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Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 2:52 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 4:28 pm
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Dark Mistress Rissa Tuba Toothpaste I am now 19 years old, and I was spanked as a child. I was only spanked with a hand, never with a paddle or belt or anything, and I was only spanked if I did something seriously wrong. Thing like a child running across a street without looking, or playing with knives or something. I don't have a problem with spanking as long as it doesn't go too far. Edit: And just to add to my post, I think it goes too far if a parent does it just because they are angry. Some parents spank their kids to relieve their own frustrations with them instead of a way to teach them. That is when it is wrong. Agreed. Spanking a child out of anger isn't the way to go. Parents need to take a deep breath and think about what they're doing before they spank the child. It's not good to spank a child to get rid of frustration. It just makes the child think it's alright to hit when you're upset. Exactly! Someone mentioned that studies showed that children that were spanked grew up to be violent....by I think the ones that are violent were spanked because their parents were angry. That is where they learn to be violent when they are angry.
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Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 4:40 pm
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Tuba Toothpaste Dark Mistress Rissa Tuba Toothpaste I am now 19 years old, and I was spanked as a child. I was only spanked with a hand, never with a paddle or belt or anything, and I was only spanked if I did something seriously wrong. Thing like a child running across a street without looking, or playing with knives or something. I don't have a problem with spanking as long as it doesn't go too far. Edit: And just to add to my post, I think it goes too far if a parent does it just because they are angry. Some parents spank their kids to relieve their own frustrations with them instead of a way to teach them. That is when it is wrong. Agreed. Spanking a child out of anger isn't the way to go. Parents need to take a deep breath and think about what they're doing before they spank the child. It's not good to spank a child to get rid of frustration. It just makes the child think it's alright to hit when you're upset. Exactly! Someone mentioned that studies showed that children that were spanked grew up to be violent....by I think the ones that are violent were spanked because their parents were angry. That is where they learn to be violent when they are angry.
Thank you.
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Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2011 1:35 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 16, 2011 3:39 am
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 6:23 am
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2011 9:21 am
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I was never spanked as a child but honestly, I really should have been.
I'd rather see a child spanked for crossing the road without looking, or taking off randomly, than being tied up to a leash. To me, that's more mentally abusive than spanking!
There's a fine line, though. I agree with the above posts.
Spanking is one of the few ways little kids will really understand that they did something wrong. They can't grasp safety or complex moral issues quite yet, but can correlate some uncomfortable pain with an action that isn't allowed.
I don't think spanking will prevent teenage rebellion, however. I'm a good student and respect my parents. And I was never ever spanked, despite being a horrid brat as a child.
It's more difficult to study the effects of spanking on a teen. Honor roll students, maybe? But even then, kids with high GPAs may still be getting high and breaking their parent's rules.
It's easier to research the effect of spanking on a child's behavior. In some cases, it works. In others, it doesn't. A parent that keeps spanking their child even if it doesn't work is borderline abusive.
Spanking is supposed to be a discipline method -- if the discipline isn't happening, the parent is obviously taking out their pent up anger out on a misbehaving child.
My boyfriend's mother was telling me about how she tried to spank him. It only made things worse. Since it didn't work and all it helped to do was get her frustration out, she used other methods that actually curbed his bad behavior.
It depends on the kid and the parent. Unless the kid is really physically hurt and the parent is only doing it for cruelty's sake, the law shouldn't get involved.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 2:59 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2011 7:06 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2011 8:46 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2011 11:00 am
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2011 4:33 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2011 2:15 am
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