Relationship tips please? Still needing help...

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

Okay, yes I am brand new in this guild. But I seriously need some help. sweatdrop

Okay, so I'm going out with this guy and we've been together for a few months and well. We don't do anything together. We talk to each other ALOT during lunch and stuff. But I'm too shy to hug him or anything.

My friend stole his hoodie one day and wouldn't let him have it back until he hugged me, but that just felt like I was being used.

And earlier today we were holding hands only because my friend got us too. She made us walk back into the school like that. PEOPLE WERE STARING AT US! I felt so weird but totally comfortable...anyways, I want this relationship to go forward but I need a little bit of advice...

Can you guys help, like at all?  

[Eldako]

Well you say you are just a little too shy to hug him or anything. Now I can totally relate to being shy, but you are going out with him so at least you know he likes you. The other thing is even if you are too shy to do those things since he isn't doing them either it might be that he is also shy as well.

In this case I think one of you needs to just give in and try to get closer. You can also talk to him about the issue as well. If you like him then you should talk to him about how you are feeling. I am sure if he cares about you then he will listen and talk it out.

I think if you felt comfortable holding his hand then you should do it more often. It is always scary at first trust me. The key is to try and do it despite the fear of it or shyness. Once you do that you will soon find it easier to get close. That will also solve the whole friends getting you to do these things.

I myself was very afraid to even talk to people in general because I felt no one would like me. The same went for when I found someone I cared about and wanted to be with them. Eventually I worked at it talked about my feelings with said person and it then got a lot easier.

I wish you the best of luck in the relationship and if you ever need some advice or someone just to talk to about things I will be more than happy to do so. biggrin  

[kada-chu]

Looks like I'm not the only shy person hehe.
Well, it might be better if y'all try to go out together on a weekend. You know, where there aren't so many prying eyes to look at you. In my experience, the park is a good, open space to go to :3
Anyway, the best way to get over shyness is to open up to them emotionally. While you're together, see if you can get him to open up to you and you to him about stuff in life - establish deep levels :3 then you'll feel wayyy more at ease with a hug... hopefully sweatdrop

best of luck ninja  

[Zamoles]

I think your friend is acting wrong!!! your letting her control your relationship. I think you should talk to her and make her see you feel bad about her attitude. I think she would understand that if she really appreciates your friendship. As for your boyfriend, I think you will have time to know each other, so dont be hasty...  

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

Thanks guys, I'm glad that I've gotten some advice. I think it will probably help me a lot. biggrin  

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

Okay, I am still extremely shy and whenever I try to get close I just back down since I'm so nervous. I want to hold his hand but he always has his hands in his pockets.

My friend doesn't try to get me to do stuff to often so I think she's getting better at holding herself back from this, what she doesn't realize is how shy I am...

How she put it, is that she is cupid for me, since my boyfriend and I wouldn't even have started to go out if it wasn't for her so I thank her for that.

But it's hard to do stuff outside of school since he's actually not supposed to be dating at all xd Which I find hilarious. We're in Grade 8 if your wondering... But the most we can do is during lunch we always go out to the dock at the pond out back of our school.

And lately I can never think of anything to say...help please?  

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

I'm still needing help here.... sweatdrop  

[QUW00SH]

DiSaStRoUs DeMoN CaT

Okay, I am still extremely shy and whenever I try to get close I just back down since I'm so nervous. I want to hold his hand but he always has his hands in his pockets.

My friend doesn't try to get me to do stuff to often so I think she's getting better at holding herself back from this, what she doesn't realize is how shy I am...

How she put it, is that she is cupid for me, since my boyfriend and I wouldn't even have started to go out if it wasn't for her so I thank her for that.

But it's hard to do stuff outside of school since he's actually not supposed to be dating at all xd Which I find hilarious. We're in Grade 8 if your wondering... But the most we can do is during lunch we always go out to the dock at the pond out back of our school.

And lately I can never think of anything to say...help please?

if u both allways have ur hands in ur pockets, then y not just give him a hug instead? i kno that may make u rly nervous, but u gotta face that someday. besides he probably will like the hug. also about the fact that he isnt supposed 2 date. i can understand that. my parents are like that too, and im in 9th grade. according 2 them, i cant date til im 16 lol (i wonder what made them think i'd actually follow that rule...)  

[shani26]

What happen if you try to meet his parents just as a friend, mybe if they like you they will change their minds about dating.  

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

shani26

What happen if you try to meet his parents just as a friend, mybe if they like you they will change their minds about dating.

uhm yeah...'bout that...I can't even call his house without his parents thinking I'm tormenting him. >_< I mean c'mon, how stupid is that....  

[erickaxoxox]

well how old r u? cuz if ur like 12 then just leave it alone ur too young for that anyways -.-

but if ur like 13/14 then just tell him "hey, i wana hold ur hand!"

or if u want to be subtle x] gently brush ur arm against his, maybe he'll get the idea.  

[_-DiZzY LiZaRd-_]

We're 13, and like I said before...I'm EXTREMELY shy....but I'm gonna see if I can get to school before him tomorrow. He takes the bus and I walk....I have to leave at like 7:10 in the morning to get there befor ehim but oh well. I get up at 6:00 anyways. I almost got to school before him on Friday but my little brother made me leave late. Thank god my little brother is only in grade 4 and isn't to close to being in highschool yet. biggrin  

[LoraHime-Chan]

Well... get over your shyness. oO

Give him subtle hints, I forgot where I read/saw these tricks from but say something like. "My hands are cold" to get him to hold your hand. But don't do it when it is extremely warm weather. If it doesn't work talk to him. Tell him that this is awkward for you two to not have any public display. Also try to see him a little afterschool.

Also a little adivce is also to not see your boyfriend too much. No offense but love if you see each other too much then it isn't quite as special anymore. It becomes something ordinary and other crap. Its not always good to see each other too often. If you distance yourself a little but don't act cold he might miss you and this might urge him a little. I am sorry if my advice offends you or anyone.