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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2011 11:08 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2012 7:56 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2013 4:51 am
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I don't know if I've really come out because I don't feel like I've ever been in the closet. My family and friends know and they didn't think anything special about it. My grandparents don't know, though, but only because it hasn't come up in a conversation. They're major homophobes, though, so I expect some yelling or grumpy muttering but what can you do. That's how it is with my sexuality, gender's a completely different thing, though. I'm a bit messed up with my gender identity at the moment and I don't know what to do about it, thus I'm in the closet with it. My mum knows, though, and so do some rare friends and they all took it very well and some of them were even really supportive. So yeah, at least no one's been cunty.
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Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 2:10 pm
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Posted: Sat Jul 20, 2013 12:19 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 22, 2013 8:46 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 02, 2013 1:23 am
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2014 10:15 am
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Wow this is kind of a loaded question.
Well, I grew up in a massively conservative family so I was super scared for the longest time especially since I heard soooo much homophobia from my biological father. It was about a week away from my 17th birthday when I was eating at Chili's with my biological mother. She was talking about 'those gays' and how disgusting 'they' were. I was fighting back tooth and nail. For months, she kept asking me if there was something I needed to tell her, but I always said no.
This time, I threw it in her face. I told her she had a queer kid and she had to deal with it. Her immediate reaction was to ask what I THOUGHT I was. Incensed, I curtly explained to her pansexuality after she thought I was humping her cooking ware. The rest of the dinner did not go well.
Over the next few months, she refused to acknowledge that I was anything less than 100% heterosexual. My adoptive parents were much more understanding. I never had to come out at all to them or explain anything. I mean yeah I explained it to my sisters who were questioning at various times but it was never a huge deal. It was like oh you like guys and girls and people who are confusing? Good for you we really don't care.
But with my biological family, I kept trying to keep up good ties as much as possible. During the summer, my older brother and I had a fight. He had no idea of my sexuality since my biological mother was like THEY'RE STRAIGHT THEY'RE STRAIGHT THEY'RE STRAIGHT constantly. I screamed what I am at him and he was stunned into silence. He hugged me and said it was ok, that he loved me anyways.
The third time I came out, I did it for good and I did it on Facebook. I was tired of being closeted around certain family members and open around others. Same with friends. I explained what pansexuality was and there was an explosion all over my feed for weeks. Some of my aunts were professing how I was going to hell for being an abomination while my cousins were like 'yo that's not cool' to their moms and supported me 100%.
The point to this longass convoluted story is that you never stop coming out. Even if you don't really say anything to people, it's still a process. Or at least it was for me. I've had to come out to my biological mother three separate times and she still tries to stubbornly ignore it. My retribution is to vomit rainbows in her presence which is highly amusing actually.
You're going to get a mix of reactions. My biological family was nuts and felt betrayed for some reason? Which is super stupid because they're not me. But my adoptive family was like yo whatever Vann. Get your a** over to the table for dinner, mom made some really great takoyaki tonight.
It really shows who loves you, y'know? And it's gonna be hard and it's gonna suck. But I know it's made me feel better. I'm not hiding anymore and I can just be me without worry.
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2014 10:25 am
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