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I found out today that my Mom is against PDA and such. She goes "It's rather immature if you do it in public".

...and yet I did some PDA this morning.

I'm not a big fan of it in any type of couple, same-sex or not. Holding hands and small pecks on the cheek are okay, but groping, licking, and humping aren't.
For me, it really depends on how sexually explicit they look.

The rede is just advice, it doesn't mean you can't do something that harms, and it isn't really Wiccan, it came after the core of Wicca was established and isn't part of the oaths or anything- I kind of think it's a bad guideline in this kind of thing, for example, are you harming a child-parent relationship if you're doing PDA in public and the parent wants to teach about that at home in a year when the child will be better able to understand ideas that aren't self-centered the way a child's mind is? It isn't that kids are stupid, but that there are stages of psychological development and education should match that. So is that creating harm? If nothing else- it is intruding on a parent's right to parent, that to me is harm. It would be harm if a straight couple did it too.

Is it harm if it inspires lust in the heart of someone who isn't pagan- someone who belongs to a religion where lust is a sin? We're hardwired to have reactions to certain images, if your actions inspire a spiritual fall in someone else when you can do it away from them- aren't you harming them? Maybe they work hard to avoid things like porn and stuff online, but now they can't go out in public without risking seeing strangers? Isn't that taking away from their quality of life?

This isn't that I think PDA is bad or should be banned or anything- I'm just showing why the Rede isn't useful in this situation, because we're responsible for both our intentions and our impact- and intentions don't erase impact.