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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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 Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2012 7:40 pm
Gawd, I am Waayyy to open with you guys...
So, my ex boyfriend, who is my supervisor at my summer job, who I was heartbroken over for a very long time, who I sort of started to be friendly with again, who I ended up sleeping with this summer, and in the fall... well he tells me he wants to break up with his girlfriend, cause he misses fooling around with me.
I'm not entirely sure how to feel about this. I mean, of course I miss fooling around too. I'm a single girl, all of whom friends are married or engaged. Some now living on the other side of the continent. I have no one to go out and be single with, and even then, I'm extremely shy IRL with strangers. And I'm a full time student working two jobs who can't even commit to a phone contract, forget a relationship, I'm determined to get my OWN place, all I want to do is move out and live alone, how messed up is that. And hooking up with him made me feel like I was actually living, and that it was really good to be me, to be single, that I was actually hot. Plus we both discovering new things together, and, well, really just having fun.
At the same time, I don't want to be a reason a relationship didn't workout. He said they argue a lot though, and he doesn't think it's gona workout. But he also specifically said he missed discovering new things with someone. I guess I'm just worried well get addicted to each other. I do want a relationship SOME DAY. And what we have is, well it's easy, carefree. I can see why it's more appealing than a relationship. Will I be blind to other oppertunities if my needs are being met?
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2012 10:31 pm
To be honest, I PERSONALLY think it is a bad idea, he doesn't seem very decisive, (first he fooled with you, decided to stop talking to you (if I remember correctly) and get the gf, now he wants to fool with you and dump her) and that is not something you want around. Are you sure maybe he doesn't just want you for a booty call? (kind of like having you off to the side, so that he CAN break up with her, fool around with you till he finds someone he deems more suitable or whatever, then drops you) I mean, I just don't want to see you get hurt heart heart plus if you are busy fooling with him, other guys might not approach you if you go out into public, and you might not seek out someone eventually. IDK it's just something doesn't really rub me the right way about him from the things I have heard xd but, that is just an outsiders opinion and point of view, I have seen it happen before, and it hurt my friend badly, so I don't want to see you go through it.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2012 8:36 pm
Cowgirl-with-heart Are you sure maybe he doesn't just want you for a booty call? (kind of like having you off to the side, so that he CAN break up with her, fool around with you till he finds someone he deems more suitable or whatever, then drops you) That's exactly what this is lol. There is zero commitment, we're both well aware we don't want to stick together or end up together. We are BOTH using the other as a booty call. xp But I do think he's realized that a relationship is not a good idea right now with school, and he's not working so has no money to spend wining and dining someone. So I don't think he'll be looking for a replacement too soon.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 12:59 pm
Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Cowgirl-with-heart Are you sure maybe he doesn't just want you for a booty call? (kind of like having you off to the side, so that he CAN break up with her, fool around with you till he finds someone he deems more suitable or whatever, then drops you) That's exactly what this is lol. There is zero commitment, we're both well aware we don't want to stick together or end up together. We are BOTH using the other as a booty call. xp But I do think he's realized that a relationship is not a good idea right now with school, and he's not working so has no money to spend wining and dining someone. So I don't think he'll be looking for a replacement too soon. lol well, its just that last time you guys hooked up, he just up and stopped talking to you didn't he? and if I remember right, you were pretty upset, I just don't want you getting upset again xP
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 9:06 pm
Mixed feelings on this. You don't need a guy to feel sexy, because you are anyway, as I and a few other guild members who like girls have said in the past. But I totally understand the want/need for a bootycall, just be careful and remember what is important. I mean, most of us are too far away to kick his a** if he hurts you again, so internet taunts will have to do.
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Posted: Sat Jan 21, 2012 4:25 pm
yeah, I get what your saying, I'm really use to it though, not talking to me is like his universal sign for "I have a girlfriend now" or potential girlfriend. And he really really likes to think of himself as innocent, the nice guy who never means to hurt anyone. And he'll tell me he respects me and wants to be friends and yet I only seem to ever hear from him when he wants to get laid. But when I mention it he gets really offended. Like I say though, we're mutually using each other, I'm just more honest about it than he is. He lies to himself as much as he lies to me though.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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