Wow... Okay O.O

[Scorned Nightmare]

If I'd gotten pregnant when I was sixteen, I'd have been pressing charges, since I wasn't dating a guy at the time, and I highly doubt my girlfriend could have gotten me pregnant. But if I had been dating a guy and he got me pregnant, I would have been terrified, but I would have talked to my mom. We might fight a lot, but I know she's got my back. I also would have talked to my boyfriend and hope he would talk to his parents. I would keep the child, because, like others have said already, it wouldn't be my child's fault that I made a mistake. I wouldn't have an abortion unless it put my child's life at risk, and I wouldn't give it up for adoption unless I knew there was no way I could raise it. Luckily, at that time, I did have the support I would have needed, and would have still been able to finish high school, and possibly go to college part-time. I would've had to quit my job though, because it was too physically demanding.

Had I been raped, I still would have kept the child. I wouldn't have been able to hold that child responsible for the sins of the father. I don't exactly condone abortion, but I will at least admit that it's up to the woman carrying the child, though I would at least hope she talked to her partner. Like I said, I would only have one if it put my child's life at risk. If a pregnancy put my life at risk but my child could be saved, I would still have the child, and gladly give my life up to give my child a chance at life.

I don't know that I would ever have that problem, though. By the time I was sixteen, I had already learned that it was highly unlikely I'd ever be able to get pregnant, much less carry to term, thanks to a hormonal imbalance. Kind of sucks. But I can always adopt.  

[Miss_XxAriaxX]

I think I would abort...
Why ? Because I have no job ! I am still studying !
Like how on Earth am I going to take care a child if I am myself dependent of my parents ?
Especially if I was 16, when you are still in high school !  

[Mishi Love]

I think when I was 16, I would have kept it. That's just who I was. Looking back now as an adult and a mother I can tell you it would have been smarter to abort, but when you're in that situation and you're going through it, only then can you know what you would really do.

I feel bad for teen mothers, they're stigmatized if they have an abortion and they're stigmatized if they don't. While the boy faces very few public consequences. He's not the one walking around with the pregnant belly or getting hollered at in front of abortion clinics. I got yelled at going into planned parenthood and I was just there for an annual checkup.  

[Labtech Abi]

I'd abort it. I've never had second thoughts about abortion and my stance on it. I'd have no means of supporting that baby. My parents would kick me out. It'd be rough finding a job, if I even could. I can't drive and don't have a car.

Even if I chose to keep it my parents would disown me, so pregnancy out of wedlock is really not an option for me.  

[stardust460]

I abstained from sex. Therefore, it wouldn't have been a very likely problem.

Had it happen though I suppose I would have two solutions: my parents could raise it or I would put up for adoption.

In regards to adoption I would have wanted a hand in the choosing of the parents. I was a later adoption. I intend to adopt if I ever choose to have children.

I support other womens right to choose abortion. I have a great security net. My immediate family and extended family are very supportive. And I think that allows me to even consider keeping a child. In a different situation I can't say I would chose the same.  

[Mord Alushar]

I would be terrified if I ended up pregnant at that age and I'd most likely would have aborted. But I blame the parents for not teaching them correctly or at least stress the importance of using protection.  

[L4uren]

This is a subject very near and dear to my heart, or at least it became one exactly two weeks ago from today.

My boyfriend and I were having sex, and we're not idiots, we used protection. But sometimes protection fails, and it happened to me. I'm 15, not 16. And, please, before anyone starts lecturing me about how I'm too young this and too emotionally immature that, don't. We've been dating a long time and I'm completely comfortable with him.

Anyway. The condom broke. And my mom is not a supportive person about this kind of thing at all. This 21 year old she works with got pregnant but is unmarried, and my mom had so many nasty things to say about her. I can't imagine what she'd say about me, a 15 year old.

So it broke. And I started crying. And crying. And crying. But I'm not stupid. I'm not the type to say "oh well hope I don't get pregnant." Within 10 minutes of it breaking, I was calling everyone I knew, seeing if someone over the age of 18 could get me Plan B. (It's an emergency contraceptive.)

Eventually we found someone, one of my boyfriend's friends, and I had to actually leave school and get driven to the health clinic to get it, because they only offer Plan B until 3:00 weekdays, which is when I'm school. It makes no sense.

Everyone complains about teenage pregnancies but they make it very, very difficult to get what we need.

I was responsible and used a condom, and we used it properly, and it broke anyway. I did what I had to do to get Plan B.

This has literally been the most terrifying too weeks of my life though. When I got my period yesterday I started crying I was so happy.
But, if I hadn't been able to get the plan B, I would have an abortion. I'm not against it, Every woman has a right to her own body. I spent these past two weeks crying because I was so scared at even the idea of being pregnant, I couldn't actually imagine going through it.

Basically I'm just a terrified little girl right now. :
yeah. the end.  

[Mord Alushar]

L4uren

This is a subject very near and dear to my heart, or at least it became one exactly two weeks ago from today.

My boyfriend and I were having sex, and we're not idiots, we used protection. But sometimes protection fails, and it happened to me. I'm 15, not 16. And, please, before anyone starts lecturing me about how I'm too young this and too emotionally immature that, don't. We've been dating a long time and I'm completely comfortable with him.

Anyway. The condom broke. And my mom is not a supportive person about this kind of thing at all. This 21 year old she works with got pregnant but is unmarried, and my mom had so many nasty things to say about her. I can't imagine what she'd say about me, a 15 year old.

So it broke. And I started crying. And crying. And crying. But I'm not stupid. I'm not the type to say "oh well hope I don't get pregnant." Within 10 minutes of it breaking, I was calling everyone I knew, seeing if someone over the age of 18 could get me Plan B. (It's an emergency contraceptive.)

Eventually we found someone, one of my boyfriend's friends, and I had to actually leave school and get driven to the health clinic to get it, because they only offer Plan B until 3:00 weekdays, which is when I'm school. It makes no sense.

Everyone complains about teenage pregnancies but they make it very, very difficult to get what we need.

I was responsible and used a condom, and we used it properly, and it broke anyway. I did what I had to do to get Plan B.

This has literally been the most terrifying too weeks of my life though. When I got my period yesterday I started crying I was so happy.
But, if I hadn't been able to get the plan B, I would have an abortion. I'm not against it, Every woman has a right to her own body. I spent these past two weeks crying because I was so scared at even the idea of being pregnant, I couldn't actually imagine going through it.

Basically I'm just a terrified little girl right now. :
yeah. the end.

Wow, that is a scary situation to be in. No one likes a pregnancy scare especially at such a young age. To help put your mind at ease, you should get on the pill that way you have two ways of making sure that you're protected. I myself am a paranoid person and am scared to death of becoming pregnant. Being on the pill and using a condom helps tame the anxiety.  

[Daffodil the Destroyer]

Mishi Love

I think when I was 16, I would have kept it. That's just who I was. Looking back now as an adult and a mother I can tell you it would have been smarter to abort, but when you're in that situation and you're going through it, only then can you know what you would really do.

I feel bad for teen mothers, they're stigmatized if they have an abortion and they're stigmatized if they don't. While the boy faces very few public consequences. He's not the one walking around with the pregnant belly or getting hollered at in front of abortion clinics. I got yelled at going into planned parenthood and I was just there for an annual checkup.

I agree with this post so much.

When I was 16, I was not really comfortable with boys yet and so pregnancy never entered as a remote possibility. If it had, I'm not sure what I would have done at that age. I was firmly anti-abortion as a teenager, but for me it was mostly out of ignorance. I never really seriously thought about the issue until I was 19 or 20. I regurgitated what the people around me were saying about it, which was all negative. I never did any research into the issue or even thought about what I would REALLY think or feel if it were me in that situation until I was older.

Once I made up my own mind on the issue, I knew that if I ever got pregnant at any age, abortion would be my choice. Ever since I was a child I knew I never wanted to be pregnant or give birth, and when I was still uncomfortable with boys I thought I'd just avoid the issue by never having sex. When I grew up I realized that wasn't a viable option for me. So I was super paranoid about birth control. Always used a hormonal contraceptive AND a condom for backup, and I even took Plan B once when I was pretty sure I didn't need to - I was in doubt as to whether I'd messed up on my birth control, and the condom had slipped. But if something had happened and I'd had an oops even after all the precautions, I would not have hesitated.

It's no longer an issue now because I had very painful adenomyosis and as a result managed to convince a doctor to do a hysterectomy at 26. Best decision I ever made.

 

[Mishi Love]

Daffodil the Destroyer

It really kinda makes me mad that you had to get very sick to convince them to give you the hysterectomy. They flat out refused to tie my tubes when I had my son. I had had a horrible pregnancy. Hypertension, months of bed rest culminating in a cesarean. It wasn't that I couldn't imagine having more kids, it was that I knew my body couldn't handle it again. Fast forward to where I am now, I got pregnant two more times and lost both within a year. I will probably end up with a hysterectomy. My mom had a radical when she was the age I am now, and I am having the same symptoms as she did.

I wish the doctors would listen more. Yes they went to medical school, but apparently they don't teach them anything about people.  

[September Equinox]

I'm 18. It wouldn't have hapened because my sexuality is blooming late... But if it had... I'd have trouble telling my mum. My dad would be furious. I'd abort... I'd have to... I wouldn't be able to raise it. I wouldn't be able to bring myself to put it up for adoption, since my mum is adopted... I may not even be able to carry because I'm so small- I'm the size of a 12 year old... It would be the best decision.

 

[Daffodil the Destroyer]

Mishi Love

Daffodil the Destroyer

It really kinda makes me mad that you had to get very sick to convince them to give you the hysterectomy. They flat out refused to tie my tubes when I had my son. I had had a horrible pregnancy. Hypertension, months of bed rest culminating in a cesarean. It wasn't that I couldn't imagine having more kids, it was that I knew my body couldn't handle it again. Fast forward to where I am now, I got pregnant two more times and lost both within a year. I will probably end up with a hysterectomy. My mom had a radical when she was the age I am now, and I am having the same symptoms as she did.

I wish the doctors would listen more. Yes they went to medical school, but apparently they don't teach them anything about people.

Yeah, they really don't listen. I always, always had painful periods. I had my very first one starting on the second day of a weeklong summer camp and spent most of the rest of the week in the infirmary. My first gyno totally blew me off when I said I had awful pain and thought I had endometriosis. He told me to "take ibuprofen." I told him it didn't help and he said, "Take the ibuprofen; it will help." emotion_8c

Tried a new gyno after that who seemed like she was listening to me, but she insisted on putting me through like 4 different kinds of birth control before even doing a diagnostic surgery, "because of the risks involved." I gained like 40 pounds, and she wrote in my file that I was "morbidly obese" as a result. I'm a size 14. Last I checked, that wasn't morbidly obese... though I was a 10 before all this. I told her I wanted a hysterectomy and that I never wanted to get pregnant. She kept saying no, I might want to have kids one day.

Finally convinced her to do a diagnostic surgery and she cleaned up the endometriosis lesions while she was in there. For a while, I felt better, but the pain came back in full within a few months. I told her I was going to go talk to a specialist in Atlanta and asked for a copy of all my records for them. At that point she finally said we could do a hysterectomy if I wanted, but she hadn't offered because she thought I wanted to have kids. WHAT? It says in the note from my first visit that I don't!

I was fed up with her and haven't been back to see her since. The specialist agreed to do the hysterectomy immediately, and afterwards, he said that I'd had adenomyosis and not just the endo like the other doctor had told me. I really should still be going to a gyno for a yearly pap and such, since I still have my cervix and ovaries... but I am just sick of shitty doctors who don't listen. The last one was supposed to be one of the best in town and look what I got from her! By the time I finally found the specialist, I had been unable to exercise for like 3 years due to the pelvic pain it caused, and now I still struggle to get back in shape because now I have no stamina and have gained more weight than I've ever had to carry.

But now that I've derailed everything... we can get back to the original topic, if you want.. LOL

 

[Latrans]

I would have gotten an abortion.

I wasn't sexually active at that age, though.  

[allmostanyone]

Mishi Love

I wish the doctors would listen more. Yes they went to medical school, but apparently they don't teach them anything about people.

I want to put this on my wall xD It's funny and sad emotion_awesome

At 26 I still have no sex life emotion_awesome and will not till I'm married and God help that man xD but that's another topic. I can tell you now I'm terrified for being a mother... I think I'll be a terrible mother. But in the fictional world in which I could have gotten pregnant at 16, I don't know honestly, I would depend on the situation. My dad surly would have disowned me, that much I am sure. If it happened with the guy I was in love with than keeping it would be a possibility but if it happened by other unpleasant means than I would have aborted it... You can never imagine would you and others will act in those kinds of situations, which is why I get so enraged when I have to listen to wonderfully ignorant people (most likely guys) saying ABORTION IS WRONG! b***h... go to your corner and don't tell me how to deal with this that which you caused and don't take responsibility for emotion_eyebrow  

[Strange Lizard]

AS sad as it is, i would probably abort it. I have no job excepted for the occasionally babysitting. I can barely drive and my house is already chaotic enough.

And personally i would be more scared about telling my dad than my mom. My dad can be a bit stiff when it comes to these things.