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Posted: Tue Sep 04, 2012 10:12 pm
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I have been asked plenty of times before, "How do you know you are lesbian?" "How long have you known you like girls?" and maybe a few others, just can't think of them... So, I guess I just wanna know if I am alone in saying, I have known really for as long as I can remember, which is pretty much my whole life.
Personally, I have always liked girls, whether I consciously knew it or not. When I finally realized that hey, I like girls, I was too afraid to even admit it to anybody, but myself in secret. (And my best friend from my whole life, and the only reason she knew was because she helped me figure out.) I was actually ashamed of who I really was because of how I was raised, which was to be a perfect little Christian. Then I started looking up to this one person. Her name is Sandra Alva (Alvarenga) and she currently is the drummer for the band Modern Day Escape.
She is amazing at what she does, and she is lesbian herself. When I began looking up to her, I gained confidence in myself and who I was. Soon, I was able, and confident enough, to admit publicly that I myself am lesbian. In fact, I owe this person my life. She literally talked me out of killing myself, which to this day, I am still grateful. It has been eight months since she did, and I am so very very thankful for her. (I hope one day to meet her in person and thank her that way.)
This all leads to my second person. Were you always able to admit who you are, (meaning your sexuality, because that is part of who you are!) publicly? Or did it take something or someone to get you to the point where you were able to, and if yes, who?
Just gonna say this now, you don't have to tell me or anyone if you don't want to. I am just curious. Now, a recap of all the questions!
1.) How long have you known your sexuality? 2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? 3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? 4.) If yes, who?
And just remember, you don't have to answer these! In fact, if you want to answer only one of these questions, but not the other, that is fine too! Like I said, just curious about others out there! (And if anybody needs/wants advice, I am always free to give it. You can shoot me a pm, and when I am online, because I do have school, I will answer. biggrin )
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Posted: Tue Sep 04, 2012 10:32 pm
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1.) How long have you known your sexuality? It wasn't something I thought about until recently. I said before I would think "so and so is really pretty/handsome/sexy/cute" but just thought people be attractive to good looking people in general and nobody really questioned it.
2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? Online, sorta. Offline no, but I think people can sort of sense it and pick up hints or notice. Been called out my a group of girls at a mall once.
3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? Kind of.
4.) If yes, who All sorts of people. I didn't realize about pansexuality or demisexuality until I realized that I am attracted to people despite their gender expression and identity (should of guessed when I liked this one Japanese rock star, no matter if he was cross dressing or not. He looked cute either way) , but really need to have an emotional connection with them or know them first, or it wouldn't really have an sexual attraction.
I don't think my dad would have much of problem. He might think it is weird, but also says people should live the way they want and make their own choices and have the same rights as long it doesn't harm others. Not quite sure about my mom, but I think I been educating them both. smile
I don't know if I can bring myself to date girls out of fear and the fact that I don't seem to get along with many. I don't why, but other girls always seemed to pick on me and do cruel things. To be honest, I am scared about sex/sexual activities in general. :c
I think most people I know and talk to seem cool with it overall and cool with how I express myself at times (I am a bit more masculine due to excessive androgen's/testosterone and messed up female hormones).
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:22 am
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1.) How long have you known your sexuality? i believe since around elementary school. i had a crush on my best friend and always would want to spend time with him and hug him. i think i may have even managed to kiss him on the cheek in fourth year, back in the brazen days of youth, although i never really talked to him that much after that. never really knew if there was terminology for it. i believe that was....eight or nine years ago?
2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? not always.i maintained a deadly fear of doing so until around my junior and senior year of high school, where i developed a screw-it attitude about it all and joined the GSA, which i later became president of for a year's term. since then, i care little about who knows
3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? i guess it took me realizing that i shouldn't have to fear what people think. all things considering, in reality, i'm a pretty intimidating person to strangers and that works to my advantage. should people know, i doubt they'd have the guts to threaten a 6'3" guy
4.) If yes, who? i would have to say that my friends were a major part of me being okay with myself. they didn't really care who i was attracted to, and they gave me the idea to not assume that everyone is heterosexual. i actually go about the assumption that everyone is basely pansexual, and their focuses just simply narrow from there.
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 9:05 am
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PandaCub3 1.) How long have you known your sexuality? I think since I was in middle school- but that's because growing up being a gray asexual with bi-leanings meant for me that I wasn't that interested in sex to begin with so I just didn't notice.
Quote: 2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? I still don't admit it publicly- I've been beaten because someone thought I wasn't straight without even telling them so I don't feel safe to come out where I am to the general public.
Quote: 3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? I want to live in a world where no one has to be afraid of not being straight or cis- so I'm working to create that world.
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 10:15 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 1:10 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 1:26 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:26 pm
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Esiris PandaCub3 1.) How long have you known your sexuality? I think since I was in middle school- but that's because growing up being a gray asexual with bi-leanings meant for me that I wasn't that interested in sex to begin with so I just didn't notice. Quote: 2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? I still don't admit it publicly- I've been beaten because someone thought I wasn't straight without even telling them so I don't feel safe to come out where I am to the general public. Quote: 3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? I want to live in a world where no one has to be afraid of not being straight or cis- so I'm working to create that world.
It makes me sad to see that you don't feel safe to come out where you live. I have been in the same position actually. And eventually, I just came out, and found people more accepting than I ever thought they would be. But if you have been beaten up for it, when you had never admitted to it publicly, that is a serious issue. Things like that go unnoticed and unreported. And then people tell false stories of being beaten and such. This all in turn, leaves less credibility to those who have actually been beaten for it.
If you ever need to speak to someone face to face about anything, GSA's are a good place to go. And if you really feel like it, go to a therapist. I find speaking to a therapist very soothing and relaxing. It allows me to let out things I ordinarily keep hidden inside. I hope one day you feel safe enough to be you publicly. I believe everyone should be allowed to be themselves. As long as they aren't hurting others that is.
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:38 pm
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1.) How long have you known your sexuality? not too long ago, actually- i'm in highschool, and i knew i might be asexual for a bit. i just recently realized that yes, i am asexual-panromantic with homoromantic leanings at the end of middle school.
2.) Have you always been able to admit your sexuality publicly? uh, no. i did once, and i got weird looks. the other time i did, they thought i could asexually reproduce. that's teenagers for you. XD plus, i didn't even know what sexual attraction was- noone's willing to talk to teenagers about sexual attraction and all that. if they have, i was probably absent. :l but really, i also thought that everyone was sexually attracted to men or women (using gender binary because at the time i thought there was only two genders). later, when i realized that there are different genders and not everyone experiences sexual attraction, i started to consider the thought. i thought i was bisexual, then pansexual, then homosexual, and then asexual. that cycle repeated itself once more before i stayed on asexual.
3.) If no, did it take someone or something to allow you to feel able to do so? no, not really- it just sort of.. came out i guess.
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:45 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:49 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 5:52 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 6:53 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 11:56 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2012 8:52 am
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