How old were you when you knew you were Different?

[Fee blanche]

Fee blanche

I guess I was always subconsciously gay and I only just figured it out.
But I always knew I was asexual, I made a pledge to my friend in 4th grade that I would never have sex x)
She then told me that was impossible.

Update: I'm leaning towards being queergender now, but I'm still asexual, and romantically attracted to girls.

 

[Hotty-Chans-Yaoi]

( Original Poster; I hope you know that Transsexual means someone who has undergone the surgery/hormone treatment. Transgender is the correct word for someone who is usually just discovering these things and has had no bodily modifications yet. )

I discovered Asexuality when I was about thirteen, realized. Yeah I've had sex three times in my life (not all of it a good idea), and I was just like... None of it was great, genitals look disgusting, I don't wanna bang anyone, this is the term for me!
I learned about Non-Binary Trans*gender people when I was entering my sophmore year in Highschool, I realized. " Wow..... Yeah I really DON'T like being a girl. They/Them pronouns feel so good! Wow I being called Handsome is nice. I feel like wearing a dress, I feel like dressing like a skater boy, I feel like wearing a big jacket all day. Gender isn't stationary? It can be FLUID WHAAAT? " So heck yeah. I got all up in that stuff, been Genderfluid for 2 years and Asexual for almost five.
 

[Almost Blue]

I've always been the androgynous type~ Even as a child people would constantly ask me what gender I was.. lol
I don't really have that problem anymore really, since I wear so much eye make-up, and have long hair, and long painted nails.. people just assume I'm a woman sometimes without even asking now. (IT'S A TRAP!)
I'm to the point now where my 'type' of people, who I can comfortably be around happens to be drag queens, but I don't want to be a female, /or/ a drag queen, i'm happy being this fabulous, androgynous trap.
I act like more of a proper Lady than most women I know, and I rock a pair of heeled ankle boots like no other~  

[Dark_Contortion]

I've known ever since I was born, but I did some background research when I was 11 to be sure. So I guess 11, since I was much more educated.  

[DragonSlayer Arcos]

I know something was off when I was younger, but in high school I went through that "I can't be gay, maybe bi, but not gay" situation. I had a couple girl friends in high school, but never got intimate (phew) and in college is when I finally accepted my sexuality. Since then I have felt so much more comfortable in my own skin and am a lot happier. Met some awesome people, dated some great guys, and learned to accept people for who and what they are.

To the people that are against sex....how/why?? I am not judging anyone, just curious on why you view it with distaste, and yes I know some people are hardwired to be in that mindset while others choose to be, I am just looking for some facts and opinions.

And forgive me if this is inappropriate but...a man's junk is beautiful and awesome! emotion_dowant  

[KarenGreen]

I think I started noticing that I didn't quite feel like a boy inside when I was like 6. So early. Too early, in fact. I didn't even want to reveal it to my parents. I remember my curiosity, stealing certain articles of clothing from my cousins and trying them on, loving the feel of the cloth against me. I felt jealous for my uncle having long hair, and I wanted that to, but I couldn't because I was too young and my mother wouldn't let me have long hair. I remember raiding my aunt's makeup box and using blushes and lipsticks, perfumes and lipliners. All this when I was very young. It wasn't until after I left my parents that I got a chance to do more on my own, like shop for my own clothes, even though they (for the most part) were kept at home. So yes, I think it was around 6.  

[PixiecuTT]

I was 18 or 19, I think? I'm 27 now, for the record. It's strange, it's not like I wasn't aware of other sexualities, since one of my best friends was queer, and I was interested in gay rights. I wrote a term paper in high school on marriage equality. It just never occurred to me that I wasn't straight. I hadn't really had any intense feelings for anyone, boy or girl, until university, and then WHAM, I fell head over heels in love with a girl. Complete shock to the system. I realized I'd never really felt attracted to any guys, so I jumped to the conclusion that I must be a lesbian, and I identified that way for a few years until I fell just as hard for a guy. That was fun. razz Most people seem to get this confusion stuff out of the way a lot earlier, haha.  

[Sea Thrift]

Hotty-Chans-Yaoi

( Original Poster; I hope you know that Transsexual means someone who has undergone the surgery/hormone treatment. Transgender is the correct word for someone who is usually just discovering these things and has had no bodily modifications yet. )

I would have to disagree with your interpretation of transgender and transsexual, Hotty. Transgender is used widely as an umbrella term which includes transsexual, agender, bigender, neutrois, and genderqueer individuals. For example, I am genderqueer, which also makes me transgender—but in no way means I will become transsexual in the future, let alone have any surgery done. As well, there are many transsexuals who have not undergone surgery or HRT—and they are no less transsexual than those who have been able to take those steps in their transitioning processes.

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Anyway, when did I know I was transgender? I didn't discover I was trans until fairly recently. After a pretty complicated past, coming to terms with my gender had always been a struggle; worse, I never believed I could actually question my assigned gender. I just thought—this is what I am, so I have to fulfill that role. If I fail, I have to try again. And if I fail, there's obviously something wrong with me.

Needless to say, that cycle became worse and worse until I made a big decision to step away from it and really think on who—and what—I was. That was earlier this year.

As a child, though, I never questioned my gender.

I discovered my sexuality in high school, but never truly accepted nor understood its complexities until years later. If we want to use specific labels here, I am a panromantic demisexual. However, I most prefer an asexual partner than someone of another sexuality (even the same as my own).  

[chochocobo]

I've known I was "different" from a somehwt fairly young age. xD

When I was younger, way before kindergarten, I would always put shirts on my head and pretend I was a girl. I would always use my mom's heals when I was around her. But not just that, I felt a lot different towards guys and girls. I've known the majority of my life that I was gay.  

[FrostedVenom]

I knew i had a strong preference for girls ever since I was about 9. But around when i was 13 i discovered that i had a preference for transgendered girls as well. I'm a very open minded guy so it didn't bother me at all. The only inner battle i had was am i straight or am i bisexual? I didn't really matter which after about a year, i just decided not to label myself.  

[Thergothon]

I remember in elementary school I would tend to hang out with guys that were cuter. However, that is merely a retrospective epiphany, since the moment I realized I was bisexual came a lot later.

I think I was 14 years old. I was still getting used to the changes going on with my body, which had to start happening on top of all of the blah blah blah at school and I also had just started to explore the internet. It's because of the internet that I definitively found out what I like in guys. Around the same time, I watched a lot of anime on Toonami on Cartoon Network including Dragonball Z but also Yu Yu Hakusho, Rurouni Kenshin, Blue Submarine No. 6, Sailor Moon. Lots of male characters and female characters alike had very attractive clavicles, necks, shoulders, jawlines, cheeks... heart

Some years later, I think I was around 18 years old then, I came out openly. Publicly. On Myspace. Then I got a lot of friend requests from guys I never met before... o.o so when I joined Facebook I never told anyone I was bi or joined any LGBT groups right away.

I wouldn't say I'm "closeted" bisexual, just I never really get to tell people that often and I'm socially awkward. I haven't been to a gay bar, though I would like to one day.  

[Dikran The Communist]

I found out when I was 15, when I got my first boyfriend. We broke up when I joined the navy three years later. I am closeted Bi.  

[Rezal_Zioun]

I was 14. I was online on the old aol chat rooms and cyber-ed with this "girl" 2 or 3 different times that week. Then he said I got a confession I am a guy. I just felt ok with it, and he ask if i was up for another session. I said sure and then did a guy on guy roll play. I remembered it was the best one of them all and when I finished I remembered thinking am I gay now? Then started looking at gay porn and by the end of the week I remembered thinking yes, yes i am. Give it a few years and i started like girls also and settled comfortably into the bi category.  

[loonaboots]

well, when i was in 4th, 5th grade maybe? people started talking about crushes. oh dear lord, that was awkward.

long story short, not much of an interest, i just wanted to read and be left alone, kinda. (i wasn't all that popular, was bullied, yadda yadda.) and everyone else was, so i was wondering why i wasn't at all, was it because i wasn't friends with them, etc. etc.

so then in middle school, hormones start kicking in, still barely nothing. like, where's the magical boy crazy or girl crazy thing coming in? nothing. so naturally, i thought that was really odd, and then google came into the picture. so i googled stuff for a day, gave up on that for a while.

i ended up developing a small crush that year (6th), so i figured heey looks like it's not all nuts after all.

then, in 8th, google came back in the picture again, discovered AVEN, had an epiphany thing, and then came the whole flip of "am i sure i'm this???" and so on. by that time i knew i probably wasn't straight, but i knew i would date a guy. so, not gay, but otherwise nothing.

and then i woke up one day, went on with everything, and realized in the middle of the day that i hadn't really cared for a long time. (as in, a month or maybe 2.)

so basically, i had went from "omgomg what is it i'm so lost and confused" to "LOL SCREW THIS MAN" somewhere along the line. with very little transition to "lol screw it."

so i don't really identify as anything? if i had to pick, i'd probably say like, any equivalent of X, as that's what i consistently match up with on quizzes and such. (x= nonsexual, on kinsey thing. there's other tests, which i've taken in extreme boredom situations, pretty much the same thing).

but yeah, i used to identify as ace-panromantic, and now i don't identify as anything. however, i know i'm not straight so that's one thing?
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