boyfriend

[cheerchik]

okay
so last night i was with my guy friend lance at church
and me and him have been close for a while
and my friend jeff kept asking me if i like lance
but of course i kept saying idk cause we havent really been talking
so jeff told me to ask lance if he likes me.
so i asked him and he said yeah he likes me.
but i wasnt suprized.

well during worship he was holding my hand and holding me and stuff
and right after it was all over
he asked me out and now we are dating <3

we talked on the phone for hours.
and he called me like 4 times today
but he hasnt called to say goodnight.
but im dont really care about that.
what im concerned about is the fact that.. i dont think i like him.

i think hes really hott.
hes AMAZING
hes very funny.
i trust with everything.
and i couldnt ask for a better boyfriend.
but i dont think i like him.
and usually if i feel like taht i just break up with my BFs
but lance is waay different.
and i dont wanna break up with him.


we are supposed to hang out this weekend.
should i wait till then to draw my conclusion if i really like him or not?
cause i know he lieks me. he told me hes liked me since the day he met me.
and i think thats really sweet cause we met a longg time ago.
but idk about my feelings for him..

what should i do??
tell him about my mixed feelings?... wait till we hang out again?... or something else??



btw. we dont go to the same school.
but hes 100% trustworthy so i have no problem with that.



&& to add on.
me and lance were on the phone till midnight.
and when we hung i up and i went to bed...
i had a dream that i was making out with this guy that i used to like.
like a week ago..
does that mean i might still have feelings for this guy again?  

[shani26]

It takes time to built a relationship, give yourself time. It took me more then a month to get used to my ex boyfriend, and when i did, we where together for 2 years.  

[Pheromone_21101]

_-♥-_

I have to make it up to ya since I gave you a long post on your last thread.

Let's put it this way:

If you build a house in one day without redoing anything, in a week everything will collapse.

A stronger foundation needs time. If he truly loves you, he will understand. Goodluck dearest.

_-♥-_

 

[Lunar_Sunset]

i think i would just hold on and wait and if about a month u still dont think u like him then tats when i would tell him cuz u dont want to give him the wrong message.  

[cheerchik]

okay
well
yesterday he broke up with me.
because he has really bad grades and family problems and stuff.
and i understand that.

but i never realized how much i actually liked him
until AFTER we broke up
now i cant stop thinking about him.
ive liked him since the moment we met.
and now that we arent dating anymore i doesnt feel like i have anythign to live for.
and i can only see him like every wednesday.


should i tell him how much i care about him now..
even though we are broken up?  

[azrael the reaper_95210]

cheerchik

okay
well
yesterday he broke up with me.
because he has really bad grades and family problems and stuff.
and i understand that.

but i never realized how much i actually liked him
until AFTER we broke up
now i cant stop thinking about him.
ive liked him since the moment we met.
and now that we arent dating anymore i doesnt feel like i have anythign to live for.
and i can only see him like every wednesday.


should i tell him how much i care about him now..
even though we are broken up?

oh, god!!!
don wanna sound mean or anything, but come on! you not sure, when you with him, but then you think you do like him once you aren't. personally I say, go with him. weather you are BF/GF or not, you are really good friends, right. then if you are really as close as all that, then you sound good for each other and should be togeather, weather or not you have time for all the dating and such that is "expected" as BF/GF.  

[shani26]

I don't know, i wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't have time for me cuz he is buzzy.
Mybe you can help him to get better grades, and this way you could see him.  

[Fake Aorta]

When you guys hang out this weekend, get him alone and talk to him about your mixed feelings. Tell him you don't want to break up, but instead need to get your head staright. And if thigns don't work out, If he truely values your friendship, then he will keep talkign to you and stuff, like before you were dating etc. hope I helped some smile  

[Hakib0b]

actually, im saying that its okay to tell him how u feel. i mean, the point is is that he knows how you feel. Maybe something might happen because of that.  

[DvnT]

i say just be with him through whatever if thats what you feel is right. help him get his grades up, help him through his family junk. everything. be what he needs you to be. if thats really how you feel. noboday can ignore that level of adoration....

hope that helps. im only good at deep stuff, sorry. stressed  

[cheerchik]

The Third Kidney

When you guys hang out this weekend, get him alone and talk to him about your mixed feelings. Tell him you don't want to break up, but instead need to get your head staright. And if thigns don't work out, If he truely values your friendship, then he will keep talkign to you and stuff, like before you were dating etc. hope I helped some smile

okay tahts exactly what i did
and we talked everything over
everything is cool
in the theatre.. stuff happen ;D
and 2 days later... he asked me back outt
biggrin D
everythign is back to normalll.
and we are happy againn
THANKS EVERYONEE.