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Posted: Sun Apr 10, 2011 10:38 pm
Believe it or not, I'm in a very similar situation! I live in another small town with very few gay people, none of which I'm attracted to (there is one guy I've got a crush on, but chances of him being gay are next to none sad ). Not only that, I'm stuck here without having the money to move away (damn you, student loans!!!) The people on the internet are also a bunch of mansluts who want one night stands. Unfortunately, the only advice I can offer is to wait it out. I'm thinking of going to school again (go after my masters in psychology or get a law degree), and if I do I'm going to a school in a big city. Good luck! 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Apr 10, 2011 10:47 pm
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Believe it or not, I'm in a very similar situation! I live in another small town with very few gay people, none of which I'm attracted to (there is one guy I've got a crush on, but chances of him being gay are next to none sad ). Not only that, I'm stuck here without having the money to move away (damn you, student loans!!!) The people on the internet are also a bunch of mansluts who want one night stands. Unfortunately, the only advice I can offer is to wait it out. I'm thinking of going to school again (go after my masters in psychology or get a law degree), and if I do I'm going to a school in a big city. Good luck! 3nodding
Much luck to you! Yeah I feel you on the Crushing the ones that are more than likely not homosexual. It's depressing. I can't afford to go to school, because of two problems. No car. Lost my license and have to do traffic school which costs 1,200$. Also, I can't go to college because my dad supports me, and he makes too much for me to be accepted for Free college money (Which is based off your parents income) He makes just over 56k a year, and their cutoff limit is around 52,500$ last I was told. Student loans would be great if I had transportation and a home to stay in.
I'm just waiting until I can get a crappy job at Mcdonalds or something to start paying to get my traffic school done. ;O;
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2011 12:01 am
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Ah, sorry to hear that. I just have the problem of me being young, bi, and part of a strong catholic family. Plus there aren't any bi/lez girls around..Anywho, I'd just say try and grow a good bond//friendship with someone online or wherever, that lives out of town and has the opportunity to pick you up or to visit you or something along those lines, even if the trip isn't a long one, it helps one cope smile
First off, I'd like to say that I'm not a bear, nor am I attracted to bears. Therefore, the validity of my advice [regarding dating] is questionable.
+ Your town sounds rather conservative. As such, I suggest that you do not publicly announce or display your sexuality, as it might start a ruckus around town (which you don't want).
+ I understand that your town is small. Try using other online sites to keep your interest and social life going. Other sites such as bearforest.com, okcupid.com, dlist.com, downelink.com, connexion.org, etc, can offer you a large variety of men to talk to. Who knows. You may even find someone in your town that you would have never guessed. Also, try webcamming through Skype or any other device/site that has it. If you dislike online dating sites, then why don't you just hang out with the other gays (your relatives)? Don't cavort with them, obviously. But just mingle and hang out.
+ Honestly, you should focus on yourself before diverting your attention to relationships. It's good to have a boyfriend [or any kind of love life for that matter], but it's better to have your own life intact first. Get that/those job(s), start saving up, and move out of that town [eventually]. Once you've moved to a less-rural area, you'll start to see your social life grow.
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2011 8:03 am
wait....you can look for a boyfriend on Craigslist? i thought about that but i thought it would be strange
First off, I'd like to say that I'm not a bear, nor am I attracted to bears. Therefore, the validity of my advice [regarding dating] is questionable.
+ Your town sounds rather conservative. As such, I suggest that you do not publicly announce or display your sexuality, as it might start a ruckus around town (which you don't want).
+ I understand that your town is small. Try using other online sites to keep your interest and social life going. Other sites such as bearforest.com, okcupid.com, dlist.com, downelink.com, connexion.org, etc, can offer you a large variety of men to talk to. Who knows. You may even find someone in your town that you would have never guessed. Also, try webcamming through Skype or any other device/site that has it. If you dislike online dating sites, then why don't you just hang out with the other gays (your relatives)? Don't cavort with them, obviously. But just mingle and hang out.
+ Honestly, you should focus on yourself before diverting your attention to relationships. It's good to have a boyfriend [or any kind of love life for that matter], but it's better to have your own life intact first. Get that/those job(s), start saving up, and move out of that town [eventually]. Once you've moved to a less-rural area, you'll start to see your social life grow.
Thank you. I've just come to the conclusion that finding work is my basic option. Thanks for your advice. I needed a few other points of views.
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2011 9:23 am
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wait....you can look for a boyfriend on Craigslist? i thought about that but i thought it would be strange
personally? if you're looking to leave where you are, i'd put a relationship on the backburner and second-thought it.
by that, i mean focus on getting yourself in a place you want to be (physically, in this case), then go forth and conquer your dating sphere (so to speak).
as for the emotional part, i would definitely work on finding things you like and connecting w/ people who like that (which is very cliche, but it's worked for me so i figure i might as well say it).
as for college, is it possible for you to go to community college for a few years and gain an associate's degree? it's not a bachelor's, but it'll get you a leg up and is definitely better than just a highschool diploma when job seeking.
you also don't have to go straight to college, and therefore can build up some money to go to college. (thumbs-up emoji)
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2016 6:46 pm
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personally? if you're looking to leave where you are, i'd put a relationship on the backburner and second-thought it.
by that, i mean focus on getting yourself in a place you want to be (physically, in this case), then go forth and conquer your dating sphere (so to speak).
as for the emotional part, i would definitely work on finding things you like and connecting w/ people who like that (which is very cliche, but it's worked for me so i figure i might as well say it).
as for college, is it possible for you to go to community college for a few years and gain an associate's degree? it's not a bachelor's, but it'll get you a leg up and is definitely better than just a highschool diploma when job seeking.
you also don't have to go straight to college, and therefore can build up some money to go to college. (thumbs-up emoji)
This thread is 5 years old, some troll necro'd it. I'm going to be closing this down~
Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2016 6:47 pm
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personally? if you're looking to leave where you are, i'd put a relationship on the backburner and second-thought it.
by that, i mean focus on getting yourself in a place you want to be (physically, in this case), then go forth and conquer your dating sphere (so to speak).
as for the emotional part, i would definitely work on finding things you like and connecting w/ people who like that (which is very cliche, but it's worked for me so i figure i might as well say it).
as for college, is it possible for you to go to community college for a few years and gain an associate's degree? it's not a bachelor's, but it'll get you a leg up and is definitely better than just a highschool diploma when job seeking.
you also don't have to go straight to college, and therefore can build up some money to go to college. (thumbs-up emoji)
This thread is 5 years old, some troll necro'd it. I'm going to be closing this down~
ahh christ. ok, thanks for letting me know!
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2016 6:48 pm
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personally? if you're looking to leave where you are, i'd put a relationship on the backburner and second-thought it.
by that, i mean focus on getting yourself in a place you want to be (physically, in this case), then go forth and conquer your dating sphere (so to speak).
as for the emotional part, i would definitely work on finding things you like and connecting w/ people who like that (which is very cliche, but it's worked for me so i figure i might as well say it).
as for college, is it possible for you to go to community college for a few years and gain an associate's degree? it's not a bachelor's, but it'll get you a leg up and is definitely better than just a highschool diploma when job seeking.
you also don't have to go straight to college, and therefore can build up some money to go to college. (thumbs-up emoji)
This thread is 5 years old, some troll necro'd it. I'm going to be closing this down~
ahh christ. ok, thanks for letting me know!
I appreciate the reply haha. In other news, I begin college this fall and I've been in a relationship for 4 years now! (long distance).
Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2016 6:51 pm
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personally? if you're looking to leave where you are, i'd put a relationship on the backburner and second-thought it.
by that, i mean focus on getting yourself in a place you want to be (physically, in this case), then go forth and conquer your dating sphere (so to speak).
as for the emotional part, i would definitely work on finding things you like and connecting w/ people who like that (which is very cliche, but it's worked for me so i figure i might as well say it).
as for college, is it possible for you to go to community college for a few years and gain an associate's degree? it's not a bachelor's, but it'll get you a leg up and is definitely better than just a highschool diploma when job seeking.
you also don't have to go straight to college, and therefore can build up some money to go to college. (thumbs-up emoji)
This thread is 5 years old, some troll necro'd it. I'm going to be closing this down~
ahh christ. ok, thanks for letting me know!
I appreciate the reply haha. In other news, I begin college this fall and I've been in a relationship for 4 years now! (long distance).
well hey, congrats on both college and the boyfriend! hope they both work out really well for you gaia_diamond
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