Telling the Boyfriend...

[MommiiDearest]

That I'd like him to dress like a girl.
Okai... SO, here it is.
I'm a female, and straight, buuuut I want my boyfriend to look like a woman because he is beautiful.
When we first started dating almost three years ago he was tiny, had long hair, wore girly clothes, and got teased for being gay even though he wasn't gay, or even bi.
I started dating him for the fact that he looked like a woman, but was a man.
I'm not sure if there is even a name for that, being a woman who is dating a man who looks like a woman?
Anyways, I'd mentioned that I'd like him to start dressing up in the bedroom, and he was responsive, but I'm not sure if he'd be alright with looking like a female again all the time.
Am I being selfish?

 

[Lady Kayura]

That's tricky.

I'd tell him what you've said in this post, emphasizing that you love him and are attracted to him and what attracted you to him in the first place.

As for all the time, I think that's too much to ask. Especially if doing that was causing him problems. But what's not to say he can't do it when it won't cause him any problems?  

[CheizLord]

I don't think it's selfish if you want it, but if its something he's not open to then I think you have to respect that. If you don't then I'd say then you would be selfish. I say try proposing the idea and see what he says. basically it has to be a mutually wanted thing. If its not then no matter how much you want him to its probably not going to happen. If it is something he's willing to try doing for you then all the more power to you. Just make sure you're open for compromise, like when and where he dresses up for you.  

[MommiiDearest]

Thanks guys =]  

[Transrexia]

Oh, sweetheart, that's a toughie. My now-husband and I have the same problem. I was attracted to him immediately because he looks /exactly/ like an elf. Long, rich auburn hair, thin yet strong, highly angled facial features, and taller then all get out. While I'd love to let my pretty-powers loose on him and start caking on the makeup and breaking out the hair ribbons, I have to remember who he is and who he wants to be. It's unfair to try to make a person something they don't want to be. That's a problem LGBT people suffer through under the people they love, and we don't want to do that to the people we love, do we? It's like forcing a crossdresser into gender-oriented clothes because it makes you feel more comfortable with them. It's not who he is. And full-time crossdressers are mercilessly teased and judged by those around them. Don't force him into that, if it's not something he wants.

Good luck, darling! Blessings.