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 Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 7:42 pm
I'm 17 years old, turning 18 next June. I graduated high school at 16 so I'm already in college and I look older than my age too, not by too much but college also makes me seem older. People have thought that I'm 21 or older before, too. I've kind of always been interested in older guys....
But anyways, I was wondering what age do you think would be too old for a 17 or even 18 year old to date or be interested in before it got too weird?
If you have the time and would like to help me with some other advice please message me because I feel uncomfortable talking about some things on here, no offense to any one in the guild, just I'm not sure how to feel about some things and I don't want to be judged too much.
But if you can answer this main question and don't feel like messaging me please answer on here. <3
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:29 pm
You are sensible to other people judgements. This is why you are asking '' when is it too old that it becomes weird''. My advice is to date when you like someone not because YOU never had a boyfriend and SHOULD date just because of that ! So, the answer is there is no age. Date when you love.
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:33 pm
XxAriaxX You are sensible to other people judgements. This is why you are asking '' when is it too old that it becomes weird''. My advice is to date when you like someone not because YOU never had a boyfriend and SHOULD date just because of that ! I have had boyfriends before, but I really like this one guy and he's a good amount older and I'm unsure if it'd be silly to go or it... He flirts with me but I don't think he knows how old I really am.
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:35 pm
KrisAnn BK XxAriaxX You are sensible to other people judgements. This is why you are asking '' when is it too old that it becomes weird''. My advice is to date when you like someone not because YOU never had a boyfriend and SHOULD date just because of that ! I have had boyfriends before, but I really like this one guy and he's a good amount older and I'm unsure if it'd be silly to go or it... He flirts with me but I don't think he knows how old I really am. ahh damn... I didn't read well your question .. This is what happens when I am on gaia late at night. uugghh okay wait a sec... I'll reply... after reading proooperly?
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:42 pm
XxAriaxX ahh damn... I didn't read well your question .. This is what happens when I am on gaia late at night. uugghh okay wait a sec... I'll reply... after reading proooperly? lol it's alrightt<3
I didn't explain much in my opening post anyways, just the main question. cat_xp
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:45 pm
Age gap in dating depends on everyone. If you love someone that is 10 years older, and he loves you too. You won't care about what other people say because you're happy...
Like when you're 18, it's legal for you to date anyone 18 +.
Since you like older men, that's not a prob XD...
Everyone has different opinions on age gap, some people might say he's too old, you're not in the same ''stage'' in life...
The general point of view I have (I chose the 10 years age gap because it's quite large for an example):
Like let's say a 28 old man already finished his studies, already working, and want to have kids, and you're 18, you are not ready for this. So, you and him are not a good match. That's the general problem I see with big age gap. It's the life objectives/goals is different. However, it is possible you can met a 28 old man that have the same objectives/goals than you in short term and long term.
My main point is :
When you know what you want in your life. when you know who you love, when you are happy. Weird, judgements, won't matter.
Because people will judge no matter what.
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Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2012 9:54 pm
Can I put my two cents in to finish college first. I quit college to get married and never went back.
If it's true love it doesn't matter.
But don't confuse love with a fantasy "father" figure or older brother figure. Destined to crash and burn.
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 7:19 am
Well, my father was 12 years older when my parents got married. I think that's a little to much of an age gap, but then again my mother is crazy and my father couldn't get out of it cause she was prego with me. >.>
I am in a relationship with a man who is 5 years older than me. I'm going to be going into college soon and I have many dreams and goals. He knows this. We have talked a lot about it and thankfully we are walking down a very similar road in life. If there's something I want to accomplish, he's right behind me doing everything he can to help me reach my goals. and I do all I can to help him reach his. It's a beautiful thing. 3nodding
I think that if you are both of the same maturity level, have similar plans for your life, and you get along well then it doesn't matter what your age is. If you are truly, madly, and deeply in love with them then it matters even less. wink
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2012 7:35 am
Truthfully, I'm of the opinion that it's not the age the matters; it's the maturity level. Though, at your age, dating an older man may cause some legal issues.
I've personally always preferred older men. I'm 22, and sure, I think other 22-year-olds are cute, but I really don't want something serious with a guy my age, considering most of which are still immature. (I still look about 15, so I get a plethora of those hitting on me.)
My youngest crush is admittedly 9 years my senior.
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 6:50 pm
I am currently in a 3 and a half year relationship with a man who is 12 years older then me. As you age, age begins to not matter as much. I have a limit, I would never date someone who was old enough to be my dad (Anyone older then 16 or so years older then me), but at the same time I never saw myself dating someone who is twelve years older then me. I am however, perfectly happy.
It's all about you; really. It's about the decision you make. It's all what you feel comfortable with and weather you care about the person well enough to give it a shot. If you don't feel comfortable dating someone who is 10 years older then you, the answer is simple; don't.
At least that's the way I look at it. But again, examine each decision on a person to person basis, because before I met my boyfriend I never thought I would consider dating someone this much older then me.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2012 9:29 am
Personally, I usually told myself, "Only 2 years older than myself I would date." and I stuck to that for a while. Later on, I met a guy, fell in love, and he was about 4 years older than me, but I loved him and he loved me so it didn't matter all that much to me.
When you're 17, I think it's a bit weird to go with anyone too much older, but maybe that's because I only dated guys 2 years older than myself at that point. When you're 18 and beyond it doesn't exactly matter to me unless the person someone is dating is like 20+ years older.
Although, if there is someone that somebody at 18 years or so loves that is 20+ years older - there is a lot of thinking to do and a lot of consideration because they need to calculate on if they want kids and how much older will their spouse be when their kid is an adult? Sometimes when there are those who are a lot older, it is possible that they have been married and divorced and possibly already have kids or need to pay child support. A person needs to determine if that bothers them or not. There's a lot of things, but if it works out - it works out.
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2012 3:53 pm
Your age divided by two plus seven.
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Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2012 7:44 pm
Alright, I'm currently dating a guy who is 5 years older than me.
The first time I met him I specifically told myself, "Don't you dare fall for him, he's too old for you..." I fell head over heels and my heart still skips beats when he laughs. whee
I am currently in a relationship I didn't ever expect to be in. I'm very surprised, but the thing is...I am quite mature for my age. I have found that most girls mature both mentally and physically faster than guys do.
When we talk, it isn't anything weird or awkward because we can both relate to each other.
The age question rarely pops up, but when it does we both remind ourselves that we have agreed to this and that we love each other wholeheartedly.
There is no doubt that I love him and he loves me. Therefore, I see no problem in a relationship similar to this.
I feel that whatever you decide, make sure you set up a bar like (5-10yrs older as the max)
And even if you do go over this standard, at least you will know what you were looking for...
quote me back if you need me to clarify anything emotion_c8
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Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2012 6:48 am
Honestly, I don't think that age matters too much. You are an adult and can make your own decisions. smile I know someone who is in their 20's, and she just got married to someone in their 40's. It's quite the age gap, but they're adorable and really adore each other. Now, I'm not saying that you should go out and date someone twenty years older than you -- I'm just saying that you shouldn't worry about age too overly much.
That being said, please be careful and use common sense. Many older guys like to use and take advantage of younger girls.
I'm sure you'll make a good decision.
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