Spanking children. For or against it?

[1011b8]

I'm definitely against physically disciplining your child. Trying to teach your child a lesson by hurting them and inflicting fear on them is absolutely ineffective and does more damage than it does good. The kid won't be sorry for what he's done or understand what he did wrong, it's only going to make him angry and want revenge. It is only a cosmetic fix, as it doesn't change the mind set of the child it only makes him afraid of consequences.
If you don't respect your kid, why do you assume he will have any respect towards you? The relationship between parent and child should be a mutual bond. Not to mention, you are the child's role model. If he sees you are solving problems physically instead of by discussing them, how do you think he will react when someone does something to anger him?
It also becomes a much larger problem when kids enter their teens. They are unable to properly express their anger, because they fear further punishment, therefore storing it inside. This anger builds up over the years and can definitely make your child dislike you. Too many parents think it's given that their children will love them.  

[EarlsGarden]

I am forever scarred from the spankings I've received as a kid.
So my answer would be no.
And in my opinion it doesn't change anything. The kid's going to forget the cause of the situation later on anyways, except for the spank. That's not going help with their relationship later on in the future.

 

[KawaiiBrielle]

Spanking, i had that since i was a kid. But i don't know why others see it as Abuse. You know there are ways of Spanking yet to others when they saw a parent doing that to their child/children they just went to panic and ask for assistance.

Well maybe in each part of the world, when a parent/s disciplines their child they use their own method on how to act the way they should be, correct them from their faults and also let their children made a mistake and experiences their own fault, let it be light or heavy mistake.

Yet i find it also abusive when a certain parent did a much heavier spanking or a punishment and when that child grew up and wanted to get revenge from their parent. That kind of mindset will lead their child to a different person....

Maybe a scolding will do and maybe i prefer pinching their hands lightly and more scolding yet in a light way >.<

Hence i don't want that to happened to my future family especially to my kids  

[Warm Soul]

I am not against, but I wouldn't.
A smack on the hand, yes.
But I know that many parents struggle with stress and a spanking turns into a beating.
I think long time-outs and taking away sweets work well.  

[Miku-Marmalade]

Warm Soul

I am not against, but I wouldn't.
A smack on the hand, yes.
But I know that many parents struggle with stress and a spanking turns into a beating.
I think long time-outs and taking away sweets work well.

Not to sound funny but sweets are bad fur little ones in any case and long time outs are usually ineffective because kids have vivid imaginations and can easily entertain themselves in a corner.

:/  

[iArtemis]

All for spanking.

My kindergarten teachers used to punish naughty kids by locking them in a dark storeroom. I guess this works for some children (they cried) but when I got punished, I just turned on the light and played with the toys inside. So nope, I don't think this sort of method is effective. Light smacks are easier to remember.  

[Walter has ganado]

ooooh this one is a toughie because you wouldn't want to hurt your child but at the same time the way the human brain learns the most quickly and best is through an instant, negative response (for example touching a burner on the stove and getting a burn on your hand). I guess really it's all up to the kid and whether or not simply scolding or yelling at them would work, because hey, you can't argue with science.  

[jiniistrawberii]

Sometimes, kids could be too much. You try to be nice to them, but they don't take you seriously. I guess you can't really blame them because they don't know anything in this world and it's up to the adults to show them how to behave properly. But sometimes, they're just too stubborn to follow what you keep on telling them what to do even if you have already punished them using non-violent means such as grounding them or taking away their toy for a while. In those cases, I do believe that it is kind of necessary to spank them a bit. Not too much. Just enough to make them finally remember what you're telling them to do. But the trick here is to do it while they're young, while they're minds are easy enough to discipline. It won't really work when they're too old enough to know that they can do whatever they want. I know how that this works because I've actually seen it, and the kids really get disciplined.
What I'm against is using violence on every wrong doing of the child. Like, he spills milk on his clothes and you spank the child like crazy. That's not disciplining at all. That's torture. People who do that should be spanked in turn, the way they're doing it to their kids.
Spanking should be the last resort when it comes to disciplining, not the one and only means to it.

 

[Scarleey]

I am for non-violent/non-bruising spanking but parents should ONLY do it when the child obviously doesn't learn from time outs, groundings and reprimands.  

[Strange Lizard]

The only time that i aprove of spanking is if I've given them multiple warnings, I've tried all else and I've already put them in time out. Then and only then will i spank a child.  

[MonkeyGirl188]

I wouldnt spank a child unless said child deserved it. Something little like maybe taking a cookie from a cookie jar *heh just an example* or something small and doesn't hurt anybody, I wouldn't I would tell them no and if they do it again, it would be timeout. But if they hurt one of their siblings or anything to hurt someone, I would.  

[Roxxy v2]

I think this is extremely dependent on the personalities of the parents and children, and, while it may work on some kids, there are a lot of kids it won't work on (both my siblings and myself among them), and it is very easy to take this too far. I understand that there are some kids who get spanked and turn out fine, and I understand that different personalities merit different parenting styles, but I'm also hesitant to recommend striking a child to anyone, and I can't see myself doing it.  

[Jebebo]

1011b8

I'm definitely against physically disciplining your child. Trying to teach your child a lesson by hurting them and inflicting fear on them is absolutely ineffective and does more damage than it does good. The kid won't be sorry for what he's done or understand what he did wrong, it's only going to make him angry and want revenge. It is only a cosmetic fix, as it doesn't change the mind set of the child it only makes him afraid of consequences.
If you don't respect your kid, why do you assume he will have any respect towards you? The relationship between parent and child should be a mutual bond. Not to mention, you are the child's role model. If he sees you are solving problems physically instead of by discussing them, how do you think he will react when someone does something to anger him?
It also becomes a much larger problem when kids enter their teens. They are unable to properly express their anger, because they fear further punishment, therefore storing it inside. This anger builds up over the years and can definitely make your child dislike you. Too many parents think it's given that their children will love them.

Exactly. Actually I think parents should focus more on rewarding children for good behavior instead of just punishing the bad. Kids learn better that way, and you are much more likely to have a better relationship with them. I am not saying punishments should never be used of course, but use them less often. Only after repeated bad behavior. And even then, it's better to try to find a better punishment then spanking.