Advice anyone???

[Shiro-Gatana]

Okay, so I pretty much feel like I am ready to come out to people close to me(NOT FAMILY), but I'm still wondering if I should, would coming out make me happy? Or is it something that doesn't need to be said??? It felt great when I accepted I am a pansexual and something else(maybe not too confident about the second one yet), it felt like my stress and sadness was relieved a lot, so does coming out make these things even better??? sweatdrop  

[lenon01]

First of all, recognize that you do not have to come out if you are uncomfortable with the entire situation. It's also imperative that you completely accept your sexuality yourself, and if you feel that you might be endangered in some way or another by your coming out, you should either start with the people you know will accept you and build a support structure or, if you live in a particularly dangerous area for queer individuals, you might want to consider postponing coming out altogether until it is safer for you to do so.

However you do it is entirely up to you, however, and I wish you the best of luck. If you need anything, you can always shoot me a PM, or I'm sure anyone else in the guild would be glad to help.  

[Esiris]

Lenon said most of what I would say- but I also wanted to mention that there is a risk in coming out to some people but not everyone that you might be outed to people you don't want to/aren't ready to come out to, so you need to think about that too.  

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lenon01

First of all, recognize that you do not have to come out if you are uncomfortable with the entire situation. It's also imperative that you completely accept your sexuality yourself, and if you feel that you might be endangered in some way or another by your coming out, you should either start with the people you know will accept you and build a support structure or, if you live in a particularly dangerous area for queer individuals, you might want to consider postponing coming out altogether until it is safer for you to do so.

However you do it is entirely up to you, however, and I wish you the best of luck. If you need anything, you can always shoot me a PM, or I'm sure anyone else in the guild would be glad to help.

Thank you for your advice, it was really helpful ^.^  

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Esiris

Lenon said most of what I would say- but I also wanted to mention that there is a risk in coming out to some people but not everyone that you might be outed to people you don't want to/aren't ready to come out to, so you need to think about that too.

Thanks, I'll try to be careful 3nodding  

[sorrellscarell]

Previous posters have given great advice smile but I'd like to add on one little thing. Coming out is possibly the greatest relief I've ever experienced, and I'm really glad that I don't have to hide my sexuality. If the people you're planning to come out to are accepting, and accept you, absolutely it's a happy feeling, and you should be proud of yourself. heart good luck!  

[Tristnai]

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Okay, so I pretty much feel like I am ready to come out to people close to me(NOT FAMILY), but I'm still wondering if I should, would coming out make me happy? Or is it something that doesn't need to be said??? It felt great when I accepted I am a pansexual and something else(maybe not too confident about the second one yet), it felt like my stress and sadness was relieved a lot, so does coming out make these things even better??? sweatdrop

Ummm... it depends on people's ideals around you, if you are surrounded by jerks that think homosexuality is a sin, your going to have a bad time...  

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sorrellscarell

Previous posters have given great advice smile but I'd like to add on one little thing. Coming out is possibly the greatest relief I've ever experienced, and I'm really glad that I don't have to hide my sexuality. If the people you're planning to come out to are accepting, and accept you, absolutely it's a happy feeling, and you should be proud of yourself. heart good luck!

Thanks! I really wanted someone's opinion on how it felt for them :3 And I think you're right, I should be proud because I don't have anything to be ashamed about emotion_c8  

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Sageest

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Okay, so I pretty much feel like I am ready to come out to people close to me(NOT FAMILY), but I'm still wondering if I should, would coming out make me happy? Or is it something that doesn't need to be said??? It felt great when I accepted I am a pansexual and something else(maybe not too confident about the second one yet), it felt like my stress and sadness was relieved a lot, so does coming out make these things even better??? sweatdrop

Ummm... it depends on people's ideals around you, if you are surrounded by jerks that think homosexuality is a sin, your going to have a bad time...

You got a good point....I'll make sure my aunt doesn't know sweatdrop Thanks for the advice! emotion_bigheart  

[Tristnai]

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Sageest

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Okay, so I pretty much feel like I am ready to come out to people close to me(NOT FAMILY), but I'm still wondering if I should, would coming out make me happy? Or is it something that doesn't need to be said??? It felt great when I accepted I am a pansexual and something else(maybe not too confident about the second one yet), it felt like my stress and sadness was relieved a lot, so does coming out make these things even better??? sweatdrop

Ummm... it depends on people's ideals around you, if you are surrounded by jerks that think homosexuality is a sin, your going to have a bad time...

You got a good point....I'll make sure my aunt doesn't know sweatdrop Thanks for the advice! emotion_bigheart

Your welcome biggrin  

[sorrellscarell]

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sorrellscarell

Previous posters have given great advice smile but I'd like to add on one little thing. Coming out is possibly the greatest relief I've ever experienced, and I'm really glad that I don't have to hide my sexuality. If the people you're planning to come out to are accepting, and accept you, absolutely it's a happy feeling, and you should be proud of yourself. heart good luck!

Thanks! I really wanted someone's opinion on how it felt for them :3 And I think you're right, I should be proud because I don't have anything to be ashamed about emotion_c8

Of course you don't c: Fly the colors, hehe.
The closet gets cramped.  

[ForeverDreamWithinADream]

You don't have to come out unless you want to and like others said, there can be risks involved as some people might be against it and can increase stress and depression. So I suggest coming out only to people that would more likely to be excepting.

This isn't really something I ever did as I really don't discuss sexuality with people offline, so I can't give much advice. Some people might figure it out though.

Like others said, just think carefully with whether or not you want to come out to anyone and to who and make sure you are safe.  

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Playboy Karasu Uchiha

You don't have to come out unless you want to and like others said, there can be risks involved as some people might be against it and can increase stress and depression. So I suggest coming out only to people that would more likely to be excepting.

This isn't really something I ever did as I really don't discuss sexuality with people offline, so I can't give much advice. Some people might figure it out though.

Like others said, just think carefully with whether or not you want to come out to anyone and to who and make sure you are safe.

I'll try make sure the people I come out to won't tell people who could harm me in any way, I'm sure they wouldn't, but I should test them first, thanks for the advice! It helped a lot 3nodding  

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sorrellscarell

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sorrellscarell

Previous posters have given great advice smile but I'd like to add on one little thing. Coming out is possibly the greatest relief I've ever experienced, and I'm really glad that I don't have to hide my sexuality. If the people you're planning to come out to are accepting, and accept you, absolutely it's a happy feeling, and you should be proud of yourself. heart good luck!

Thanks! I really wanted someone's opinion on how it felt for them :3 And I think you're right, I should be proud because I don't have anything to be ashamed about emotion_c8

Of course you don't c: Fly the colors, hehe.
The closet gets cramped.

Ooh! I love that saying! ^.^ And you're right, being in the closet is uncomfortable x.x