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 Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 5:56 am
there are some straight allies that I don't like and wish would just leave the lgbt community alone.
people who constantly say they are an ally so people will think they are a great person, the word for this is ally cookies. no, you don't need a reward for being a decent human being. I use "you" in the general sense, I don't mean you specificly
and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga
and people who compare their experience of someone mistakingly assuming their gay as being equal to the experience of someone who is lgb
and of course, any straight "ally" who makes the lgbt movement more about themselves than the people they claim to support will instantly get my hate.
on my tumblr I admit, I do post some ally hate, but that's just because most of the people ive met who want to be called allies really suck because of the above reasons. I adore straight allies and we need them since they are the majority if we are to get anywhere with our rights.
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Posted: Mon Jun 17, 2013 7:40 am
It's fine, and YAY! McFlurries! Haven't had one in ages, but I've been craving some chocolate chip cookie dough Blizzards, dude. emotion_drool
Anyway, I've always been pretty distant about sexuality and all that kinda stuff, and everyone assumed I was a lesbian. Ehn, that's just stupid. Some people just don't have that drive, and I've met them before. It's just... like nothing. Rare, and of course they DO have a preference, but it's just kinda like ehn, whatev. XD I personally like dudes, and have had too much bad experiences with women in my life to be lesbian. I mean, I'm not homophobic or anything, it's just more of a quandary to me. XD "Hmm..." was more like it. I'm pretty distant, actually.
Anyway, I did attend a gay-straight alliance in college, mainly because my good friends were in it, and participated in a few events with them.
It's funny because I've met people recently that are transgender and I didn't really know what that was, they were just nice to me. That comes first, and then I realized what it was and I started using the proper pronouns for them. Sometimes some souls are more feminine or more masculine. It's the principle of polarity, I think.
I don't go to rallies or anything, but when it comes to voting for gay marriage in our state I voted for it. I don't go running to lgb people just to add them to my good deed collection of friends and support them. There's good people and bad people, no matter what label you fall under.
Currently, I'm pretty much a married shut-in with autism. I don't parade that badge around, either. We're ourselves before all that other crap, no matter how important it is.
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Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:03 am
Shanna66 there are some straight allies that I don't like and wish would just leave the lgbt community alone. people who constantly say they are an ally so people will think they are a great person, the word for this is ally cookies. no, you don't need a reward for being a decent human being. I use "you" in the general sense, I don't mean you specificly and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga and people who compare their experience of someone mistakingly assuming their gay as being equal to the experience of someone who is lgb and of course, any straight "ally" who makes the lgbt movement more about themselves than the people they claim to support will instantly get my hate. on my tumblr I admit, I do post some ally hate, but that's just because most of the people ive met who want to be called allies really suck because of the above reasons. I adore straight allies and we need them since they are the majority if we are to get anywhere with our rights. Ally cookies: People think the cookie will taste good, but it will purposely taste nasty. People thinking yaoi is hot: This reminds me of a profile I saw where one picture says "Love is love", but the rest of the pictures are yaoi pictures. It's like how some guys claim to support lesbians because they think it's hot when two girls make out.
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Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 7:54 pm
TigerLilyChick Shanna66 there are some straight allies that I don't like and wish would just leave the lgbt community alone. people who constantly say they are an ally so people will think they are a great person, the word for this is ally cookies. no, you don't need a reward for being a decent human being. I use "you" in the general sense, I don't mean you specificly and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga and people who compare their experience of someone mistakingly assuming their gay as being equal to the experience of someone who is lgb and of course, any straight "ally" who makes the lgbt movement more about themselves than the people they claim to support will instantly get my hate. on my tumblr I admit, I do post some ally hate, but that's just because most of the people ive met who want to be called allies really suck because of the above reasons. I adore straight allies and we need them since they are the majority if we are to get anywhere with our rights. Ally cookies: People think the cookie will taste good, but it will purposely taste nasty. People thinking yaoi is hot: This reminds me of a profile I saw where one picture says "Love is love", but the rest of the pictures are yaoi pictures. It's like how some guys claim to support lesbians because they think it's hot when two girls make out. I don't mind if people are turned on by same sex couples or not. as long as they remember that yaoi and yuri are just stories and real relationships almost never work like that. as for masterbating to real people in porn or whatever, just remember that they are real people and that we aren't just a fetish to be enjoyed when its convenient but I think the ally cookies thing is my biggest pet peeve. that and straight "allies" telling me how I should or shouldnt act and/or feel about myself. the best allies are the people who are supportive, contribute to the fight for our rights when/if they are able, and doesn't make a big fuss about what an amazing person they are for caring about us poor oppressed lgbt people
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Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 7:56 pm
Shanna66 that and straight "allies" telling me how I should or shouldnt act and/or feel about myself. "Allies" have told you how you should or shouldn't act and/or feel about yourself? Wow, just wow.
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Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 8:04 pm
TigerLilyChick Shanna66 that and straight "allies" telling me how I should or shouldnt act and/or feel about myself. "Allies" have told you how you should or shouldn't act and/or feel about yourself? Wow, just wow. yup
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Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:17 pm
Shanna66 and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga I hate this -.- so much yaoi stuff is written by teenage, straight girls or for them as an audience, and while that is fine, I really hate that so much of the stories involve rape or "converting" a straight guy *sigh* plus as a bisexual, very feminine looking guy in a gay relationship, I get sooo sick females who are yaoi fans getting all "omg you're sooo cute!" and claiming they're "allies" when really they want to fetish-ise my partner and I into some "yaoi couple"..
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Posted: Wed Jun 19, 2013 6:39 am
I AM R U Shanna66 and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga I hate this -.- so much yaoi stuff is written by teenage, straight girls or for them as an audience, and while that is fine, I really hate that so much of the stories involve rape or "converting" a straight guy *sigh* plus as a bisexual, very feminine looking guy in a gay relationship, I get sooo sick females who are yaoi fans getting all "omg you're sooo cute!" and claiming they're "allies" when really they want to fetish-ise my partner and I into some "yaoi couple".. yeah. I once had a yaoi fangirl ask to see my boyfriend kiss another guy when she found out he was bi. we just kind of laughed it off then walked away but it was really freaky and insulting
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Posted: Wed Jun 19, 2013 2:50 pm
yes? im straight know what do you want ^-^?
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Posted: Wed Jun 19, 2013 5:02 pm
Shanna66 I AM R U Shanna66 and people who think that yaoi is hot and that all homo relationships need to be just like in manga I hate this -.- so much yaoi stuff is written by teenage, straight girls or for them as an audience, and while that is fine, I really hate that so much of the stories involve rape or "converting" a straight guy *sigh* plus as a bisexual, very feminine looking guy in a gay relationship, I get sooo sick females who are yaoi fans getting all "omg you're sooo cute!" and claiming they're "allies" when really they want to fetish-ise my partner and I into some "yaoi couple".. yeah. I once had a yaoi fangirl ask to see my boyfriend kiss another guy when she found out he was bi. we just kind of laughed it off then walked away but it was really freaky and insulting Uh huh - I've had that too -.-
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Posted: Sat Aug 10, 2013 8:02 am
Entry #8: TigerLilyChick is finally an aunt!Before I get started, I want to thank everyone who responded to the question in my previous entry. It gave me more insight on why some people do not like straight allies than what the anti-straight allies blogs on tumblr were giving. Maybe the straight allies who did not stop being an ally because of the tumblr blogs will keep in mind what NOT to do as an ally. Anyways, yesterday on the morning of August 9, 2013, my niece was born. My brother hoped to not have an ugly baby. He got his wish. When I got to the hospital that late afternoon (dad had to work so I wasn't there that morning), my niece was... I guess she was sleeping. She rarely opened her eyes (well, more like she wouldn't open her eyes for anyone except for me). She also wouldn't let go of my finger. Whenever I'd try to pull my finger away, she would hold on tighter. Mom told my grandmother that I'm my niece's favorite. 4laugh I honestly feel pretty old to be a first-time aunt (I'm going to be 21 in less than 3 months) and most people I know have a niece or a nephew long before they turn 18. I go back to college for my final year on August 18th. I move in early for things related to my on-campus job. My parents said I can't help anyone with class stuff anymore. Don't know how to break the news to my friends who ask me for their help. Thanks to my summer job, I haven't been able to make any YouTube videos other than a Para Para dance video. I wanted to start working on a Transgender Etiquette video, but I may not get very far before I have to go back to college. This video will be made to educate peers. Plus, this video is being made in response to a friend talking about my best friend's genitalia (needless to say, my best friend got mad). I wasn't there when it happened, but when my friend told me about it, I think anyone near the game room heard "You never talk about a trans person's v****a!" Thank goodness no one was in the game room; they'd be like "Dafuq?" Anyways, I have a graduation party to be going to later today, so... um... see ya!
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Posted: Mon Aug 12, 2013 9:05 pm
TigerLilyChick Entry #8: TigerLilyChick is finally an aunt! I hope it isn't too late to respond to the ally-hate you found on Tumblr, but I'll make this super quick. Don't take what people post on Tumblr too seriously. Most of them have self esteem issues and are too afraid to say those things in public. I personally unfollow anyone who posts any type of hate. Honestly though, I feel those numbers mentioned are too high. In my university's LGBTQ organization, we love straight allies (mostly because they are rare for our area, but also because they are super nice to the community). Congrats on becoming an aunt! My nephew was born two years ago (in two weeks @_@) while I was in my sophomore year of college. I was 19 at the time (my younger sibling was 16) and I still remember being woken up at 6 in the morning when he was born. I had to wait a whole week to see him though because I didn't have a ride back to town. I never held him, so I've never felt close to him. He still doesn't like me, but he lets me pick him up sometimes. I'm also moving back to my dorm on the 18th for my final year at my university surprised It's going to be super duper fun. Plus, I'm finally legally to purchase the alcohol and we can keep it in our dorms (so long as noone under 21 comes in).
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Posted: Mon Aug 12, 2013 9:22 pm
DotDinosaur TigerLilyChick Entry #8: TigerLilyChick is finally an aunt! I hope it isn't too late to respond to the ally-hate you found on Tumblr, but I'll make this super quick. Don't take what people post on Tumblr too seriously. Most of them have self esteem issues and are too afraid to say those things in public. I personally unfollow anyone who posts any type of hate. Honestly though, I feel those numbers mentioned are too high. In my university's LGBTQ organization, we love straight allies (mostly because they are rare for our area, but also because they are super nice to the community). Congrats on becoming an aunt! My nephew was born two years ago (in two weeks @_@) while I was in my sophomore year of college. I was 19 at the time (my younger sibling was 16) and I still remember being woken up at 6 in the morning when he was born. I had to wait a whole week to see him though because I didn't have a ride back to town. I never held him, so I've never felt close to him. He still doesn't like me, but he lets me pick him up sometimes. I'm also moving back to my dorm on the 18th for my final year at my university surprised It's going to be super duper fun. Plus, I'm finally legally to purchase the alcohol and we can keep it in our dorms (so long as noone under 21 comes in). Oh don't worry, it's not too late. I also think the numbers are way too high. Straight allies are rare in the college's LGBT club that I'm in. The vice president says that many straight allies come at the beginning, but most of them stop coming. Luckily I wasn't woken up when my niece was born. My sister-in-law started pushing at 7:30 AM and my niece was born at 8:45 AM. I haven't held my niece yet, but I hope to do it soon. We're both going into our final year, but I won't be 21 for another... less than 3 months. Mom's taking me out to get my first drink.
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Posted: Mon Aug 12, 2013 9:50 pm
TigerLilyChick Oh don't worry, it's not too late. I also think the numbers are way too high. Straight allies are rare in the college's LGBT club that I'm in. The vice president says that many straight allies come at the beginning, but most of them stop coming. Luckily I wasn't woken up when my niece was born. My sister-in-law started pushing at 7:30 AM and my niece was born at 8:45 AM. I haven't held my niece yet, but I hope to do it soon. We're both going into our final year, but I won't be 21 for another... less than 3 months. Mom's taking me out to get my first drink. I like to say that I have my own personal straight ally and that's my best friend. She's alright with me saying that >_<; because she often calls me her gay boyfriend. She doesn't feel comfortable with going to the LGBTQ meetings, which is understandable, but she's been super supportive. I hope you get to hold her soon. I'm sure it'll be awesome to hold that little bundle of joy. I had this intense fear of hurting my nephew, so I stayed away until he could sit up on his own. My mom bought my first legal drink for me. It wasn't fair though, because I hadn't eaten all day and that's the first thing that went into my system, so I got really tipsy really fast. I'm now the lightweight drunk of the family.
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Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 11:09 am
Entry #9: Mad at a Friend
Hey guys. I'm kind of sick right now. I'm going to go straight to the point so I can rest. I'm mad at one of my best friends right now. So yesterday, the guy I really like celebrated his birthday. I planned to go over to his on-campus apartment to give him a card that many people signed and his gift of a box of strawberry shortcake ice cream bars. I thought he had a class yesterday so I thought he'd be here. He wasn't there yesterday. A few friends thought he'd come the next morning, but he has an 8 AM class on Tuesdays. So one of my best friends texted and said "So I don't want to hear about "your friend" anymore, ok?" I refer to him as "my friend" around her because she doesn't know that I like this guy.
So year, not in the mood for anything like this. I came so close to kicking her teeth in. So this evening after the guy's evening class, I'm stopping by so I can give him the gift and card. You know what? I'm sorry I wanted to make his last birthday at college special. I'm sorry that I'm possibly one of the few people outside of his family who care about him. I'm sorry that it made him feel special last semester when I told him that I was going to miss him over the summer.
So today after my business ethics class, I talked to one of his roommates (who is also one of my friends and a former crush). He's still not back yet, and his roommate is worried (his roommate never gets worried). I'm holding my phone next to me waiting for his roommate to give me word on if he's okay or not. The roommate texted the guy I like and I don't know if he responded yet. I'll keep you guys posted.
Edit: I heard from someone that he's back. I knocked on the apartment door, but no one was answering. I don't know how much longer I can keep the box of strawberry shortcakes in my freezer before I tell people to eat it.
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