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 Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:27 am
--Anorexic beauty queen, with painted eyes so toxic...--
I'd think that it'd be better to have a mix.
Maybe not solely going for the approval of my parents, but not "First date? Sure! Let's ******** want my boyfriend to treat me like gold, my parents like silver.
As in, I come first at all times, and then my parents and friends second.
--...Flowers painted on her back, centerfold erotic--
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 1:05 pm
I think courting is the best way to go. Your still bf and gf, just in a different way. You are preapring yourselves for marriage.
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Posted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 6:27 am
joe_is_my_hubby I have been courting the same person for 4 years now, but I have had the aproval of his parents for a long time. Courting is not just getting the aproval of the parents, it is also a better prep. for marriage. While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. The first rule, The first 3 dates MUST be a dinner with the parents. Second rule, The next 2 dates, you must bring ONE sibling along. (that is so you know if they will get along with you siblings or not). Third rule, that is when you can go out on dates by your self, but you must be home by 9:30 p.m. And after all of those rules have been followed, then you get ready for marriage. (That is if you still want to marry that person). how does being in before 9:30 prepare you for marriage?
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Posted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 6:46 am
That is just one of the rules. Being in before 9:30 doesn't prepare you for marriage. Or if it does, Idk how...
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 5:30 am
froggymama89 joe_is_my_hubby I have been courting the same person for 4 years now, but I have had the aproval of his parents for a long time. Courting is not just getting the aproval of the parents, it is also a better prep. for marriage. While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. The first rule, The first 3 dates MUST be a dinner with the parents. Second rule, The next 2 dates, you must bring ONE sibling along. (that is so you know if they will get along with you siblings or not). Third rule, that is when you can go out on dates by your self, but you must be home by 9:30 p.m. And after all of those rules have been followed, then you get ready for marriage. (That is if you still want to marry that person). how does being in before 9:30 prepare you for marriage? OK I get the first three dates. But the second one? Seriously, your siblings/boyfriend can act like they're polite in front of these people. Faking isn't hard to do. And the third rule there is pure folly. I highly doubt that this is a critical prep point for marriage. Yes I understand that it shows that you are both responsible, but this should not apply to all courting couples. And again I must tell you to say that this is your opinion. I also fail to see how this is a better prep for marriage over dating.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 6:19 am
joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 9:12 am
iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 9:18 am
joe_is_my_hubby iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right?
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 9:23 am
Hester I agree.
Those rules aren't written,
so you don't have to follow them.
Unless you choose to.
But I personally wouldn't.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:00 am
Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right? I would never even think about going against what my Priest says! He set up those rules because he doesn't like the idea of dating. He thinks it is a mockary (idk if I splled that right) of marriage. Also because teens have a tendancy to rush things to fast.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:04 am
joe_is_my_hubby Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right? I would never even think about going against what my Priest says! He set up those rules because he doesn't like the idea of dating. He thinks it is a mockary (idk if I splled that right) of marriage. Also because teens have a tendancy to rush things to fast. Um, okay. So in other words, you don't know how to think for yourself? And how is dating a mockery of mariage? Dating is how many people find their potential spouse.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:07 am
I'm not sure I understand your definition of chivalry/courting. I mean it is pretty much the same as old courting, except maybe you are not going to choose the partner for your son.
I don't see why dating is so different. I date and I show the family respect. I don't knwo many people that would treat the family wrongfully. That would just create tension. Now many times the family can actually turn on their child's SO and that would seem a bit silly to just suck it up and keep a smile on your face. I think you give what you get.
I also don't understand the stance on sex for this "new" courting. Would the people have to wait until marriage? I think that is a fine goal to have but it shouldn't be forced. Children should still be well informed about contraceptives and such. I don't think marriage should be the only time a person is allowed to have sex. I believe people should do what they want, when they are completely ready.
I don't see how just "dating" is seen as a thing where no respect is shown and that its all about sex. I was taught manners and I was well informed about sex. I was then given the oppurtunity to do what I felt was right. I don't think it is good to force your beliefs on your child. Give them a bit of space to create their own ideals. You can guide them a bit. And tell them reasons for your beliefs, but you shouldn't absolutely have them follow your ways. Unless they are doing something really harmful to themselves and others.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:11 am
joe_is_my_hubby Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right? I would never even think about going against what my Priest says! He set up those rules because he doesn't like the idea of dating. He thinks it is a mockary (idk if I splled that right) of marriage. Also because teens have a tendancy to rush things to fast. So you have no opinions of your own, outside of what your priest says? What about what you want? Do you not exist outside of your religion?
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:13 am
Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby iCrickle joe_is_my_hubby While your a courting their are rules that you have to follow for the first couple of dates. Not once have I heard of there being "rules" while you're courting somebody. Do you have a source? With that being said, I think courting is a good idea, but with a mix of dating as well. It's important to get to know the parents, but just as important to get to know the person you're dating. Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right? I would never even think about going against what my Priest says! He set up those rules because he doesn't like the idea of dating. He thinks it is a mockary (idk if I splled that right) of marriage. Also because teens have a tendancy to rush things to fast. So you have no opinions of your own, outside of what your priest says? What about what you want? Do you not exist outside of your religion? I have plenty of opinions of my own. I actually agree with what he says. I think that it is the best way to prepare someone for marriage.
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:15 am
joe_is_my_hubby Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby Hester Peche joe_is_my_hubby Well my Priest made these rules. That is my source, and a lot of other couples who are courting have the same if not a little bit different rules. I don't understand why you are letting your priest say how to date. Shouldn't it be what you feel is right? I would never even think about going against what my Priest says! He set up those rules because he doesn't like the idea of dating. He thinks it is a mockary (idk if I splled that right) of marriage. Also because teens have a tendancy to rush things to fast. So you have no opinions of your own, outside of what your priest says? What about what you want? Do you not exist outside of your religion? I have plenty of opinions of my own. I actually agree with what he says. I think that it is the best way to prepare someone for marriage. How does a set of rules prepare someone for marriage. Marriage is a pretty hectic, rule free kind of thing... And you say you ahve opinions of your own but, they have yet to come to light...
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