My boyfriend has horrible anger issues.. But when her gets mad he aims it RIGHT at me.. He has said some HORRIBLE things to me. He told me to go cut myself and cry. He's called my crying waterworks. I don't know what to do. I love him with all his heart, and an hour after he says something he will try to be sweet. Every little thing he says, it sticks. And he gets mad when I mention/bring it up again. I bring it up because it hurts so bad. I feel like he's verbally abusing me. And we're online. we're 5 hours apart and I planned on making a trip there soon. But I'm scared that words will turn into physically hurting me. I just need help.. pronto.
Posted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 5:15 pm
Sounds like abuse. Leave him while you can otherwise something far worst can happen.
Leave him before it becomes physical abuse Love or no, he's bad for ya
Posted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 7:12 pm
Hey is verbally abusing you. It's a common tactic to abuse the victim before trying to reel them back in with fake kindness. t's a vicious cycle tbh and the fact that you RECOGNIZE he's being terrible to you should be enough for yo to separate from him. Since he's already this terrible ONLINE imagine what he'll do to you WHEN YOU SEE HIM. That's just a dangerous situation waiting to happen...
Dump his sorry a** and
EDIT: I feel like I should've also mentioned that you should definitely tell someone you really trust about all this as well like your best friend or your parents or a priest idk.
Dump him before you meet with him and it becomes physical abuse.
If you think his issues could be resolved by getting help, try to get him the help he needs without going to see him. Then perhaps if you see that he is stable then you make the trip to visit.
Though it sounds like you should avoid the abusive situation and leave.
Posted: Mon Feb 24, 2014 4:25 pm
You don't want to get yourself into a situation that will eternally scar you. If he's verbally abusing you, it can easily turn to physical. There are other people out there, but someone who has the very real potential of hurting you is NOT worth your time.
I also suggest you look into a restraining order, just in case.
Posted: Mon Feb 24, 2014 10:21 pm
First and Foremost, Break up with him Second, If it gets too extreme, get a restraining order Third, you'll need a lot of emotional support from friends and family
I really feel for you, I've got a friend who is in a similar situation but the only problem is that they live in the same town and see each other almost everyday.
He is awful to her, constantly verbally abusing her, forcing her to do thing that she doesn't want to do, makes her buy him drugs and some times she is scared to see him, but she has to cause other wise he gets even worse with her and she is scared that he may physically hurt her one day.
I have been brought to tears at how he treats her and although she knows that the way he treats her is wrong she doesn't want to leave him.
I can see her spiraling downwards and there is nothing anyone can do to help anymore. I would hate to think that other people have to go through the same thing, so I would advise to try and see other people. I know it's easier said than done but it is for the greater good.
Good luck and I hope you find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated!
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