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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
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Posted: Fri Aug 06, 2021 6:56 pm
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
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Posted: Fri Aug 06, 2021 6:56 pm
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
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Posted: Fri Aug 06, 2021 6:56 pm
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
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Posted: Fri Aug 06, 2021 6:56 pm
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
“Autistic person here.”
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
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Posted: Fri Aug 06, 2021 6:56 pm
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could tell he was getting uncomfortable and was on the verge of a meltdown so I told him he didn’t have to and he could go hang out with his bf or his cousins who were outside and he scurried out of there faster.”
“My MIL said that he was being rude and that I undermined her and shouldn’t have let him disrespect her like that and my wife agreed that I should have tried to at least give her a hug. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
A majority of Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in the situation.
“NTA. Your MIL and your wife are flat-out wrong.” – MaggieLuisa
“Don’t forget it was the kid’s first time in meting mil even I would not want to kiss and cuddle anyone I just met at 16 what is your wife and mil thinking. NTA” – lynnebrad70
“No one should ever be forced to be touched by someone they do not want touching them. Not ever. Bodily autonomy must be respected, even by ‘southern mom types.’”
“The whole ‘it’s rude of you to refuse to let me assault you’ notion needs to die a swift & fiery death.” – Kathrynlena
“My kids are 5 and under and even they know they don’t have to touch/hug anyone they don’t want.”
“Their aunts, uncles and their grandparents always want to give them a hug, but my kids know they can choose to hug, give them a handshake or wave to them depending on how comfortable they feel with the person.”
“Sometimes the other person gets offended but they can suck it up, I’m not forcing my kids to hug them and give up their bodily autonomy to make you feel better!”
“Everyone should be able to set their boundaries and uphold them, they should not have to bend them in order to make others comfortable, especially someone they are meeting for the first time!”
“Your MIL and wife should be WAY more understanding, your nephew does not have to have physical contact with anyone unless HE feels comfortable doing so!” – chocgram
“NTA! Ask your wife if she would be comfortable at 15 being forced to hug / kiss an older man the first time she met him.”
“Not having any say in the matter… Just because it’s HER mother demanding the hug, it doesn’t make it less uncomfortable for a kid with sensory issues & has gone through losing his mom & having to uproot his life.”
“Personally, I think the #metoo campaign stressed consent and we should allow everyone the right to refuse unwanted touching. Male, female, nonbinary, etc – every person should be allowed body autonomy.”
“Thanks for stepping up and taking care of this kid!”
“Your SO needs to familiarize herself about sensory issues so she can appreciate why this child should be allowed to fist bump, elbow bump, or just say ‘hello’ to people.” – R4catstoomany
“NTA. Body autonomy is important. Nobody should be forced to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to.”
“I’d even go so far as to say the fact that your MIL wants to hug and kiss someone who doesn’t want that is a bit weird.” – VVillyD
“NTA. Of course you’re not the a**hole.”
“What your nephew does with his body is his choice. Good for you for looking out for your nephew.” – fleurdegreen
Redditors on the spectrum shared their thoughts on the relatable situation.
“Autistic person here.”
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