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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2012 1:00 pm

I am in no way shape or form a professional baby sitter. I have not worked in any kind of kids area besides talking to them, so I have nothing to go on. I am babysitting my sister's kids for money until I get myself in school.

What should 4 year olds learn by now?
She doesn't know her ABC's, at all really. Unless she's pretending not to, which wouldn't be far from her. And she has problems listening and paying attention. Some kids are really good, others are not.

I babysit a 13 year old with rage issues
An 11 year old "diagnosed" with bipolar disorder and rage issues.
My blood niece number 1 whom is 10 and struggles with stuttering and EXTREME anxiety. It's slowly getting better, but even talking to her and catching her in lies she bawls. She literally sobbed over not having a certain thing for breakfast because she doesn't have good decision making skills. Well, almost no decision making skills at all.
And the 4 year old blood nieceis in all this chaos. She likes people reading to her, but my sister's husband is a dumbass and doesn't do anything for his kids honestly.

I don't like feeling like I am the parent and I even talked to my mom about it. I am willing to work with her, but I don't even get paid that much for this babysitting. I'm not allowed to ask for any more, either. Damn family, and mom blocking me for gouging my sister.

Any suggestions?

Posted: Fri Nov 09, 2012 11:31 pm

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I don't know.
Usually, when I have problems like this I would discuss it with my mom. It is good that you already did it.

However, have you thought of searching another job that could bring you more money than babysitting? Like cashier, waitress, host (...).

Because thoses kids the way you describe it they suffer from disorders and... it's not everyone that can deal with that. Professional babysitter for handicap children can take care of these kids (I don't know how it is called exactly).

I think your mom doesn't want you to ask more money, maybe because you're sister can't afford it ? Maybe it is rude to ask more money to ''family'', because we are supposed to help each other.

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Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2012 3:16 am

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I don't know.
Usually, when I have problems like this I would discuss it with my mom. It is good that you already did it.

However, have you thought of searching another job that could bring you more money than babysitting? Like cashier, waitress, host (...).

Because thoses kids the way you describe it they suffer from disorders and... it's not everyone that can deal with that. Professional babysitter for handicap children can take care of these kids (I don't know how it is called exactly).

I think your mom doesn't want you to ask more money, maybe because you're sister can't afford it ? Maybe it is rude to ask more money to ''family'', because we are supposed to help each other.

My sister makes $11 an hour and can't make it because her husband doesn't help her with the bills at all. So she continuously tries to guilt people by paying her bills, and yet she still does not have money and she doesn't pay people back either.

Even though family need a helping hand, there's a point where someone has to put the foot down.

I'm waiting until summer since the free CNA training program is only in those months. I'm trying to figure out with my life, so I have the time to babysit.

Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2012 6:52 am

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I don't know.
Usually, when I have problems like this I would discuss it with my mom. It is good that you already did it.

However, have you thought of searching another job that could bring you more money than babysitting? Like cashier, waitress, host (...).

Because thoses kids the way you describe it they suffer from disorders and... it's not everyone that can deal with that. Professional babysitter for handicap children can take care of these kids (I don't know how it is called exactly).

I think your mom doesn't want you to ask more money, maybe because you're sister can't afford it ? Maybe it is rude to ask more money to ''family'', because we are supposed to help each other.

My sister makes $11 an hour and can't make it because her husband doesn't help her with the bills at all. So she continuously tries to guilt people by paying her bills, and yet she still does not have money and she doesn't pay people back either.

Even though family need a helping hand, there's a point where someone has to put the foot down.

I'm waiting until summer since the free CNA training program is only in those months. I'm trying to figure out with my life, so I have the time to babysit.

Ah ok. So, you don't want to search for another job ?

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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 6:23 am

I would advise you to try to find another way to make money. It is not healthy for you or for those children for you to baby-sit them if you do not know how to deal with them. You could end up doing something unintentional and seemingly irrelevant that could make their "issues" worse, or they could damage your outlook on having children of your own. Also, it's a stressful job. I'm sure you have more important things to worry about than your nieces etc. Talk to your mom about it, and even though it might upset her, you should talk to your sister about it.

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