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 Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:25 am
So I don't date often, at all.
Just broke up with my boyfriend, and we're still friend's but
i just feel this gripping lonliness type-feeling.
Like I'm not exactly sure where I should be focusing myself.
What about you guys? What do you do to recover from break ups?
Have any of you broken up recently?
Get with someone else is also not an acceptable answer, just as a heads up.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:49 am
I wouldn't call it a break up but as of yesterday I decided to kinda distance myself from someone I liked. I usually get over a break up by starting a new project either start a new game, build something anything to focus on. The key thing is the gripping feeling is given but it will pass. I no it really hurts but there are lots of other people out there not for you to find now of course. Take this time for personal reflection think about what you liked didn't like about the relationship and keep yourself from going for someone like that again. (sorry if im rambling)
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:26 pm
Music, when I go through break ups (i've gone through A LOT) I listen to music that is upbeat and makes me happy, for example right now I'm IN LOVE with Katy Perry's new song "Part of me" and yes it sucks her marrige ended but if it means she will make music like this then good.
I don't say good because I say good because it's good to turn negative emotional energy into a positive product.
Design, some times after a break up I get inspired and I just go to a fabric store buy anythign that speaks to me and I create something for me that by working on it gets my mind off the break up and when I get compliaments for my work it makes me feel better.
Work out, physical activity is a great thing to do when going through a break up it releases hormones that make you feel good plus you feel better after working up a sweat and if you keep it up you'll be smokin' hot and you can show your ex what s/he missed out on.
cry, I'm not saying you have to but sometimes having a good cry to get something out of your system helps.
DO NOT get together with someone else, after a break up jumping into a new relationship is a big no no, just take time alone to recover because if you jump into a relationship with someone else when you aren't healed emotionally from a break up the relationship WILL fail, trust me.
Everyone grieves in different ways and I don't really know you on a personal level so I can't tell you what exactly to do so I listed a few things I find helpful and perhaps you can try them.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 1:42 pm
Mother says the fastest way to get over one guy is to get under the next. Rebounds, while using someone are an effective way to handle loneliness after breaking up with someone.
After my last big break up, when I was lonely I gave myself two options, treat myself to a puppy or a video game. I went with the video game and I still carry my Pokewalker with me with my little Bunneary. When feeling lonely or sad, I played the game to distract myself until I realized what a d**k he was (and a moron) and got over him.
In short, be nice to yourself.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 3:27 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 4:45 pm
My boyfriend and I broke up last week. It was a mutual agreement, and it was amicable. In fact, we still live together. Other breakups have been much less pleasant, of course.
After a breakup, I try not to let myself sit around and dwell on it overly much (not always successfully), and try to go about my daily routine as usual. There's not much you can really do, aside from waiting it out.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 5:02 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 5:14 pm
I love you.. sweatdrop lol sleeping is great for break ups
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 6:07 pm
Onato I love you.. sweatdrop lol sleeping is great for break ups Glad I get love. But seriously, last break up, I totally just went to sleep for awhile. When I woke up, I was refreshed and could totally think in a way that made me not want to murder the person who broke up with me. Because repeat stabbing is a bad thing, apparently.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:07 pm
Nerdodactyl Music, when I go through break ups (i've gone through A LOT) I listen to music that is upbeat and makes me happy, for example right now I'm IN LOVE with Katy Perry's new song "Part of me" and yes it sucks her marrige ended but if it means she will make music like this then good. I don't say good because I say good because it's good to turn negative emotional energy into a positive product. Design, some times after a break up I get inspired and I just go to a fabric store buy anythign that speaks to me and I create something for me that by working on it gets my mind off the break up and when I get compliaments for my work it makes me feel better. Work out, physical activity is a great thing to do when going through a break up it releases hormones that make you feel good plus you feel better after working up a sweat and if you keep it up you'll be smokin' hot and you can show your ex what s/he missed out on. cry, I'm not saying you have to but sometimes having a good cry to get something out of your system helps. DO NOT get together with someone else, after a break up jumping into a new relationship is a big no no, just take time alone to recover because if you jump into a relationship with someone else when you aren't healed emotionally from a break up the relationship WILL fail, trust me. Everyone grieves in different ways and I don't really know you on a personal level so I can't tell you what exactly to do so I listed a few things I find helpful and perhaps you can try them. i agree with most everything, except for the "smokin' hot missing out" thing, because I dumped him. hahah. But the whole problem was that he was still hung up on his ex who's compeltely superficial, and I wouldn't wanna perpetuate that.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:08 pm
Hn...I remember you. You don't remember me.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:09 pm
Taeryyn My boyfriend and I broke up last week. It was a mutual agreement, and it was amicable. In fact, we still live together. Other breakups have been much less pleasant, of course. After a breakup, I try not to let myself sit around and dwell on it overly much (not always successfully), and try to go about my daily routine as usual. There's not much you can really do, aside from waiting it out. I initiated the break up, but it was pretty much mutual. I kept it clean, and there was no yelling. I just can't make him love me if he doesn't love me, y'know? So i gotta let him go be happy and try to be with the one that he loves. He and i are still cool though. i'm just hurt, y'know?
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:10 pm
I need a good night's sleep. I haven't slept great in a long time, not just cuz of the break up, I haven't had a good night's sleep in weeks. I love you mtg signature.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:11 pm
Lady Kayura Mother says the fastest way to get over one guy is to get under the next. Rebounds, while using someone are an effective way to handle loneliness after breaking up with someone.
After my last big break up, when I was lonely I gave myself two options, treat myself to a puppy or a video game. I went with the video game and I still carry my Pokewalker with me with my little Bunneary. When feeling lonely or sad, I played the game to distract myself until I realized what a d**k he was (and a moron) and got over him.
In short, be nice to yourself. Agreed, however, rebounds are an awful idea. Cuz to be honest, that's why I broke up with Nik, i felt like a rebound cuz he's still hung up on his ex, and couldn't get over him. i wouldn't wanna do that to someone else.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:13 pm
Onato I love you.. sweatdrop lol sleeping is great for break ups You haven't said anything to me directly, but lemme pull you in. How're you? Do you sleep for breakups?
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