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 Posted: Fri Jan 14, 2011 7:14 am
Actually I have an ex-boyfriend at an online game...we were so sweet. We actually became friends at facebook LOL. But when we like saw each other that were too young ( we were both 14 year olds..yeah)after our 2 months relationship we broke up coz of our age and our parents not knowing it. Its like crap having a BF only at the net. I didnt cry over him...lol! xd
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Posted: Fri Jan 14, 2011 1:19 pm
I don't always agree, especially if they live in the next town/city.
I'm not saying all are bad but my brother had a bad experience with it.
The b***h and her friends assaulted him...
So yeah... not always good.
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Posted: Fri Jan 14, 2011 10:19 pm
I think it's cool to meet someone on the internet, but if it's solely internet relationship, then I don't understand it. I think part of the relationship if physically/seeing one another. If you meet on the internet, yet see each other every once in a while it's one thing.
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 9:37 am
Super Nay!
I tried it once but didn't like it : (
I think I'll stick to meeting friends only
I love meeting new friends online!! biggrin
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 12:03 pm
Testicular Diabetes  I think it is stupid to have one over a site aimed twords teens and kids. You never know who is behind that monitor. I think it is fine if you go to like e-harmony or something, And if you are older and mature. But on a site like Gaia, it's dumb.
@ OP - I'm fine with it, depending on how people go about it. It's their choice, and I don't fully agree with the whole 'What if they're a killer' thing about meeting new people on the Internet. If that applied, wouldn't that mean, for the other person, YOU could be the one that's the killer if they look at it the same.. I mean, yeah, they could be, but that's a terrible first assumption. Your information may be limited, but as long as you go about it safely, then kudos to you.
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 3:13 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 3:30 pm
I feel super uncomfortable flirting around on the internet... : (
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Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 10:09 pm
I don't judge those who have internet relationships but I do worry for them, just because people aren't all ways 100% truthful and I don't want to see anyone get hurt.
Besides that I think they're quite splendid because your relationship is based solely on communication which is what a lot of relationships seem to lack. Nobody is dating someone online just for the sake of having a trophy gf/bf or because they hope to get laid, it's because they truly feel they have some sort of connection and I for one think it's great.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 7:16 am
Every relationship I have been in, except for two, have been internet relationship.
One lasted almost three years.
My current relationship started out on the internet, but since we are three hours away, we visit each other's homes often.
And the only relationship I was in that was completely not on the internet failed in a burning fireball of fail.
So yeah.
I believe in them, as long as you don't think you can cheat while your doing it.
It's still a relationship, so unless you both are aware you are in a monogamous relationship, then it's not alright.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 9:38 am
Usually I wouldn't put myself out there on a topic such as this, for fear of being judged, but... I have faith in this and feel confident about it.
Well, I've been in an internet relationship for Six months, one week, and one day with a really sweet guy. He just turned 22 in December, and I'll be 20 in April.
He hasn't asked me to do anything uncomfortable, such as expose myself to him via pictures or webcam, or phone anything other than talking. Nor has he asked for anything of monetary value. Heck, I was the one who asked if I could send him something for his birthday, and also took the initiative to send him some chocolate for Christmas (Since he loves it so much, haha).
We have talked every day for the past seven or so months save maybe two and a half weeks combined. We talk about everything, too; Our interests, gaming (Since we both quite enjoy videogames), our plans for the future (Like education and careers), family, personal pasts and dilemmas, our friends, and about everything in between. We have a rather comfortable relationship with each other, and I trust him. We've shared photos, talked via video chat, phone calls and texts.
Personally with how I am socially, I have a really hard time interacting with either gender face-to-face, usually leaving an incorrect impression of myself with how incredibly stupidly shy I am. But with him, it just kind of happened, I wasn't looking for anyone at the time, and he just kinda fell into my life and stuck. And I'm happy with it.
My only dilemma is family and friends. I haven't yet told my family about him, nor most of my friends. I decided I didn't want to risk sharing him with them until I felt it was right, which I've kind of gotten to that point. But even if they don't approve at first, I intend on pursuing the relationship on a physical level.
tldr;
I guess in the end, with us, we intend on working to make it work.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 10:49 am
I guess they're ok but not for me. I need to see the man, touch him, go places with him, have sex. I couldn't handle it.
I suppose I understand why people do this, although I don't think it can stay online forever.
That being said the internet can be a great place to meet people if you know how to be safe. One of my best friends met her fiance over the internet, they've been together for 4 years. My brother met his current girlfriend over the internet as well and they're very happy together.
But they all run their relationship offline, they just met online. I find it hard to see how an online relationship could work on the long run.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 1:22 pm
I'll say this for internet relationships; most of 'em don't last long. I recently broke up with my boyfriend who i met through Gaia. I was with that boy for two straight years but by the end i was emotionally strung out and couldn't stand it anymore.
I'm all for internet relationships but it really is better to be able to actually hug the person. I was truly in love with the boy but the heart can only take so much distance and then it became nothing to me...I didn't even cry after we broke up, i was that sick by the end.
TL;DR:
Internet relationships drain you emotionally if you put too much into it at the start.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 2:41 pm
[~+~] I've had experience with long-distance, but not internet dating specifically and directly.
But really i think they can compare near enough.
The emotional strain of not being able to see the person, especially when you're at an age where you want to feel...physically attached shall we say, to them, it's a lot to handle.
I do agree that there's a lot of dangerous aspects to one, especially one through a website like Gaia, due to the age range it tends to be aimed at, so you never know who's on the other end. But i would say that these days people are a lot more aware of these issues and tend to overcome them through use of facebook, msn, webcam, skype etc.
I don't personally judge anyone on them - as long as they've established who the person truely is (i.e. through webcam), and they get to know the person properly, i think it can be a really good thing.
Especially for those of us who aren't the best at communicating and socialising in real life.
It does annoy me however, when a girl barely knows the guy (or vice versa) and does rudey things (pictures, etc). Who knows what they do with them? gonk
(Well, obviously you can guess partly, but i meant sharing them etc.) 
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 3:23 pm
Nay.
If you're a teen here on gaia and are desperatley in love with some avi you met.....well, I just don't consider that to be real. You can say that "it's easier to type without judging on appearances," but we ALL act differently on the internet, you really DON'T know who you're actually talking to, and if you're worried that if they saw you they would judge you, well what kind of a person is that to be with??
If you're doing it through a proper dating site, like eharmony or lavalife then I think it's okay. Find someone in your area, be a responsible and mature adult and do it safely. But when you're a teen or even in your twenties there's little reason to go for internet relationships. Someone out there will think you're beautiful in reality.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 3:59 pm
I met my fiance on the Internet :3 he's a great guy and I wouldn't trade him for the world. The thing a lot of people don't get is that you start out by just chatting in open places, then you move to more private places, and eventually to things like phone and webcam. It's a lot more intimate and personal then you think, because a lot of the time you do end up meeting, and that sweet first real hug, first real kiss, makes the world seem like a happy place. It's an amazing feeling, it really is.
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