Welcome to Gaia! ::

That alot of things a girl can do is considered wrong, but guys can get away with it like if a girls sleeps around she's a whore but a guy is a boss. If a girl is assertive 'pushing' to get what she wants she's a b***h. But a guy is considered a badass.

Oh and the periods, the whole being so emotional deal, and pregnancy thing surprised
even though I've never had kids ~

The double standards. The periods. The social-media standard that society expects everyone to live up to.

The double standards, the periods, the worry that you're gonna MISS your period, the weight gain, the inevitable emotions, and how insecure I get.

I've done my best to appreciate being a woman in this world. I used to find so much negative stuff about it and would say, "I hate being a girl. I wouldn't change my gender, but wow - some of the stuff we put up with."

I used to hate being a girl because:

-I didn't feel that I was always taken seriously because the society I have been exposed to was often times male dominated.

-I hated that I had that time of the month to deal with because it could happen anywhere at anytime and guys would sometimes make fun of it like if a girl said she had cramps they'd imitate a whiny voice and say, "Ow! The cramps!" I mean, they don't even know!

-For a while it seemed like every time I dated a guy - it was only because they wanted to get into my pants.

-I hated the fact that guys could get a girl pregnant with one little swimmer and we'd be stuck with the burden of carrying the baby for 9 months.

-I didn't enjoy the mindsets of those who think that a woman's only duty in life is to have children, clean house, cook, and take care of everybody.

-I hated that it was stereotyped that the bride's family generally pays for the wedding when the man only pays for the rock to put on her finger - no matter how much the cost of it.

-I hated the whole, "Girls love pink and guys love blue," because that isn't always true. I love a lot of different colors and pink is my least favorite! I'd end up getting birthday gifts that were mainly colored pink and would get a bit annoyed, but had a hard time not appreciating gifts that people were happy to give me.

-I absolutely hate the, "She's a girl - she can't say no to a diamond!" Oh yes, I can say no! I don't really wear jewelry because it's a pain to keep up with, sometimes I forget to put it on and if I do wear jewelry - I don't like getting hassled if it doesn't match my outfit.

-I always hated how it was girls that got played because we would truly fall in love with somebody and the whole time a guy would pretend that they loved the girl. We were often too blind to see it because we could see the good in them.

However, this is what I have learned about loving to be a woman...

-There are people in this world who will take me seriously and sometimes women are even more of an inspiration when they fight for what they believe in because they want to be heard, know they deserve to be heard, and strive to wits end to fight for what is right.

-Having a period isn't all that bad. If you don't want to go out or hang out with somebody that may be obnoxious - you can just say, "I'm not feeling too well today," and sit around and watch movies biggrin

-Not every single guy dated me to get into my pants. There was that one guy that I ended up married and even in marriage - it isn't all about the sex. There's so much more than that! I was grateful to run into a guy that didn't try to get into my pants just so he could say, "I did it with her!" and leave.

-The miracle of life is a wonderful thing. It truly is amazing that we are capable of carrying a child for 9 months as well as producing food for the baby.

-Not every guy out there believes that a woman's only duties are to have children, clean house, cook, and take care of everybody. There are guys out there that want to be able to contribute as much as a woman does.

-After looking at prices of wedding rings, rings can be expensive and cost more than the wedding itself depending on the guy's budget. I remember getting married, and my husband and I both pitched in our own funds to pay for our wedding, and we had some help moneywise from both sides of the family.

-I'm usually grateful for whatever gift I receive as long as it doesn't have a bad intention to it, and after a while didn't care what color it was. I can look past the physical appearance of the gift and dive deeper to see what it meant from the person that gave it to me. Gifts can have strong meanings if someone put love and care into that gift.

-If I ever receive jewelry, I could eventually sell it, give it to somebody who would wear it more than I would, or keep it around and hope there's a use for it one day. I usually tell people at times around meeting them that I'm not much of a jewelry person and if they get me jewelry for a gift, not to expect me to even remember to wear it an awful lot. I do my best to feel good with the way I dress and what I choose to wear and choose not to wear. I don't get hassled for not wearing jewelry and even if I do wear jewelry that doesn't match and someone asks me about it, I just usually say that it carries a significant meaning for me and holds a special place in my heart.

-In my life, I have talked to other guys as friends, and found out it's not only girls that get played badly. There are many stories I have heard of guys being badly played as well. Both genders can get played and many times - it's downright ugly and hurtful. Not only girls get fooled into being played, but guys, too. After dating a couple guys that were players - I was able to spot how they act after that. Certain things they do and certain lines they use can tell a girl a lot.

I don't like the double standards, but this one I hate the most:

If a girl calls a lot, always wants to check up on her boyfriend: she's clingy
If a guy does that: He's amazing, caring, and supportive.

Also, girls in news media being the standard for all girls to follow. At times we're expected to act like them, admire them, look like them, and have the same life goals as them. Not all of us want to be Taylor Swifts, Selena Gomezes, Jennifer Lawrences, or whoever else the heck is popular. This also goes for fictional female characters in books and movies where if the situation were in reality, would not look beautiful all the time, have a composed mind, and would actually be quite messy looking and batshit insane. But I digress.

My biggest pet peeve: People assuming that I, one unique snowflake in a snowdrift of other unique flakes, am the stupid, gaga-eyed bubblegum-bubble-headed love-obsessed teenage girl that likes all of the things girls my age are 'supposed' to like. Who are you to say that we're supposed to like these things that music, film, television, and other media conglomerates churn out constantly just to be bought by us (or our parents)? Why should girls be obligated to like it just because it was built to cater to that audience? I am not a predictable sheep!

One of the rudest things a boy has ever said to me was 'Why don't you like music that girls are supposed to like, like pop and Jonas Brothers and all that stuff? Why do you like metal?' (This was before Justin Bieber was a star, and actually, the music I was listening to at the time wasn't metal). I mean, what the actual ********>

Holy crud. I never thought about that before, but dang you're right!
That makes me pretty peeved too.

I don't know if I could pick just one... sweatdrop

Currently, what I hate most about it is how girls are expected to style their hair when they have to look nice, but guys don't really have to do anything. My hair is difficult for some reason and I suck at styling it.

Another thing is how it's socially acceptable for guys to have body hair, but it isn't for girls...Even though girls have varying amounts of body hair too and it didn't used to be an issue in the past. Don't get me wrong, I am absolutely for shaving legs and armpits, but I think it's ridiculous that some guys/girls expect girls to be absolutely hairless except for the hair on their head and their eyebrows.

Well...Okay, I guess it can be boiled down to women are expected to put so much work into their bodies, but men aren't. 3nodding

Everything,