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Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2013 6:29 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2013 8:39 pm
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 7:33 pm
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Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 8:38 pm
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Shikyo Valentine Hey, what's up, my name's Shikyo (on Gaia) and I'm a FtM transgender.... The other day I was at the mall with my friend and everyone was calling me Ms., Now, I was even more ticked off than usual cuz I was making an even harder effort to not be mistaken as a girl. Anyway my question is Do you ever get ticked off/angry/irritated whenever someone call you the wrong pronoun?
I get ticked off when I walk into the men's side of a store and people lead me to the women's side, but all you have to do is correct them. People dont know better and you shouldnt go off on them. I mean, if you think about it, theres probably been someone, like myself, whom youve met before and had no idea they were ftm since they cant afford to alter their looks. Theyre not going to know any better unless you speak up.
I do get irritated, but I dont get mad at them. I look like a girl so they have a valid reason to use the feminine pronoun.
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Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 6:24 pm
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Posted: Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:24 am
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Posted: Sat Jan 12, 2013 12:05 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2013 10:21 am
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Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2013 2:04 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 5:46 am
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I think you should do your level best not to get annoyed with people who misgender you. Nine times out of twenty it's an honest mistake and if they notice that they've done it they already feel bad, without being chastised. Often they don't notice at all. A gentle correction's all that's needed. I know it's frustrating, and it hurts, when you're doing all you can to pass, but you have to be realistic as well. It's a difficult thing for most people to adjust to. They've been calling you one thing for years, now that must suddenly stop. That's just people who know. Those who don't can only go on what you look like. If even despite your best efforts you still look male, you're going to be called 'he', if you look female you're going to be called 'she'. Best to just make peace with that, really, and sit tight until the hormones and things come and make everything alright.
Of course, if they're doing it deliberately, then get as angry as you like. There's no excuse for that dickishness.
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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2013 10:36 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2015 2:50 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2015 5:29 pm
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