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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 3:01 pm
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I'm gonna mention that this whole advice is gonna make this situtation remind you of highschool, as it reminds me of it. And thus I ask for advice because ill pull my hair out if this goes on any longer. (Sorry if my typing is jacked in anyway, carpal tunnel is killing my typing skills)
I have a best friend. She's really great and always so mature. Shes always kept me very grounded, and knew when to say "Allie, grow up" But recently I can't take her "whines" about being single and such.
I'll try and make this simple and quick. She liked a guy, she asked him out. He said no. Her EVERYTHING was crushed. but he didnt say no because shes fuggly. he said no because he's GAY. he likes men. Not women. But her everything is crushed. She has no reason though. Shes a size 3 with D boobs. She's got a kicking body and face, and shes alot of fun. But she can't stop saying how fat...and ugly...and stupid she is. At first i hugged her and did my best to make it better. But its on month 6....and she hasnt gotten over a gay guy. I tried to explain no matter how awesome she was hed still say no because hes gay....but she just kept getting so negative. So by month six i cant even take this "I'm gonna be alone forever. Why go to this party its all couples" even though both of those are lies Seriously? everyone feels shitty and lonely, but they get past it. And when I went through the "I'm gonna die alone" phase I tried to keep it quiet because i didnt want to annoy her, and I got past it. I grew up.
I don't know what to do with her. Last night she went on a big down spiral...and everything i said she shot down with a great anger. So i said I can't help you. I love you, but i can't help you. If you arent going to listen to my advice, then please stop asking for it. There have been many times where i had a baby fit and she told me to put on "my big girl panties" and go on. And it hurts., shocks, but it helped.
So i tried it on her. At first I thought it worked. Then it went back into her pitty party. So by the point im angry. So i just said "Sorry, i can't talk to you" and thats where i am now. I feel useless as a friend. A real jerk. But i swear if she says any of her negative s**t again i might eat her face. What happened to her mature side? I feel like im in highschool thanks to last night.
I just need advice on how to talk and deal with her. Because i feel like ive poured so much effort into this problem. I'm at the point everytime she talkes about it I change the subject or stop talking to her.
I know she's never had a boyfriend or anything like that. But neither have I...but i am not whining about some boy. Seriously. I don't need a man to be happy. I should make myself happy first, then add a guy to make extra happy. But i think she thinks ALL of her happiness will happen with a guy. Which sadly doesnt happen. SO HELP!!! ahhh!
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 3:17 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 3:25 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 3:54 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 4:05 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 8:46 pm
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