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If you could would you stay home with your kids or return to work? |
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Work for me :) |
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Work from home so I can do both |
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Part-time for me, I love my kids but I need time away too |
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No kids for me yet! |
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 12:43 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 2:58 pm
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I stayed home until my youngest was born. I could. But my marriage fell apart because of that. My situation isn't "normal" though. I know I'm glad I stayed home. My brother, on the other hand, stayed home with his, and he was the house dad, while his wife worked. She made more than he did, and they didn't want to give all their "extra" money to child care and still not have ends meet. It was what was best for them. Now, she stays home, and he works, since there's 3 little ones and he is the money maker, in a different state. Take everything into consideration, with the money, and find if either of you can stay home with the new baby instead of paying someone else to raise your child. If it's not feasible, then it's not, and there should be no guilt with either of you. As for neglecting your relationship with your husband, it's changed already. Both of you are going to be tired. Both of you need to take turns getting up in the middle of the night, cleaning the house, changing diapers, cooking, and all the rest. You will both be very tired for a while. Welcome to parenthood. You'll find that you wouldn't change anything for the whole world, no matter how much more work it is. You'll realize that a cluttered house just isn't as important as it was before, and you'll catch up with the housework when you feel like it, while not allowing it to get so bad you can't deal with it. You'll be ok....pick and choose your battles, though. Congratulations on the new life you've brought into this world.
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 5:14 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 10:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 23, 2008 2:58 am
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Also..
remember that hubby needs to step up to the plate 50% along with you. Not all men, but most men fail to forget that they have an equal responsibility in everything, including changing that diaper.
You could flip-flop the responsibilities around that way everyone has an equal opportunity here. If you cook on Monday and Wednesday, he cleans the dished Monday and Wednesday. If he cooks on Tuesdays and Thursdays, YOU clean the dishes on Tuesdays and Thursdays... Let Friday and Saturday be your time-away from cooking, enjoy going out.
I might suggest the two of you to sit down together and plan out the things that DO need to get done (laundry is a definite, cooking, basic clean up, baby care, etc)... Alternate it so no one feels like they are doing it all.
Thankfully, as the baby gets older, they will love playing and things will ease up a bit.
but, the most important thing to remember, is that you cannot take care of the baby unless you can take care of each other. Its going to be a little hard at first, but once the both of you have a routine down, it will be so much easier to manage...
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 8:57 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 6:50 am
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Housework is definitely low priority, loving your husband and baby come first, and enjoying your time together. It's great to plan actual dates with your husband, but sometimes you'll find brief, unexpected dates in your lives. If you two go to the grocery store together while your mom watches the baby, declare it a "mini-date," hold hands on the shopping cart handles, sneak a kiss in the frozen food aisle if you find yourselves the only shoppers there at the moment. Even now (my youngest is 18!) my husband and I have surprise mini-dates. He picked me up at work yesterday, I looked in the back of the van and saw there were no kids in the car, so I declared it a "date." For the 10 minutes we drove home together, we could connect on an "adults-only" level. I read somewhere that the most important thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother. That truth goes both ways - if you want to do something wonderful for your children, love your husband as unconditionally as you love your baby. Growing up knowing that their parents are head-over-heels in love with each other and respect one another, imparts deep security and a wonderful model for what married life can be. Enjoy your amazing new family! heart
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Posted: Fri Oct 03, 2008 8:17 pm
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Posted: Fri Oct 03, 2008 10:10 pm
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Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 11:36 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 2:57 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 8:42 pm
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 12:36 pm
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