Advice for an idiot

[Veneficus Monstrum]

The ones who read this may think I got into some sort of argument with someone, and that person is the idiot. Sadly, that is not the case (this time). I am that idiot... emotion_8c

Here's the thing, in roughly 2 hours I will be going to my first college club meeting: a taiko drum group. I'm pretty excited and nervous at the same time (I don't do well around strangers), but there's one thing that has me worried: This guy that I've met and talked to a few times is in it (he's part of my friend's Lutheran church). He's pretty damn fun and cool, not to mention cute. And straight. At least I'm 90% sure about it... confused Anyways, I don't want to end up falling for him or anything like that. I already have a very mild crush on him, and there's no need to torture myself in the future over impossibilities.

Does anyone have any sort of advice for this kind of situation? It's probably about time I asked, since this seems to happen to me more often than not... >_>  

[Ahlys]

It reminds me of a situation I had in one of my earlier High school days.
I have a dreadful tendency to end up accidentally getting crushes on people when I'm totally not suited for them, or visa versa.

What I did was to remind myself that:

1. We'd be better off as friends.

2. He certainly didn't look at me that way.

3. I didn't know him that well, and we don't have so much in common.

4. There was practically no chance of a future with the guy, and although they may be cute and funny, it'd be better to think


I'm one of those people that will probably never find anyone, since I have a personality that guys really don't like in people they'll date, so I just dish out the advice that has applied to me in the past....I'm sorry if it sucks. :face palm:

You're welcome to talk to me about anything else in this situation. 3nodding
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Ahlys

 

[Falsequivalence]

I do my best to entirely avoid people I'm attracted to...  

[Veneficus Monstrum]

Ahlys

It reminds me of a situation I had in one of my earlier High school days.
I have a dreadful tendency to end up accidentally getting crushes on people when I'm totally not suited for them, or visa versa.

What I did was to remind myself that:

1. We'd be better off as friends.

2. He certainly didn't look at me that way.

3. I didn't know him that well, and we don't have so much in common.

4. There was practically no chance of a future with the guy, and although they may be cute and funny, it'd be better to think


I'm one of those people that will probably never find anyone, since I have a personality that guys really don't like in people they'll date, so I just dish out the advice that has applied to me in the past....I'm sorry if it sucks. :face palm:

You're welcome to talk to me about anything else in this situation. 3nodding
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Ahlys

This actually helps a lot, thanks! And it's kind of the same with me, usually my personality and spikes scare people off... emotion_0A0  

[Dark Wolf Oria]

i say, be yourself and if he turns out to be straight, you can still try to be friends. if he's a homophobic d**k, then he ain't the one for you. get me?