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 Posted: Sat Jan 21, 2012 10:55 pm
This might have already been discussed, but I thought I would bring it up.
This is something I think about a lot, and I wanted to know what your guys' opinion of it is?
Personally, I think hook-ups are disgusting. I've had many bad experiences with it. Mostly when I first came out, and was trying to meet a guy, because I had never met any other gay people. I ended up falling for some, and found out they were only interested in hooking up.
Call me old fashioned, but i just think it's disgusting going out and looking for someone just to have sex with.
I'm all for monogamy, and i think that is something that should be shared between two people who love each other, or at least care for each other very much!
What do ya'lls think?
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 12:31 am
I am not into hook-ups, I rather have a long lasting relationship. Hook-ups often leads to problems it seems.
I want love, not a one night stand, especially when I don't know anything about the other person, feel comfortable around them or have a connection.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 2:04 am
I never got the point of hooking up. Though apparently I'm a bit odd because I viewed dating as only useful if you're going to find your mate and marry someone. Why put time and effort into a relationship if you aren't planning on it lasting forever. This is the primary reason why I dated very little in high school. I intended to go to college and didn't want to limit myself with marrying a boy from my hometown. Not to sound horrible, but I knew there were bigger and better fishies out there for me.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:02 am
hello, by the way. (:
on the note of hook-ups...it's completely circumstantial. it depends on your chemistry, how you know/met the person, what you both want, etc.
for example, this girl named katy. she and i had a fling two years ago, and all that she had been wanting was sex. i was already in a relationship at the time anyway, so i wasn't terribly heartbroken. but that was when we were both 15, both very much not sober, and just in need of some affection.
recently, i stayed the night with her. and it wasn't at all the kind of crazy passion we'd had before. she wants to be with me (and for the record, it's not gonna happen cos i'm crazy about my girl<3), but that night was so relaxed, we were stimulated enough just talking. (well i was, haha.) we ended up having sex anyway, mostly due to my boredom and her being a leo, but the point is that that night couldve gone without sex and been essentially the same thing, but it was still a hook-up, one-night-stand kind of deals.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 10:11 am
So, for you, monogamy is the way to go. What about people who are happily involved in polyamorous or open relationships? People don't have to be monogamous to be in a committed relationship.
I see nothing wrong with hooking up with someone, no strings attached, if all people involved have the same expectations, and are honest about them. Sex can be a lot of fun, and I don't think it's "disgusting" when it happens outside of relationships for recreational purposes.
It's problematic when one or more of the parties involved isn't honest about their motivations or intentions. I think it's cruel to give someone the wrong idea, just to get them into bed. Similarly, I've known people who hook up, then get attached, and make their partner out as some kind of villain just because they don't want anything more serious.
Personally, I don't enjoy one-night stands or hook-ups; I understand myself and my personality well enough to know that they aren't for me. I know what works for me, but I'm not going to call other people disgusting just because they have a different attitude towards sex.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:46 pm
I have nothing against hooking up, though I could never hook up with anyone.
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