What is better? Going for looks or going for personality?

[lostphrack]

A little from column A, a little from column B. xd

Seriously though, the looks are a great first hook but it's the personality that'll reel me in. You could be my ideal physical woman, but if the personality either isn't there or is something that really doesn't appeal to me.. well, the looks won't matter much.

On the other hand, there does need to be some amount of physical appeal. Personality is great and it's definitely the glue of a relationship... and maybe this is where my shallowness comes through.. but I think there needs to be some amount of physical attraction and desire for anything beyond friendship to occur. Maybe afterwards the personality can sustain the relationship as time passes on, but initially..?

Meh. I don't know.  

[4chaos69]

queen of qeeks

Without a doubt, personality. Everyone gets fat and ugly in the end. The most important thing to have is someone you can laugh with.

haha not to sure about the fat and ugly thing, but i agree. we all need a soul mate. with witch we can laugh, cry, lose and win with. and in the long run some one above all that as before. you can open up and be vulnerable too, without fear of being hurt.  

[Corbin Noir]

I don't have the patience to deal with people I don't get along with personally -on the other hand if I'm not physically attracted to her then the sex won't happen, which also means we won't go beyond friends.

So, really, it's both. ninja  

[Areashine]

Well, you always initially go for what looks good to you. It doesn't even have to be the most attractive person in the world. But after you give someone a chance because of something you see about them, the personality is always the best part of a person.  

[-Stumblefoot-]

spacepuree

Clearly it's personality that's superior to physical beauty. If you can connect romantically with a person on the deepest level, you look passed what's on the surface.

Very true! but if you like to lick whipped cream off your lover, how much surface can you look passed before your in debt to the milk man!! xp  

[Skeeter Russell]

Of course personality matters. Love is about being compramising and understanding and open, and sacrafice, and drunk, and... happy. Cheers to being miserable! confused  

[Skeeter Russell]

Everyone knows how we live in this world and society. Look up the law of attraction. We attract ourselves to things were attracted to. And people get use to stupid stuff and become attracted to them. Like being beaten, or drugs, or Dr. Pepper, or shirts, or cars. Look at all the advertising in your own city. Its everywhere. Theres a free vid online that is a real eye opener. Zeitgeistmovie. com - later!  

[ThisEmptySoul]

I only watched the first part of Zeitgeist, but it makes me not trust the rest of it. The first part was full of lies. I'm not saying this just as a religious person, but because it did in fact make up things about religions. They took things from Christianity and said they were all present in other religions, then proceeded to "prove Christianity wrong", and thereby prove all religions wrong.

However, some things they tried to say were similar between Christianity and Hinduism were false. For example, Krishna was not born in December nor did He have disciples. Anyone that knows anything at all about Hinduism would realize this. I imagine anyone following any other religion that was pointed out could similarly tell you of the falsities laid out in the film.

It seemed pretty obvious to me that the film maker himself had a certain bias toward the subjects that were being shown, and pulled out anything and everything that supported his belief without researching whether or not it was fact. I'm fine with someone having their own opinion, but it's pretty underhanded to push your opinion out onto others as if it is the truth. I'm sure there are several people that watched the film and thought everything he said was true because of the way it was presented, but it is not all truth.

It's kind of funny how films like this put down all these other things in society and call people sheep for following those and tell them to think for themselves.... yet at the same time they're depending on you to not think for yourself and just believe what they are saying. Following something without question is always bad... just because his opinion is different from the "status quo" doesn't mean that it's thinking for yourself. It just means you're blindly following something else.  

[Classy Dame]

Taxi Mama

The most amazing thing about love... The person you love becomes beautiful to you! I am 40 pounds overweight, wear tank tops & men's shorts all the time, no makeup, with frizzy hair besides. And yet, my husband calls me Sexy, Gorgeous, Beautiful, etc... and I catch him staring at me googly eyed a couple of times a week, so I don't think he's fibbing. As I said, amazing!

Me too!!!!
It is seriously amazing.
I hope everyone can find this love and happiness!!!!

 

[Veddhartha]

Taxi Mama and Classy Dame, you are right. That's the thing called love. heart

What comes to matter of first impressions and noticing that great person, one needs a bit both. I most likely wont be saying anything that hasn't already said, but...

Looks. And something more. I'd call it rather a 'presence'. Its a combination of something about how you look, carry yourself and via that tell something about your personality. A quirk. Or a way to react on surroundings, how you dress, how you even look someone. I do look for certain attractiveness, I truly admit it. Everyone does at least in their subconsciousness. And I do not start to pinpoint what is or is not attractive, its so subjective matter.

How you look and carry yourself most often is the thing that first makes someone notice you. Then comes what you do and say and we get to the personality.

And personality IS the more important thing. It's frustrating, sad and angering to notice that someone who I thought to look interesting (note this, interesting, not necessarily beautiful or handsome) turns out to be a brick, hollow or having traits that you otherwise dislike.

When getting to know someone, you start to focus less on how they look and concentrate more on what kind of persons they are. That determines are you going to be friends, lovers or casual acquaintances. Or will you just keep walking past...

Sometimes, you just know at the first sight will you get along with someone or will you just hate her/him from the guts. Happens to me often and this first gut feeling is almost every time right and it has nothing to do on looks, just the feeling I get from person.  

[Serenity Celestial]

To me it is better to go for personality. There could be this totally hot person..but if that person is a jerk..why want to be with them?..Makes no sence..

 

[MojinR]

Personality. I love a woman who has a balance of intelligence, insanity, spirituality and sexuality regardless of appearance. However, finding one that isn't taken seems difficult. neutral  

[angelplustwo]

queen of qeeks

Without a doubt, personality. Everyone gets fat and ugly in the end. The most important thing to have is someone you can laugh with.

i agree for a long term relationship personality is most important. someone who makes you happy and feel great when your with them! trust me i went the wrong way for many years lol.  

[Mystic12]

I have to say physical looks are very important to me. I love a man that is not fat. I like them perfect. In my eyes he can not be too buff and not too skinny but after I look at him then I listen very closely at what he has to say and how he says it.