I wanted to come out this year but...

[noigel]

After really thinking about t I realized it would probably just make things...maybe not worse but...really awkward..
I don't really care what the people at school think because I know I have some friends that will accept me ad I could just find new ones.
But my family.
We go to church every week and occasionally they'll put something in the sermon have to deal with homosexuality being wrong.
Just last Sunday my mom (a minister at our church) was saying that God didn't make men and men/women and women to be together, etc.
Then there's the fact that I go to Youth Bible study every Tuesday too.
I don't want to stop going to church because I enjoy it sometimes and everyone loves each other very much. Not to mention they've been so helpful in helping me raise tuition money for a very important educational trip for me.
It's just that I don't want to have to go to church every time feeling judged and or looked down upon like some kind of abomination or something that needs to be "healed."

So I've decided that it would be best to just wait until I moved out into college. I really wanted to come out in High School but I guess that won't happen.

Do you think I'm feeling the right way about this situation? What would you do if in my position?  

[longinus212]

I think you should just say "To hell with the lot of them, I am who I am and you can't change me!" God may or may not have made everything (don't want to debate it, I just find it hard to believe that the creator would let us suffer as such) but if he did, then he made you the way you are and no mortal can change it.
If you honestly believe that people won't accept you then I think it may be best to wait (don't want to see people hurt) but if you know people well enough, and you know they won't harm you at all, then tell them. Show them who you really are.
Thats my point and I'm sticking to it.  

[DJ Arctic Wolf]

im in ur shoes too loves, but im in college. i wanna come out but im afraid of rejection. i love everyone very much and i dont want them to hate me just b/c of my homosexuality. so...i think i'll come out once i transfer to the 4-yr school  

[HARD N THROBBING INCUBUS]

just wait till college its so much easier, HS is already a bubbling pot of hormones you dont need to dump your sexuality into the mix as well.

make sure you go to a more open college.... mine is too open though, to many angry feminist lesbians for my liking nothing against them but they can get a little preachy... pun not intended  

[Shanna66]

i would wait if i was in your shoes. waiting till college or longer isnt that bad  

[Aedicule]

i'm kinda going through that same thing i go to church ever Sunday to always just listen to when my dad (also a minister) talks about hows its wrong and the people who do it are a abomination and junk like that but i just think about how god might not have even said that because Paul(or who ever said it) was the one who did and for all i know he could have just be a homo-fob .but other than that i just think i'm going to wait till i get out of high school in 2 years tell my parents and be done with it and go live with my friend since i probably will be kicked out at that point.  

[noigel]

CrimzenAncient

i'm kinda going through that same thing i go to church ever Sunday to always just listen to when my dad (also a minister) talks about hows its wrong and the people who do it are a abomination and junk like that but i just think about how god might not have even said that because Paul(or who ever said it) was the one who did and for all i know he could have just be a homo-fob .but other than that i just think i'm going to wait till i get out of high school in 2 years tell my parents and be done with it and go live with my friend since i probably will be kicked out at that point.

Good luck with that. :3
I don't think my parents will ever kick me out but....I just don't want to deal with people at church twice every week...  

[Not British Just Gay]

TorpidoKoi

CrimzenAncient

i'm kinda going through that same thing i go to church ever Sunday to always just listen to when my dad (also a minister) talks about hows its wrong and the people who do it are a abomination and junk like that but i just think about how god might not have even said that because Paul(or who ever said it) was the one who did and for all i know he could have just be a homo-fob .but other than that i just think i'm going to wait till i get out of high school in 2 years tell my parents and be done with it and go live with my friend since i probably will be kicked out at that point.

Good luck with that. :3
I don't think my parents will ever kick me out but....I just don't want to deal with people at church twice every week...

You need be really careful to find out what your family's views on homosexuality really are, if you're thinking of coming out to them. Unless you never talk about politics with them, try bringing up something like the Westboro Baptist Church's (the God Hates Fags guys) winning the supreme court case to protest at military funerals. They piss everyone off, and if you mention it you can try and gauge how homophobic your parents are. I would be very worried they would try to "heal" you.

I don't know anything about your family, but I do know a ton of people who have been kicked out/disowned/been brainwashed. because they were found out by their families. I would wait until college, and avoid going to a private religious one.

Religion is clearly important to you. Once you move out, you're not going to be in your town's congregation anymore. You'll have to find a new one. If you're open to exploring other denominations, however, you can find that same sense of community in a church that will accept you for being who you are. The Episcopalian church has ordained gay bishops. I believe that the Presbyterian Church is quite liberal. What denomination are you?  

[noigel]

Not British Just Gay

TorpidoKoi

CrimzenAncient

i'm kinda going through that same thing i go to church ever Sunday to always just listen to when my dad (also a minister) talks about hows its wrong and the people who do it are a abomination and junk like that but i just think about how god might not have even said that because Paul(or who ever said it) was the one who did and for all i know he could have just be a homo-fob .but other than that i just think i'm going to wait till i get out of high school in 2 years tell my parents and be done with it and go live with my friend since i probably will be kicked out at that point.

Good luck with that. :3
I don't think my parents will ever kick me out but....I just don't want to deal with people at church twice every week...

You need be really careful to find out what your family's views on homosexuality really are, if you're thinking of coming out to them. Unless you never talk about politics with them, try bringing up something like the Westboro Baptist Church's (the God Hates Fags guys) winning the supreme court case to protest at military funerals. They piss everyone off, and if you mention it you can try and gauge how homophobic your parents are. I would be very worried they would try to "heal" you.

I don't know anything about your family, but I do know a ton of people who have been kicked out/disowned/been brainwashed. because they were found out by their families. I would wait until college, and avoid going to a private religious one.

Religion is clearly important to you. Once you move out, you're not going to be in your town's congregation anymore. You'll have to find a new one. If you're open to exploring other denominations, however, you can find that same sense of community in a church that will accept you for being who you are. The Episcopalian church has ordained gay bishops. I believe that the Presbyterian Church is quite liberal. What denomination are you?

Thnx
I'm don't think they'll try to "heal" me and surely not throw me out or anything. Them and my church are very proud of me for my numerous academic achievements and are currently trying to raise money for me to go to an important educational trip to support my career in engineering. So I'm hoping that will make it easier for the to accept me.
And Baptist.  

[Sarah_L_Awesome]

if i were in your shoes, i'd wait til college  

[Aedicule]

Not British Just Gay

TorpidoKoi

CrimzenAncient

i'm kinda going through that same thing i go to church ever Sunday to always just listen to when my dad (also a minister) talks about hows its wrong and the people who do it are a abomination and junk like that but i just think about how god might not have even said that because Paul(or who ever said it) was the one who did and for all i know he could have just be a homo-fob .but other than that i just think i'm going to wait till i get out of high school in 2 years tell my parents and be done with it and go live with my friend since i probably will be kicked out at that point.

Good luck with that. :3
I don't think my parents will ever kick me out but....I just don't want to deal with people at church twice every week...

You need be really careful to find out what your family's views on homosexuality really are, if you're thinking of coming out to them. Unless you never talk about politics with them, try bringing up something like the Westboro Baptist Church's (the God Hates Fags guys) winning the supreme court case to protest at military funerals. They piss everyone off, and if you mention it you can try and gauge how homophobic your parents are. I would be very worried they would try to "heal" you.

I don't know anything about your family, but I do know a ton of people who have been kicked out/disowned/been brainwashed. because they were found out by their families. I would wait until college, and avoid going to a private religious one.

Religion is clearly important to you. Once you move out, you're not going to be in your town's congregation anymore. You'll have to find a new one. If you're open to exploring other denominations, however, you can find that same sense of community in a church that will accept you for being who you are. The Episcopalian church has ordained gay bishops. I believe that the Presbyterian Church is quite liberal. What denomination are you?

i think my dad is pretty homophobic because when he thought i was was gay because he found gay porn on my laptop that my cousin was looking at he threatened to be the s**t out of me if i was.So i would either be kicked out or get the crap beat out of me mabey even both  

[NotAMistake]

I'm sorta in the same situation as you are. I was raised in a church that forced my family to put a sign for prob h8 a couple years ago. So I always felt weird going to church because there would always be a lesson on how being gay is wrong and you can't live in heaven if you are gay. This made me very nervous to come out to my parents and the nervousness made me, for lack of a better word, scared to say anything to them. The nervousness went away for a fleeting moment and I ended up telling my dad first. BIG MISTAKE! I ended up telling him I was just testing him to see how he reacted.

Fast forward to the present, both my parents now know that I am gay. My mom is supportive, my dad is a work in progress. My mom would be just fine with me being completely out of the closet but I know that the church people in my area would be so cruel it would just make things worse. So I've made the resolve to come out once I move out in January 2012. I must say, it does suck not being out but I would recommend waiting until you are at college. That is pretty much what I'm doing.

I hope this is applicable to this topic >.>  

[Papurusuta]

tell them this ''if god didnt want homosexuality to happen then why does it excist  

[Sin Error]

I support your decision, wait until things are in your favor. coming out in high school can be quite torublesome, not only for you but for the friends around you too, and kids on highs school are dicks. ignorant ********, so hold it in a little bit more, once you start college it's a new life for you my friend.