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 Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2012 11:53 pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now....we met at school, he helped me get out of an abusive relationship shortly before we started dating and we hit it off really well...then suddenly it was like he was totally uninterested.
We will go out and spend the day together, and it'll be a blast every time..but when it comes to like holidays, it's like he screws things up on purpose. He forgot my birthday, even though it's like 2 weeks before his, forgot that we were supposed to go out and have our first drink together for our 21st (instead he went out with his friend and THEN told me about it like I had known all about it) he didn't do anything special on v-day, or has EVER gotten me flowers even when I've hinted about it a million times (that part is petty, I know, but flowers are dirt cheap here and I want to be a florist...hello)
and this last halloween we were supposed to do something, but he made plans with friends before finding out if I had to work or not and then acted like I was just being a b***h because I basically felt ditched. He doesn't go out of his way to do anything to make me feel special anymore, and I feel like all the things he did at the start were to just get into a relationship with me...but he can't be bothered to maintain the relationship.
I just told him today that I have to work the next few days and won't be able to see him at all the rest of the week...and he hardly said goodbye, let alone 'I love you' or even an 'aw I'll miss you' and right now I'm just feeling alone and heartbroken because I don't feel like I'm even his girlfriend anymore...
There is more to the story, I just felt the need to cry out because I kinda feel like I have no where else and no one else to cry out to...
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Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2012 6:51 am
ah i know how that feels me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and it felt like once the first year had past everything just started fading out we use to spend time together all day every day talking none stop, laughing and having a good time he'd even smile all big every time he saw me and even said that every time he saw me he fell in love all over again but now a days we hardly talk or spend time together and we live together :/ he asked me to marry him but then took it back like the 2nd year in, he goes out all the time to "get away" and says i'm a nag and i hold him down when i let him do what he wants and never complain about it ever. he use to buy me random presents all the time like cards and candy and even climbed a mountain and brought me back wild flowers, now a days he's just angry all the time and just spends most of his time on facebook or playing video games. he use to tell me he loved me like a thousand times a day and tell me i was beautiful, now a days he jokes about breaking up with me and only says he loves me when i'm angry with him and just says rude comments towards me.......ahaha sorry i'm just ranting on about my problems instead of giving advice like i had planned XD i don't know maybe its because you guys met in school that he feels like he's missing out on his "20's" or at least thats what mine tells me -shrugs- all i can say is if you love him be patient and just do things to make him happy so he knows you're still trying to keep you guys together or even write him a letter about how you feel [i do it all the time] other then that well there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to.....if any of that made any sense at all v.v when i go on like that i never know if i made sense in the end but i hope i helped? feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk more? ^.^ i'm always here to listen
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Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2012 10:41 am
Keep Your Voices ah i know how that feels me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and it felt like once the first year had past everything just started fading out we use to spend time together all day every day talking none stop, laughing and having a good time he'd even smile all big every time he saw me and even said that every time he saw me he fell in love all over again but now a days we hardly talk or spend time together and we live together :/ he asked me to marry him but then took it back like the 2nd year in, he goes out all the time to "get away" and says i'm a nag and i hold him down when i let him do what he wants and never complain about it ever. he use to buy me random presents all the time like cards and candy and even climbed a mountain and brought me back wild flowers, now a days he's just angry all the time and just spends most of his time on facebook or playing video games. he use to tell me he loved me like a thousand times a day and tell me i was beautiful, now a days he jokes about breaking up with me and only says he loves me when i'm angry with him and just says rude comments towards me.......ahaha sorry i'm just ranting on about my problems instead of giving advice like i had planned XD i don't know maybe its because you guys met in school that he feels like he's missing out on his "20's" or at least thats what mine tells me -shrugs- all i can say is if you love him be patient and just do things to make him happy so he knows you're still trying to keep you guys together or even write him a letter about how you feel [i do it all the time] other then that well there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to.....if any of that made any sense at all v.v when i go on like that i never know if i made sense in the end but i hope i helped? feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk more? ^.^ i'm always here to listen It's eerie to hear how similar our issue is...because I can't even remember the last time he said he loved me, and he does act like he needs to run off with friends because I complain too much. I think the one thing that bugs me the most is the unclearness of it all...like, when we first started having issues, he acted like oh maybe I should dump him because he's not good enough for me and I was like....wtf, the issue isn't THAT bad and I'm not even thinking of doing that....but then every fight after, at points where I AM thinking about it, he freaks out and acts like 'no no no I don't want to break up, let's make this work' and then not change a thing to make it better...it's kinda made me wonder if he does want to break up but just doesn't want to be the dumped one but doesn't have the pair to be the one to do it..
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Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2012 2:36 pm
Lain Julett Keep Your Voices ah i know how that feels me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and it felt like once the first year had past everything just started fading out we use to spend time together all day every day talking none stop, laughing and having a good time he'd even smile all big every time he saw me and even said that every time he saw me he fell in love all over again but now a days we hardly talk or spend time together and we live together :/ he asked me to marry him but then took it back like the 2nd year in, he goes out all the time to "get away" and says i'm a nag and i hold him down when i let him do what he wants and never complain about it ever. he use to buy me random presents all the time like cards and candy and even climbed a mountain and brought me back wild flowers, now a days he's just angry all the time and just spends most of his time on facebook or playing video games. he use to tell me he loved me like a thousand times a day and tell me i was beautiful, now a days he jokes about breaking up with me and only says he loves me when i'm angry with him and just says rude comments towards me.......ahaha sorry i'm just ranting on about my problems instead of giving advice like i had planned XD i don't know maybe its because you guys met in school that he feels like he's missing out on his "20's" or at least thats what mine tells me -shrugs- all i can say is if you love him be patient and just do things to make him happy so he knows you're still trying to keep you guys together or even write him a letter about how you feel [i do it all the time] other then that well there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to.....if any of that made any sense at all v.v when i go on like that i never know if i made sense in the end but i hope i helped? feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk more? ^.^ i'm always here to listen It's eerie to hear how similar our issue is...because I can't even remember the last time he said he loved me, and he does act like he needs to run off with friends because I complain too much. I think the one thing that bugs me the most is the unclearness of it all...like, when we first started having issues, he acted like oh maybe I should dump him because he's not good enough for me and I was like....wtf, the issue isn't THAT bad and I'm not even thinking of doing that....but then every fight after, at points where I AM thinking about it, he freaks out and acts like 'no no no I don't want to break up, let's make this work' and then not change a thing to make it better...it's kinda made me wonder if he does want to break up but just doesn't want to be the dumped one but doesn't have the pair to be the one to do it.. yeah i know i totally agree with you mine will just play mind games like he'll be like "i want to be single we should go off and do our own thing" and will break up with me but then like a few mins later will take it back i've been with him for so long and yet i still don't feel like this is my home i feel like i'm just sleeping over until its time to leave its frustrating and heartbreaking to sit and wonder if this night will be our last and i'll like cry and cry every time but since its happened so much i just don't care what happens anymore like i'm enjoying him right now i'll just leave it at that and if we do part then i know i'll be better off and be myself again. Maybe you should sit down with him and figure out where it is leading and if he doesn't know then maybe you should figure it out for yourself and just go with what you want because if he's like mine then he's only thinking as an " I " instead of " us " and he'll just continue with what he's doing and you'll both just be stuck
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