Starting To Date? Advice Mebbe?

[Belle-Manon]

Hey guys! I joined this Guild a while ago but never got around to posting... But here I am anyways!


This probably isn't nearly as pressing as some of the other things are here, but probably easier to give advice on. Anyways, I'm a Freshman in High School and I was considering starting that whole dating junk. Like most people, I'm not the most well-liked kid in my class, but I'm certainly not an outcast.

I've never been on a date before and it seems like a pretty good way to pass the time... And if I /were/ to start dating I'd have a couple of choices to pursue;

The Crush - Someone I've had a crush on for a few years now... But unfortunately is already in a relationship. The good thing is, we're best friends and our relationship is pretty good... But I wouldn't wanna spoil that for tongue-kissing. Same age.

The Nerdy Boys - I know quite a few gamer boys that I'm sure would be willing to escort me... None of them are that bad in the looks department either. Same age.

The Benchwarmer - A kid I don't know too well... But has asked me out twice now, and I've refused twice. At the dance they meant to ask me to, tried to dance with me but I cussed him out instead. Sent me a red rose last Valentine's Day. A little uncouth. Two years older.

The Poet - I don't know much about this person. An avid artist and poet; sent me a purple rose last Valentine's Day. Actually involved with my last crush. A year older.

The Long-Distance Crush - I know this probably wouldn't work, but I'm relatively hopeful. We've known each other for a long time, and we both feel the same way about each other. The only thing is, they live nearly all the way across the States. A few months younger.


I just wanted to know your opinion on things, how your experiences dating have been and advice on who I'd actually pursue.  

[shani26]

I am sorry to say i never took time to really think about dating guys. I am so obsesd with getting a job (even when i have a job, i am allways searching for a better one) or thinking about what to study.
Some guys i met through a fixing up, this allways end up with couple of dates not more, and most of them i met from just beeing near them. When i see a guy i like i just ask him out. Most of the time they think about it first, so they ask me out.
I guess i am not a good example my first kiss was on age 17, and it was a guy i met at a concert, and i never saw him since.
Anyway about you, i say try going out with the guy who ask you out, it is clear he want's you. So i think it is a good start. Jus't one advice for the dating, if you can convince him, without a big fight over this, pay for yourself. This way you don't feel obligat to give something back.  

[K1T3]

the advice i give you will help you for teh rest of your life.

one you never go out with anyone unless you know them. if not get to know them. no matter how long it takes

second if a guy you don't know asks you out and really likes you and shows that he wants to be with you take notice of that!!! you probably scared him for life by yelling at him like that. he may be 2 yrs older but guys are very sensitive when it comes to dating.

third long distance relationships will never work out until you are out of highschool and can drive. highschool is a time when people cheat on orthers especially when on long distance relationships. not to say you'll do that but just to elt you know.

fourth get someone who will respect you. i hate finding girls who complain about how their bf's abused them. well all i can say to that is youc hose that guy. whoever you choose will have lasting affects on your life. it may not seem that important now but beleive me problems that were forgotten about in younger years haunt you in your adulthood. don't make the same msitakes that others make. it's your life make it good.  

[Fake Aorta]

Well, write down good and bad things about all. Make a list. Make a chart. If mroe abd things than good,(And I mean maybe 10+ more than good), Then they're out.

To tell you the truth, I thought you were askign for advice about what to do on a date xd I could help better with that razz  

[Louise the Bump Fairy]

A) Yeah, if you're definitely wanting to start now, ask the guy you called "benchwarmer".

B)Stay away from long distance until you have a job and a car as well. Easier for safety, and less headache and heartache from all the separation that'll be necessary. I'm in my second long distance relationship, I'm 28, and I'll tell you- it's hard.

C) Ask for what you want of any guy you date. A really good indicator of whether or not he's worth the time is if he still respects your wishes, even when he disagrees with you.

D) Honestly, if you don't want to do something with a guy you're dating:

Tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him!
It will ALWAYS turn out worse if you don't, or if you wait. Yes, even if it seesms like hearing "No" will hurt his feelings. Sometimes, that's unavoidable, and it's better to do a little hurt, instead of a lot.  

[Belle-Manon]

You guys are so much help, thank you! :'D

Everyone says to go with Benchwarmer, but he's kind of a pervert. I'm sure I could tame that part of him down, but I just don't like the thought...

Right before I read for new posts, the Crush actually showed interest today!

(And Error-, I could use those too! Socially retarded over here. xD)  

[Louise the Bump Fairy]

Aline Ambrosette Amalthia

You guys are so much help, thank you! :'D

Everyone says to go with Benchwarmer, but he's kind of a pervert. I'm sure I could tame that part of him down, but I just don't like the thought...

Right before I read for new posts, the Crush actually showed interest today!

(And Error-, I could use those too! Socially retarded over here. xD)

Ooh, yeah...I'd have to agree with *you* there. Don't go for him. Maybe tell him, "If you want to go out with me, prove to me you're not a perv any more". *That'd* get his attention, and maybe change his mind about how he acts better than being his girlfriend before that would.

Happy to be of service. ^^