And this has been a controversy at the theater I work at for months.
Now it's just getting on my nerves, people aren't minding there own business,
they keep talking saying how weird it is, but BLAH!
We kept it a secret from her parents the whole time, the reason why is;
I didn't want them automatically shooting down the idea of her dating me, without getting to know me.
So we secretly dated, and I secretly grew closer to her parents for them to get to know me, that way I had a fighting chance of getting them to agree.
We are quite the opposite in personal lives, but we balance each other out REALLY well.
Here's the arguement in right's and wrongs from my perspective, and other people's perspective.
In My Defense:
【✓】: She is actually mature for an average 14 year old, and not in the bad way.
【✓】: We only see each other in the theater we both do stuff at, not outside, ever.
【✓】: My last 3 relatioships ended for the same 3 reasons
---------❶: Depression [chronic depression]
---------❷: Theater [I'm there wayyy too often]
---------❸: Going too fast [Usually hit sex in under 6 months]
However, with her, I was forced to go slow, it was good for me. It was something that I needed, so that way I can still be the boyfriend that I am, without the temptation.
【✓】: She is a happy spirit which I need in my life, getting rid of the depression part. We both do theater, so that crosses that out. And when w barely see each other, plus her age, I'm forced to go slow. [IT'S PERFECT!]
【✓】: Because of my personal lifestyle, I don't feel like a 17 year old, I feel like i'm in my late 20's. She makes me feel like a kid again, she makes me feel my age.
【✓】: I have done alot of bad things in my life, I'm a different person then who I used to be, and now, I can look out for her, protect her, and keep her away from the bad decisions.
【✓】: We take care of each other, and based our relationship off honesty. She has actually taught me alot in the 3 months we've dated.
【✓】: I have quit smoking, and slowed down the drinking because of her. I have also changed my eating habbits, and started working out more because of her.
【✓】: I wanna be a doctor is the mental field. A psychologist, so despite my physical features, or my personal life, I have ambitions, and goals.
The arguement against us
【✗】: She is 14....and I am 17. She is 2 years and 10 months younger then me.
【✗】: Her parents don't think she is ready to date, even though she has done an AMAZING job so far [better then the last 3 bitches...]
【✗】: Because of my personal life, her friends don't trust me to do a good job...
【✗】: Everyone thinks the maturity levels are too great.
【✗】: I am, a 17 year old who doesn't beleive in religion, is not a virgin, smokes, drinks, has tattoos, is a HS dropout, likes metal music. She is a Christian raised in a Christian family, a virgin, who is quite innocent, thinks tattoos are dumb, and a average BC student, who likes pop, rock, and music she can dance too.
Yes, quite opposite, but we love each other. =]
However, her parents eventually found out, and "made us" break up. Telling her s**t like "you'll thank us later" "love's not a game" "you shouldn't date until you're ready to marry" "you're too young". Even though they have no idea what has gone on between me and her, so they don't know what kind of a girlfriend she is, or what kinda boyfriend I am.
I'm turning 18 in February, and trust me, I woulda ended our relationship once I turned 18, cause then there could be some complications legally. I'm not pissed that we have to break up, cause I knew it would happen eventually, I just wish it was on our terms, not when someone said too. Her parents do like me, they said we can still see each other, hangout, whatever, just can't date. But it's still ******** annoying.
So, what are your opinions???
