|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 11:43 am
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 11:58 am
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 12:02 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 12:16 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 12:46 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:14 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:16 pm
|
|
|
|
This does need to be reported, but there a few things to consider.
I would recommend first talking to your friend about reporting this to a teacher or counsellor, rather than reporting it yourself without telling her. If you are willing, then offer to go with her when she does talk to someone. Even though you have her best interests in mind, she would probably see it as a betrayal if you told someone without her knowledge.
I agree that the abuse needs to stop as soon as possible, but keep in mind what happens after a report is made. She probably will need to speak to a social worker, a doctor, and also the police. It's all a step in the right direction, but the process can be quite overwhelming, and I imagine she would rather not have it happen without warning.
Be there for her as best you can, and listen. Definitely encourage her to seek help and to report it, but don't pressure her. Give her some time.
If it continues, and she's still unwilling to report it ... At that point, you may need to tell her that you're worried for her, and that you would like to report it. Hopefully it won't come to that. confused
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 2:10 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 9:40 pm
|
|
|
|
Something I notice that nobody has said anything about- if she has money issues, a social worker can help her for therapy and doctors. They can also help her find groups for support, and it wouldn't cost much or anything at all. I know, I've already been there. As her friend, you can help her by being there and supporting her, making things as normal as possible for her without completely crippling her. Her brother needs help, and if t gets reported, he may get taken from the home, but it should help. I feel for your friend, and I'm sorry this is happening to her. It's horrible, and the situation can be very bad. It is still a sore spot within my family, and it happened many years ago. Ask her to report it, and if she doesn't, then take initiative and report it for her. She may be upset, but at least you'll know you're being a true friend and doing all that you can to prevent it. In the long run, she'll appreciate it.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 6:36 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 7:34 pm
|
|
|
|
What I'm about to say will be doubtlessly useless.....
But one time, I heard about something similar happening, but it wasn't her brother. Not the point of the story. Anyway, I got pissed as I was bound to do. I knew the guy, and knew where I could get to him. So, I fought him, and hurt the hell out of him. I got arrested myself, which was fair. But, upon hearing the story of what happened from me, I got released. Still punished with around 72 hours of community service. But he got it worse. Since he was over age, he ended up going to a state penitentiary for repeatedly sexually abusing her. It was not nice for him. I testified against him myself, and she had to too. Not that she was forced to, but I talked her into letting the story our. And she was both mentally and emotionally broken. I could do nothing to help... because she hated me for saying anything about it without telling her I would first. She did end up saying it... but not until after I had first. What I'm saying is, be careful. Stuff happens.... but remember who you're doing it for.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 8:58 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2012 9:39 am
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2012 11:40 am
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 8:31 pm
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|