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Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 4:25 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 6:35 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 05, 2009 10:53 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 4:37 pm
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This probably isn't what you want to hear, but having a crush on someone is still cheating in a sense. Even if you don't do anything physically, you are cheating mentally and emotionally. If you just think the guy is good looking, then that's different, but to "crush" implies that you have at least fantasized about being with him.
As for the situation, it seems everyone in it has trouble with commitment. The blame can be distributed to your husband and the female friend of his... as well as you. This female friend seems to be taking advantage of an already seeded distrust to incite further drama... she didn't need to plant anything, just nurture it. She is probably a woman who enjoys causing drama to those around her and herself. Some proof of this is her setting your husband up with women that he is incompatible with. She's clearly not in it for the happiness of anyone.
You already seeded some distrust by having a "crush" on someone else despite being in a relationship {and there may even be more to this than you are letting on or realize}. Your husband, instead of being an adult and talking it out with you decided to turn elsewhere for support {the female friend}, and she led him astray to satisfy her desire for drama.
Honestly, I think it's hard to give advice when there's three people that all have separate issues that need resolving before everything will be "better". Even if you managed to get your husband to sever his ties with the female friend, the distrust you planted with your "crush" could possibly still linger and your husband would then be acting on his own instead of with the advice of someone else.... which won't necessarily be better in the end.
Once doubt has set in, it's incredibly hard to get rid of, especially if the circumstances surrounding the doubt remain unchanged.
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Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 5:05 pm
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Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2009 6:38 am
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Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2009 5:48 pm
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Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2009 9:19 am
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Posted: Mon Mar 09, 2009 4:34 pm
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Posted: Wed Mar 11, 2009 8:33 am
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Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 4:46 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 1:29 am
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