Any other only children having a tough time with this?

[1997 Ford Escort]

Ok, I guess this might be a little bizarre, but bear with me.
First and foremost, I'm pansexual but I rarely express as much because I don't feel like it's something worth going over. I don't talk about it with my friends or family, and they're content to believe I'm closed-minded/straight as a rail.
Recently, I feel in love with another girl who feels the same, and we've been together for the better and worse of three months or so. I like discussing future ideas with her, mushy stuff like that, yadda yadda.

However, I feel awful for keeping this from my parents. I don't want to know how they'd react, and I don't want them to wake up feeling like they gave birth to an abomination from whatever point of realization to the day they die, especially if I end up with a dude in the end. I feel doubly awful because I'm their only child, and I think they expect biological children and all of that.

I'm probably just low on B Vitamins or something, but can anyone relate? Words of advice are always cool too.  

[kikioblack]

I'm not an only child but I am the only female child with an 8th generation name that they want passed on. The first person I was with was a female and my mom made a big deal out of it. It may feel like a huge and heavy burden but at the same time it's not worth forcing yourself to be with someone to please your parents, you may end up with a guy or just marry a female. Who knows, but it's best to be true to your own feeling so it doesn't feel you're living a lie.

You wont live with your parents forever and making the choice is your own. Maybe before you come out to them find out what they think of people being gay, that'll prepare you a little bit for when and if you ever come out.  

[III Zee_Gay_Necro III]

Just be true to yourself, if your parents are closed minded don't talk about it.

Or at least wait till your the legal age to get out (whatever it may be in your state or country.)

Also wow, don't you just love it when parents EXPECT their daughters to make babies for them, like their some kind of pet for breeding and mating?  

[1997 Ford Escort]

I feel like an a** keeping it secret for whatever reason, I guess I just like being open and honest these days.

And! They don't expect me to have kids, but I feel obliged. I even said adopting kids is more appealing to me, and they just sort of agree and say they don't care what I do as long as I'm happy, but I really just feel awful and like a giant let down. Like, uh, they're SUPPOSED to be supportive just because, but inside it's really saddening to them, you know?  

[Tick_FM]

firt off: i'm the only child in my family and mom loves me more than anything on tis planet (probably way too much) and often speaks about my children. :l she's a total homophobe, just like my dad but i rarely talk to him, and i'm afraid to tell her about my relations with a girl for 3 years now (long-distance relationship though) ... not that i'm afraid she'll beat me up or throw me out, but i think that by telling her i'll be a total as-shole betraying her hopes. :l

i tried to talk to her about homosexuals and make her think they're the same people as straight ones, but she never agreed. sometimes she suspected me, but she thought i'm just curious or, what's the dumbest part of it, not self-confident and shy with boys. :l

i don't know what your parents feel about other gay/bi people, but if they just don't care or something, it's ok to tell them if you feel so, i guess? a little change in your life won't hurt. but if you know that your parents will be hurt by your orientation, then i'm at a loss.. you may wait some time until you'll have freedom from your parents and then tell them? or risk and tell them now? i'm not sure, sorry. sweatdrop