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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:39 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:50 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:52 am
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Dionnysia *huggles tightly* emotion_hug heart I think he could have been a little more tactful in what he said, especially if the two of you are as close as you claim to be. However, what was done was done and I think you should try to help yourself relax a little with something that you enjoy, some ice cream, a warm bath, a good book. Try to get some rest. Give it a day or two and try to talk to him again, and figure out where to go from there. Maybe he was just surprised by what you said and couldn't think of a better way to express that. I speak from experience, teenage guys can be real jerks at times and they are not always the most eloquent of people. What happened between you two may not be the end-all dealbreaker...it could just be a little bump in the road. Thank you crying I've just been not thinking things through. I don't know how to start a conversation with him though-I know I should let him simmer, it just saddens me that he lost his "image" of me.
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:56 am
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ninja feline Dionnysia *huggles tightly* emotion_hug heart I think he could have been a little more tactful in what he said, especially if the two of you are as close as you claim to be. However, what was done was done and I think you should try to help yourself relax a little with something that you enjoy, some ice cream, a warm bath, a good book. Try to get some rest. Give it a day or two and try to talk to him again, and figure out where to go from there. Maybe he was just surprised by what you said and couldn't think of a better way to express that. I speak from experience, teenage guys can be real jerks at times and they are not always the most eloquent of people. What happened between you two may not be the end-all dealbreaker...it could just be a little bump in the road. Thank you crying I've just been not thinking things through. I don't know how to start a conversation with him though-I know I should let him simmer, it just saddens me that he lost his "image" of me.
Aw...try not to think on assumptions. In moments, people can say stupid things that they don't mean. emotion_hug
I hope I'm helping...I'm really trying to... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:57 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:59 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 3:00 am
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Dionnysia ninja feline Dionnysia *huggles tightly* emotion_hug heart I think he could have been a little more tactful in what he said, especially if the two of you are as close as you claim to be. However, what was done was done and I think you should try to help yourself relax a little with something that you enjoy, some ice cream, a warm bath, a good book. Try to get some rest. Give it a day or two and try to talk to him again, and figure out where to go from there. Maybe he was just surprised by what you said and couldn't think of a better way to express that. I speak from experience, teenage guys can be real jerks at times and they are not always the most eloquent of people. What happened between you two may not be the end-all dealbreaker...it could just be a little bump in the road. Thank you crying I've just been not thinking things through. I don't know how to start a conversation with him though-I know I should let him simmer, it just saddens me that he lost his "image" of me. Aw...try not to think on assumptions. In moments, people can say stupid things that they don't mean. emotion_hug I hope I'm helping...I'm really trying to... sweatdrop You have been very helpful, my mind has been eased a little. Thank for your advice
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 3:44 am
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ninja feline So...my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and it became a long distance relationship not too long ago. We've both been through a lot together that's why we haven't given up on each other. Although today he really hurt my feelings. He is Catholic and I am not, and I invited him to spend "Christmas" with my family, we were going to do a pagan ritual and fast, which he knew nothing about. So I made the a small joke saying we give our blood or something, shortly followed by the real explanation. cry This really upset him and I apologized many times. He responded with "I love you but sometimes I feel that you're not smart enough for me; You've ruined my image of you-I guess it's my fault for thinking so highly of you" cry I've been trying to sleep but my eyes keep tearing-I know I made that mistake, but my heart is shattered and I can't sleep. I've not spoken to him since.
In my opinion, I think just give him his space let him think about what he said and I'm sure he'll realize what he said was hurtful. In the mean time just focus on you for a bit, and when he does come around explain that it was only a joke and didn't think it would be taken so harshly and tell him he shouldn't have attacked and said those hurtful things. I know it'll be hard to just wait a while but if you keep poking at him it may drive him further away. Besides youve been together this long adding in a long distance relationship, just have faith everything will be okay. c:
I hope this helps a little
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 1:40 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:28 pm
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ninja feline He keeps texting me...I don't feel like talking to him though-now he thinks I broke up with him...which I didn't but I think he is trying to get me to text him...
I know I'm lacking all sorts of information here and can only go by what you tell us but... THIS:
Quote: "I love you but sometimes I feel that you're not smart enough for me; You've ruined my image of you-I guess it's my fault for thinking so highly of you"
To the other guild members commenting: Am I the only one really seeing what he's saying here? Has nobody else caught on that he called her "stupid" to her face!?
How the hell can he say that and you still want to be with him is beyond my ability to understand. Girl, did you not get he called you "stupid" to your face!?
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Ok, so the joke backfired a bit but seriously, any man who says this to you is not a man you want to be with... hell, he's not a man, he's just a guy.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
You deserve someone who accepts you for what you are, even i they can't really grasp the concepts of the religion you practice... and if your religion is such a problem for him, why didn't he just leave you the hell alone so you could find someone worthy of your love?
*deep breath*
I may be overreacting a bit, but this is triggering for me... maybe it's better for everyone if I just STFU and leave the thread now that I've said my piece - or a fraction of it anyway.
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:31 pm
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He shouldn't have said that. Honestly, it was just a joke. He shouldn't have taken it so personally, and he sure as hell has no tact if he said that to you. So what if he's catholic? If he really loved you, he would understand a little joke, even if it went against his religion.
Just the way that he said that though, "I love you, but sometimes I feel you're not smart enough for me;" <--- That whole thing. I'm sorry, but he needs to learn a lesson. I think that you should take as much time as you need, because if you love him that much, and he said that to you, he's not right for you.
With the whole texting thing, just explain that he really hurt your feelings, and that you don't want to talk to him for a while. His words were harsh, and you need time to heal. Turn off your phone, kick back, drink some tea... Do whatever you need to do to feel better, because honestly, you were pretty innocent in that situation. He's the one who couldn't take a little joke. (Also Gigi is right.)
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2012 12:38 am
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Gigi Deveraux ninja feline He keeps texting me...I don't feel like talking to him though-now he thinks I broke up with him...which I didn't but I think he is trying to get me to text him... I know I'm lacking all sorts of information here and can only go by what you tell us but... THIS: Quote: "I love you but sometimes I feel that you're not smart enough for me; You've ruined my image of you-I guess it's my fault for thinking so highly of you" To the other guild members commenting: Am I the only one really seeing what he's saying here? Has nobody else caught on that he called her "stupid" to her face!?How the hell can he say that and you still want to be with him is beyond my ability to understand. Girl, did you not get he called you "stupid" to your face!? YOU DESERVE BETTER. Ok, so the joke backfired a bit but seriously, any man who says this to you is not a man you want to be with... hell, he's not a man, he's just a guy. YOU DESERVE BETTER. You deserve someone who accepts you for what you are, even i they can't really grasp the concepts of the religion you practice... and if your religion is such a problem for him, why didn't he just leave you the hell alone so you could find someone worthy of your love? *deep breath* I may be overreacting a bit, but this is triggering for me... maybe it's better for everyone if I just STFU and leave the thread now that I've said my piece - or a fraction of it anyway.
Oh this. I don't think there was anything inappropriate about your joke, just from what you posted before. I guess there might be something I don't know that would make it different, but hey. He knew you were of a different religion, right? If he can't handle you making a joke about your OWN religion based on a stereotype people hold of it, then he should have thought of that before.
You weren't wrong to ask him to come experience your rituals as you've participated in his. It sounds like he's not showing you the respect you deserve, especially by telling you that you aren't smart enough for him.
It doesn't mean he is a bad person or anything, it just means that maybe there's a better relationship out there for you than this one.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2012 1:12 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2012 5:47 pm
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