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 Posted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 6:06 pm
Hey, everyone, I'm currently surrounded by druggies and for the first time in my life it has really started to bother me. My whole very close knit friends, whom of which there are 3, have all started to smoke marijuana. For the first time it's been really bothering me and I made a comment on it to one of them and it just blew up to a large argument. He started making accusations about one of my best friends who is in and out of the loop saying she smokes which hurt me very badly to the point whereas I'm close to crying. He said him and his girlfriend are proud to be smokers and that he doesn't care what anyone else says. I know I need new friends, but I'm rather quiet and it's hard to get out of the loop of the people I've known and gotten close to. He's been pushing me and trying to get me to smoke for awhile now and I actually was going to fall to his wants this weekend, but I made other plans with a friend and I saved myself. Am I as pathetic as he is for smoking for planning on falling to the negativity to smoke? He said word for word, "If you don't want to be friends, then don't be friends. You don't need to be friends with any of us actually." Which hurt me very badly to the point I did cry. I need new friends.. -sigh-..
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Posted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 7:30 pm
I think this is about more than just the drugs.
You really do need new friends. I know it can be tough to let go of the only thing you know (in this case, just these friends at current), but these people, and specifically the guy, are not really acting like your friends. Just think of it this way, replace marijuana with any other thing you may not want to do or like. Just put in anything that fits there. I think at this point, it doesn't really matter what it is, it's the fact that he's pushing you to do something you don't want to do, and is making it about being friends with him, and the rest of them. He's making the one thing you don't like that they do into something bigger than it needs to be, and is giving you an ultimatum. From the sounds of it, he's either trying to get you to smoke with them, or he's telling you you can just stop being friends with them, which translates to either you smoke with us, or we can stop being friends.
At this point it really doesn't matter that it's drugs, it's something you have no wish to partake in, you don't want to be apart of it. No, it doesn't make you just as bad as him, but it is bad that you'll let him manipulate you that way. If you don't want to do something, you must stand your ground. It doesn't matter what he wants, it doesn't matter what he says, at the end of the day you're still making the choice to go against yourself just to make others happy, and that isn't good. If it's something you really dislike, how do you think you would have felt after it was all said and done? Probably not all that great. Don't let this a** control you.
I would just keep telling him you don't wish to do it. If he keeps telling you you don't have to be his friend, then he's obviously saying "if you can't smoke with me then you can't be my friend". You might as well sever ties with that kind of person, no friend forces you to do something and puts your friendship on the line for it. They respect your wishes, they respect you.
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Posted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 7:41 pm
It's perfectly fine now. I'm done with all of them, but then again it was for the best. I said goodbye to all of them as he pushed me over the edge. It only took one argument from us being on okay terms to him calling me every terrible name in the book. I honestly don't wish to meet all of my friends over the Internet, but I do have a few still in real life. I'm happy that it's all over now. So many things were said, he specifically commented on how he wouldn't dare go to college because it's a stupid idea for he's going to make a secure living off of selling drugs. Right there I knew that he wouldn't necessarily get anywhere in life with that kind of mindset. He truly is a horrible person and I'm happy I'm done with all of them.
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Posted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 7:51 pm
Haunting Paranoia Hey, everyone, I'm currently surrounded by druggies and for the first time in my life it has really started to bother me. My whole very close knit friends, whom of which there are 3, have all started to smoke marijuana. For the first time it's been really bothering me and I made a comment on it to one of them and it just blew up to a large argument. He started making accusations about one of my best friends who is in and out of the loop saying she smokes which hurt me very badly to the point whereas I'm close to crying. He said him and his girlfriend are proud to be smokers and that he doesn't care what anyone else says. I know I need new friends, but I'm rather quiet and it's hard to get out of the loop of the people I've known and gotten close to. He's been pushing me and trying to get me to smoke for awhile now and I actually was going to fall to his wants this weekend, but I made other plans with a friend and I saved myself. Am I as pathetic as he is for smoking for planning on falling to the negativity to smoke? He said word for word, "If you don't want to be friends, then don't be friends. You don't need to be friends with any of us actually." Which hurt me very badly to the point I did cry. I need new friends.. -sigh-.. I agree that you need new friends, not because they smoke pot, but because they try to force it on you. Their is nothing wrong with smoking pot, and it would be very ignorant to stop being friends with someone just because they smoke weed. Weed doesn't harm you as much as you parents and school probably thought you. Weed causes much less damage on people then cigarettes or alcohol does but yet they sell it to people. Weed can actually be used for a lot more then just recreation. I'm not saying you should go smoke with your friends I'm just saying don't judge what you don't understand.
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Posted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 7:54 pm
I'm glad you made a decision you're happy with. It's sad that he'd rather throw away the friendship you had over stupid things like that, but it goes to show who your real friends are. I can't even believe that he'd go and just call you names over this, but then again, in a way I can, because he sounds like an immature, terrible brat. It sounds like you guys just aren't on the same page at all, considering he finds college stupid but thinks drug dealing is a-okay. Only a lazy good-for-nothing would rather make all their money doing something illegal rather than doing some actual work. It isn't like college or drug dealing are the only options he has, that's idiotic. Smoking is fine if he wants to do that with him and people who are willing, but drug dealing? I don't think I can deal with that. It's good that they're out of your life and you can focus on the people who actually care about you. I know sometimes if feels like internet friends can't give you the same things offline friends can, but they can still give you more than they could and would.
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