Pep talk please? Need a bit of help.

[SilentVex]

So lately I've been thinking, even though the idea of sleeping with someone disgusts me at this point, that aside from that aspect I'm bisexual (and yet asexual for my lack of desire for sleeping with anyone.) and should come out to my family.

Here's my issue, they all would accept me, but I still can't tell them. I KNOW they will, they've made many good bisexual friends in my grade level and I should have no issues.

But I'm too scared to say it. I've tried, but every time I get the idea either I get too scared to or they've gone before I can say anything, THEN I'mm too scared.

Help?  

[lgtenos]

SilentVex

I KNOW they will...

You've answered your own question. Good luck~  

[SilentVex]

lgtenos

SilentVex

I KNOW they will...

You've answered your own question. Good luck~

I may have answered it, doesn't mean I can do it. It's like, I stand there, I'm about to tell them, and I freeze mentally. And I know there's no reason to be afraid, but the idea of telling them terrifies me still.

Like... It's hard to explain. There's that small 'What if' Voice that pops up or something and makes me doubt for just long enough for the oppertunity to pass.  

[BSPBleach]

Hmm.....maybe you need negative therapy. You say that you know they will be okay with it right? There's just that little voice in the way?

Ok. Indulge it. Go through it in your mind. What are the worst possibilities that can happen. They could alienate you, shun you, kick you out. But like you said, they'll be cool with it. So them doing something so extreme is a bit ridiculous no?
Then try thinking of positive responses and outcomes. And while thinking of them, just do it. Say 'I'm bi'. Don't fuss with easing into it. Gives ya time to whimp out razz once you've said it aloud, it actually becomes like 200% easier to say so you can pretty it up after.  

[The Bodacious Soul Reaper]

BSPBleach

I agree with her! The only reason you might be scared, is because you think deep down somewhere, they won't except you. Other than that, if you know they'll except you then go for it! The best time to announce something is during dinner. Because everyones sitting down (even if you watch tv while eating dinner, ask to pause) just say "I've had something to tell you guys for awhile, and please listen, and wait until I am finished" or something along those words, grab there attention. And sometimes it's best to tell a person at a time. Either way, I wish you good luck!
Also one more tip, simply think of how brave you are that you are coming out, that's really big ^_^

 

[Lady Kayura]

Write them a letter then make yourself give it to someone in your family to read. Might be easier than saying it.  

[Emma Darkness Joanes]

I know it's hard. I haven't told my parents yet either. I'm afraid they won't accept me. But I will make a deal with you.

SilentVex

Here's my issue, they all would accept me, but I still can't tell them. I KNOW they will, they've made many good bisexual friends in my grade level and I should have no issues.

But I'm too scared to say it. I've tried, but every time I get the idea either I get too scared to or they've gone before I can say anything, THEN I'mm too scared.

Help?

 

[Visual Brian]

Well first of all you don't need to sleep with anyone to be bi. It's perfectly fine not wanting to sleep with anyone and being bi; don't listen to the peer pressure!

There's not a big rush to come out to your family. Being only fifteen they might not even take you seriously anyway and it could be one big, huge, awkward experience. There is a small rush to come out though, depending on your situation. I'm heading out to college this August and I haven't come out. Bad idea. I'm sure they already suspect, but trust me: you don't want to come out as you're leaving. There are a lot of feelings and other complications you probably won't think about 'till it comes. If you're not leaving for college after high school, then there really is no rush at all, but you should think long-term.

The sooner you come out the sooner you get it over with, but the less likely they'll take you seriously. In my experience the fear never goes away. My ideal coming-out-time was probably last year. Just be strong and remember that there are much more important things to occupy yourself with. C:  

[SilentVex]

Thank you all for the help. I'm going to try to come out again today... to my mother at least. I am most certain she'd accept me, a bit less certain of the dad...

If only from not having him around. Attempt 17... hope it works.  

[BSPBleach]

SilentVex

Thank you all for the help. I'm going to try to come out again today... to my mother at least. I am most certain she'd accept me, a bit less certain of the dad...

If only from not having him around. Attempt 17... hope it works.

Good luck! heart  

[SilentVex]

Sort of came out to Mom just now...

I think she was too asleep to realize what I said though. >< I'll probably just have to do it again in the morning, but at least I'll be able to sleep better tonight.