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 Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2013 11:16 pm
My mom is going through two major surgeries, hysterectomy and a hernia in Feb both got canceled earlier this month now they have rescheduled her. I'm just worried as she hasn't been feeling well. I'm going to spend the 8 weeks at her house after the surgery helping her. My 18 month old niece and little sister live with her so i'm helping with that too, I gave her my spare 16gb mp3 player and put the music she requested on it so she can focus on that and not the pain after the surgery. I'm going to take my cat to her house too. Won't Sadie-girl have a great time. scream I'm sacrificing a LOT of my time to help her so the doctors better not cancel these this time scream
yes I copied from my earlier thread. sweatdrop
BUT What can i do to help give her support and make her comfortable after her surgery? I'm not really sure what to say and do? I know ill do a lot of house cleaning for her while she is in the hospital so she has as a nice clean house to come home to; not that it isn't clean. I'm just talking about straightening up dusting maybe and any other little things...
Anything else I can probably do to help her?
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2013 11:42 pm
♥ As someone who looks after her parent day after day, there are a few little things I can suggest:
- Lend an ear. She may want someone to talk to about how she feels after the surgery, so sit down and ask her how she is going and just listen.
- If she likes to read, buy her some novels, magazines, etc. with uplifting stories to read whilst she is recovering. Same thing with movies.
- To add onto housekeeping: do laundry, offer to buy groceries, cook her favourite meals and so forth. The little things go a long way.
I hope this helps! <3
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Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2013 1:44 am
That helps a ton! I think her I will buy her a daily devotional, listening is a great idea as I am usually very busy. So I'll make a set time to "talk" with her and "Listen" I'm not much of a cook but I'll have a go at it. sweatdrop I know she likes french toast with ketchup.... I'll have to look up how to make french toast it should be easy. I shall do the laundry... as it never stops lol
Thanks so much.
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 6:51 pm
Best thing to do if you are going to be there with her after surgery is speak with the surgeon or nurse and ask them what she should do post op. I'm sure they will give her instructions pre and post surgery for her to follow. Ask them for a phone number where they may be reached so if you have any concerns or questions you can call them. If your mother is not well, they will reschedule her for the sake of her health.
I'm sure you'll do great caring for her! heart whee
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 7:45 pm
Aside from what the other girls have mentioned. MOVIES! Seriously, my Mum had a full hysterectomy and became a move junkie. Everything from kids movies to adult rom-coms and dramas. My little brother bore the brunt of it, he's 13, he even taught her how to play puzzle games on a PSP. Your Mum might sleep a lot more than she normally does too. The recovery from major surgery leaves a patient really drowsy for quite a while - that's the thing that really knocked my Mum around, she didn't have all that much pain.
Like the other's have said, just do your best to be there for her. And on a side note, if it's full hysterectomy, be prepared for mood-swings. It unbalances the hormones - especially if both ovaries are removed. Depending on the type of surgery, open or key hole (my mother was lucky enough to have a successful key hole surgery) her recovery period might take a while, even with key hole, my mother took about 8 weeks to come right.
If she can, a couple of weeks or so after the surgery get her moving on a short 5-10 minute walk each day and extend them as she begins to feel better- (first though, check with her surgeon and that sort of thing is ok, you mentioned a hernia op as well as the hysterectomy one). Go with her. Don't go too far, as she'll probably be really tired and lethargic, but getting fresh air and beginning to regain/maintain fitness is vital to both her sanity, and yours. As it will give her a sense of independence.
Hang in there! Its awesome that you're going to help out - I couldn't do much being that they didn't tell me about the opp my Mum got until I got home from exams/University (sneaky parents are sneaky) about two weeks after it happened, but those are some of the things I did with Mum in her post-op recovery.
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 9:55 pm
Thanks so much you girls for the advice. I'm doing research to see if she can go up stairs after the surgery, as the bathrooms are not on the level floor. One is on the top floor and one in the basement. Her room is upstairs too and while it is winter I'll see what i can do about fresh air.
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 10:28 pm
♥ You're welcome! I'm glad it helped you and gave you some new ideas.
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 5:25 pm
heya girls my mom is doing great from the surgery! I have done all of your suggestions so things are really going well! My mom has been up and walking on the treadmill up/down the stairs (the stairs are recent so thanks again for all of your great ideas I really appreciate all of your help.)
(∩_∩) [Happy]
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Posted: Sat Mar 16, 2013 10:10 am
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