[o0Roxy0o]

I have loads of other friends.. [:
Just not sure if I'll fit in properly. Our school is quite grouped. All the jocks
stick together, nerds stick together. Our group was always nice 'cause we
were all different. [: A bit of everything. So that might be quite tough to find.

 

[xena91388]

What you should do is weigh the pros and cons of your friendship.

1) Do you enjoy spending time with your friends? Outside of their assholery, do they make you happy?

2) In the time you spend with them, are you happy the majority of the time? If not, they're not good friends.

3) What is good about them? What is bad?

4) Most important, it there a cause behind their behavior? Sometimes, people do bad/mean things "just because" but sometimes there is a reason behind it such as harassment by a higher authority, substance abuse (caffeine abuse is common and known to cause aggression), stress, ect. . . If it's an outside cause, you can maybe help them.

What you absolutely MUST do it stop running damage control and apologizing for them. Let them handle their own messes. If it bothers you, tell them! If they jibe you for it/ turn on you, dump them! They're not your friends.  

[Twilight Scribe]

In flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly

I'm sure that if you try hard enough, you'll be able to find other friends who don't behave like this. It might take some time and a lot of work and effort on your part, but it'll definitely be worth it. You don't need friends like that, and as people above me have said, they'll get what's coming to them later.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved, and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders Fields.

 

[NightAngels]

Well first things first
As long as you hang around with them, people will see you as a mean girl too. Even if you apologized to the people they have hurt, or help the person they are bashing at, other people will still see you as part of the group and people will unfortunately relate you to them. Or they might see you a weak person that the "mean girls" are dragging in.

I know you are not that heart heart even though if I don't know you personally, but just by what you have created, a big guild just for girls to help them out and raise their self-esteem, managing, organizing, staying in touch... you girl are so so much more than that. So if you are starting not see those girls as friends anymore, the best thing would be is to get new friends. Yeah... easily said than done, but you did your part by speaking to them, they didn't listen to you or even tried as friends, then you must not be part of something that you don't want to be part of.

The best way to make friends is to talk to other people.. again, easily said then done... it might be a challenge but it would be worth doing. : ) I bet you do have loads of other friends. ^_^

It must have taken a lot of courage to apologize to those people who those girls have been hurting, why not be courageous enough to leave something you don't agree upon.

Well at the end it is all up to you Roxy : ) good luck.