Questions About Sex & Sexual Health

[Hamsterliciousness]

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Whats S&M? All the sudden I hear all my friends talking about it and I have no idea what it is.

S&M is short for Sadism and Masochism. Sadism is pleasure from causing pain in others, Masochism is the pleasure pain in yourself. This is most commonly practiced by couples, mistresses/masters, and/or prostitutes.

It's a sexual act, most commonly paired with bondage (restricting someones ability to move [for sexual gratification in this instance]) and Discipline to create that acronym BDSM.

The most common practice is between 2 people (one being the master/mistress, the other being the sub). One is usually the person in power (the dom[inant]) and one is the sub(missive).

There's also something called a switch. It's when a person equally likes the roles of Dom and Sub and they switch roles.  

[Hamsterliciousness]

Sorry for yet *another* name change. I'm BPD PsychoBytch. I've been asked to change my name by a couple ppl, but I'm still checking in here once in a while.  

[Swivils42]

Does anyone have any recommendations for birth control? I've been on the pill in the past, and it actually caused me to get depressed, I'm looking for other options. I know condoms are the #1 choice, but I want to make sure I don't get pregnant, and IUDs are out of the question.  

[Hamsterliciousness]

Iye Macilvana

Does anyone have any recommendations for birth control? I've been on the pill in the past, and it actually caused me to get depressed, I'm looking for other options. I know condoms are the #1 choice, but I want to make sure I don't get pregnant, and IUDs are out of the question.

You have quite a few options out there. There is The Patch, Ring, Shot, Cervial Cap, Sponge, Withdrawl (Pull Out Method) (Which I personally don't recommend), Diaphragm, and Monthly Planning. If you don't use condoms (and even if you do) I highly suggest using Spermacide.

Now, this is where I tell you that if you don't use condoms (or use them improperly), you have a chance of contracting a Sexually Transmitted Disease and/or Infection. This is true for both partners.

You might have noticed I didn't list Plan B (or the Morning After Pill) up there, because it's NOT a contraceptive that should be relied on.

I have used condoms for years, and I prefer it, but I'm also on the pill for reasons other then birth control. If you don't understand how to use a product (like a diaphragm or spermicide for example) just ask a pharmacist. DO NOT use a birth control method you are not comfortable with.

I have problems with Monthly Planning (also called Family Planning Method) and with Withdrawal (also called the Pull Out Method) because women's cycles and ovulation cycles are different for each woman and because even if you do pull out, there is still sperm in the pre-c** that men can't feel come out (or they feel just a bit come out). Even though it is not common to get pregnant from pre-c**, it still happens.  

[Swivils42]

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Iye Macilvana

Does anyone have any recommendations for birth control? I've been on the pill in the past, and it actually caused me to get depressed, I'm looking for other options. I know condoms are the #1 choice, but I want to make sure I don't get pregnant, and IUDs are out of the question.

You have quite a few options out there. There is The Patch, Ring, Shot, Cervial Cap, Sponge, Withdrawl (Pull Out Method) (Which I personally don't recommend), Diaphragm, and Monthly Planning. If you don't use condoms (and even if you do) I highly suggest using Spermacide.

Now, this is where I tell you that if you don't use condoms (or use them improperly), you have a chance of contracting a Sexually Transmitted Disease and/or Infection. This is true for both partners.

You might have noticed I didn't list Plan B (or the Morning After Pill) up there, because it's NOT a contraceptive that should be relied on.

I have used condoms for years, and I prefer it, but I'm also on the pill for reasons other then birth control. If you don't understand how to use a product (like a diaphragm or spermicide for example) just ask a pharmacist. DO NOT use a birth control method you are not comfortable with.

I have problems with Monthly Planning (also called Family Planning Method) and with Withdrawal (also called the Pull Out Method) because women's cycles and ovulation cycles are different for each woman and because even if you do pull out, there is still sperm in the pre-c** that men can't feel come out (or they feel just a bit come out). Even though it is not common to get pregnant from pre-c**, it still happens.

Thanks, that helps alot, been leaning toward the cervical cap. I kind of want to avoid hormones, and my boyfriend uses condoms, and he's clean, I'm the only woman he's been with.  

[Em is asylum]

I was wondering what S&M is...I hear it, but am not exactly what it is.
Another question i had was if you do it not like, hard or anything will that be painful your first time? or will it hurt whether you do it the first couple times hard or soft (as in the intenstiy)  

[Hamsterliciousness]

Em is asylum

I was wondering what S&M is...I hear it, but am not exactly what it is.
Another question i had was if you do it not like, hard or anything will that be painful your first time? or will it hurt whether you do it the first couple times hard or soft (as in the intenstiy)

S&M is short for Sadism and Masochism. Sadism is pleasure from causing pain in others, Masochism is the pleasure pain in yourself. This is most commonly practiced by couples, mistresses/masters, and/or prostitutes.

It's a sexual act, most commonly paired with bondage (restricting someones ability to move [for sexual gratification in this instance]) and Discipline to create that acronym BDSM.

The most common practice is between 2 people (one being the master/mistress, the other being the sub). One is usually the person in power (the dom[inant]) and one is the sub(missive).

There's also something called a switch. It's when a person equally likes the roles of Dom and Sub and they switch roles.


Generally, losing your virginity is painful because the hymen is broken. It causes bleeding in about 3/4 cases. When I lost mine, it was very painful (but that was because there was no foreplay). One major thing to losing your virginity is that its on your terms. If you want him to be as gentle, just tell him. Depending on how flexible you are and how much foreplay there is, it'll hurt your first couple times.  

[Hamsterliciousness]

I'm kinda surprised no one had questions for Valentines Day.  

[Hamsterliciousness]

Ladies, if you have any questions about sex and sexual health, don't be afraid to ask. If you'd like, you can PM me any time. It's confidential.

Just as a reminder.  

[mamegoma1689]

what does b*****b mean? just wondering sweatdrop  

[Hamsterliciousness]

mamegoma1689

what does b*****b mean? just wondering sweatdrop

I can't see what word you're talking about because there's astricks between the first and last letters. Try putting a space between each letter please smile  

[mamegoma1689]

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mamegoma1689

what does b*****b mean? just wondering sweatdrop

I can't see what word you're talking about because there's astricks between the first and last letters. Try putting a space between each letter please smile

ok then nevermind then  

[Hamsterliciousness]

mamegoma1689

Hamsterliciousness

mamegoma1689

what does b*****b mean? just wondering sweatdrop

I can't see what word you're talking about because there's astricks between the first and last letters. Try putting a space between each letter please smile

ok then nevermind then

Sorry for the late reply. Why don't you try messaging me and see if you have the same problem. Most of the time. it's your privacy settings that make the word to be astrick'd out.  

[Hamsterliciousness]

mamegoma1689

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mamegoma1689

what does b*****b mean? just wondering sweatdrop

I can't see what word you're talking about because there's astricks between the first and last letters. Try putting a space between each letter please smile

ok then nevermind then

I was thinking about it, were you talking about a blow job?  

[Isis Sister Of Osiris]

I can't believe I'm actually posting here... cat_sweatdrop I used to be the one everybody came to for advice, but...

I have a bit of a problem lately. I'm, well... perpetually horny. Masturbation helps, but it never really goes away. I'm on the Pill, so it's likely not a hormonal-rollercoaster thing.

Any ideas as to causes and/or solutions?