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Posted: Mon Apr 04, 2011 4:53 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 05, 2011 4:13 am
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Posted: Sat Apr 09, 2011 8:53 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 09, 2011 9:08 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 10, 2011 1:28 am
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Based on what you've told me, I definitely recommend you to keep it secret for now. As some posters pointed out, high school can be a hostile environment to come out in depending on where you are. And on top of that your parents don't sound very tolerant. Don't underestimate the effect rejection can have on you. Some teens have gone to self-mutilation and/or even suicide after coming out/forcibly coming out and rejected by their families. (Famous example Bobby Griffith (see movie Prayers for Bobby)). And just because your family loves you and is proud of your achievements right now is no guarantee that they won't reject you after you came out. Some people were confident their parents would not throw them out but ended up getting practically ostracized from the neighborhood after coming out.
Let me explain just how careful you should be with coming out. When I was coming out to my friends and my brother, I thought too that it would not be a problem coming out to my parents. I even planned to do it when I turned 18 to go to college. Now, I'm talking about atheistic and agnostic parents here who don't believe in God or the need for a supreme being to teach them morals. I'm talking about parents who've gotten their degrees from a pretty good college (I'm not gonna say where) and have consistently shown me in my upbringing their intelligence, curiosity and open-mindedness about other things. BUT, but, some conversations with my mother made me change my mind and push the coming out to until I've found a stable job and can support myself. I considered it very seriously and made that choice because of comments she made.
Maybe I'm paranoid about losing my parents, but if even my parents can make me rethink about coming out to them, I'm not so sure what's gonna happen to you when you come out to yours. I would say, seriously reconsider about coming out.
Now I go to UC Berkeley, and I'm happy here because it's so liberal here (we can practically dress ourselves up as pink chihuahuas eating rainbow cupcakes on the street and it'll still be okay). People are so accepting and I feel at home, like I'm in a big family. My mom was like, "it's a more hippie school so it's probably more suitable for you than [my intended college]". I sometimes wonder if she knows I'm queer. I get a feeling she somehow knows secretly but hasn't pointed it out. Either way I'm not coming out any time soon to my parents. I've been coming out to everyone else who deserves my trust, though.
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Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2016 4:23 am
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