How should I feel?

[o0Roxy0o]

I dated my ex for an entire year and whatnot. I managed to move on quickly, because
I knew if I didn't that I'd keep running back to him.


Anyway, I'm starting to think of him more and more. I don't miss him, I just miss how
much he loved me.
emotion_0A0

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno  

[Ittarius]

It's natural to want to be loved. It sounds to me that you just feel alone. So, I would suggest that you look for another relationship, if you don't want to date your ex anymore.  

[o0Roxy0o]

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

 

[o0Roxy0o]

Ittarius

It's natural to want to be loved. It sounds to me that you just feel alone. So, I would suggest that you look for another relationship, if you don't want to date your ex anymore.

I have moved on already, but I'm starting to wonder if this new guy is only a rebound?
I feel bad being with someone and thinking of someone else. Maybe it's because
my ex was the only guy I ever had sex with, so there will always be that emotional
bond. Oh and I was so comfortable with my ex and now I actually got to put in an
effort with this new guy.
emotion_0A0

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

combination, maybe. how has he been treating you? like a normal person? nicely unless friends are around? has he been trying to get to know you, so that he might surprise you later?  

[o0Roxy0o]

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

combination, maybe. how has he been treating you? like a normal person? nicely unless friends are around? has he been trying to get to know you, so that he might surprise you later?

The whole reason I left my ex is because I felt too tied down with him. His whole
life revolved around me and he only wanted to be around me.

So I guess being with this new guy, even though he treats me rather well, it's
just weird not being his center of attention. Slowly but surely I'm seeing his faults.
Like for example, he never thinks of the consequences before he does something.

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

combination, maybe. how has he been treating you? like a normal person? nicely unless friends are around? has he been trying to get to know you, so that he might surprise you later?

The whole reason I left my ex is because I felt too tied down with him. His whole
life revolved around me and he only wanted to be around me.

So I guess being with this new guy, even though he treats me rather well, it's
just weird not being his center of attention. Slowly but surely I'm seeing his faults.
Like for example, he never thinks of the consequences before he does something.

so his not being 100% you is something you will get used to. the fact that he's an act-first-think-later kind of person might end well, might not. i can only say wait and see for that
and just remember that nobody's perfect~  

[o0Roxy0o]

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

combination, maybe. how has he been treating you? like a normal person? nicely unless friends are around? has he been trying to get to know you, so that he might surprise you later?

The whole reason I left my ex is because I felt too tied down with him. His whole
life revolved around me and he only wanted to be around me.

So I guess being with this new guy, even though he treats me rather well, it's
just weird not being his center of attention. Slowly but surely I'm seeing his faults.
Like for example, he never thinks of the consequences before he does something.

so his not being 100% you is something you will get used to. the fact that he's an act-first-think-later kind of person might end well, might not. i can only say wait and see for that
and just remember that nobody's perfect~

I feel so much better already. emotion_hug
Thank you.
emotion_bigheart

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

o0Roxy0o

Kitalpha Hart

having never being in a relationship, i can say with great authority that it's normal. as time goes on, your mind remembers the good stuff, but not the meh stuff and the bad stuff
like that with anything, really
i never understand why people that are always single always have the ones in relationships turning to them for advice. maybe cuz they're more clear-headed on such things? dunno

I think you're right. I guess I have forgotten all the negatives of that relationship.
Or do you think it might be because I'm not being treated as well with the new guy
I'm with?

combination, maybe. how has he been treating you? like a normal person? nicely unless friends are around? has he been trying to get to know you, so that he might surprise you later?

The whole reason I left my ex is because I felt too tied down with him. His whole
life revolved around me and he only wanted to be around me.

So I guess being with this new guy, even though he treats me rather well, it's
just weird not being his center of attention. Slowly but surely I'm seeing his faults.
Like for example, he never thinks of the consequences before he does something.

so his not being 100% you is something you will get used to. the fact that he's an act-first-think-later kind of person might end well, might not. i can only say wait and see for that
and just remember that nobody's perfect~

I feel so much better already. emotion_hug
Thank you.
emotion_bigheart

welcome~  

[Ittarius]

o0Roxy0o

Ittarius

It's natural to want to be loved. It sounds to me that you just feel alone. So, I would suggest that you look for another relationship, if you don't want to date your ex anymore.

I have moved on already, but I'm starting to wonder if this new guy is only a rebound?
I feel bad being with someone and thinking of someone else. Maybe it's because
my ex was the only guy I ever had sex with, so there will always be that emotional
bond. Oh and I was so comfortable with my ex and now I actually got to put in an
effort with this new guy.
emotion_0A0

Trying can be very difficult when you're used to not having to. I'm like that, too- but every relationship starts out like that. You can't just be totally at ease, perfect relationship right off; it takes work. Now, whether that work will pay off, I can't say, but you have to at least give it a go.

You shouldn't feel bad about thinking about your ex, though. He was a significant person for you, and his role in your life made an impact on you that can never really be reversed. But when you have, like you said, an emotional bond with someone, it can be really hard to break them from your system, even if you have moved on; it's really hard to forget someone so you shouldn't worry about it. Everyone thinks of someone else from time to time.  

[the mage-girl]

Sweetie, when you have those thoughts about your ex, I want you to tell yourself something:

"We broke up for a reason."

It is easy to forget pain once it's passed. How do you think women can have babies multiple times? wink

I wonder if your current boyfriend isn't necessarily treating you worse than your ex, just differently.

However, if they are not treating you as a lovable person with value, you may want to take a hard look at the relationship. If you do, I urge you to take a break before moving on again.

Take care.