Sort of rejected? (I need advice)

[Fuit Gummy]

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Hi girls, this is a semi-rant topic and it's
a bit of a bummer and it's long-- But I would like some advice.

I've known this guy for 7-8 months and at first we didn't get along too well,
I was too shy to open up to him. But, after a few weeks, we became friends.
Shortly after we became friends I started feeling weird around him. I didn't
know why, so I ignored it.

Well, we became BFFs and I could be myself around him. I could have my
weird sense of humor and he didn't judge me. Well, my weird sense of humor
is actually... Kinda flirty? So, we developed this weird relationship. We were
still friends but we flirted with each other like crazy. It was after we had this
relationship that I realized I had a crush on him.

Months passed by and we maintained this friendship, well then he started
talking about kissing me and became a lot more touchy/feely. I thought
it was weird but put it off because of how our relationship was. Well,
then he kept making advances towards me.

So, I decided I would just tell him how I felt. So, last friday, I just
came out and told him that I had a crush on him and that if he didn't
feel the same then I'd want him to not joke about kissing me anymore.
He acknowledged it but never said if he felt the same way. I wasn't bitter
about it, I was just happy he realized that our flirty friendship was straining
me. He kept doing it all throughout the rest of the day, though.

It wasn't until late night that I became frustrated with him. He started
joking about kissing me again and became touchy/feely with me again.
I told him that I didn't want him to do that and I reminded him why;
I had romantic feelings for him and him teasing me makes it difficult
to get over him quickly.

He kept doing it though! So, I finally got mad and told him, friday night,
that I think it'd be better if we didn't talk for a bit. So, he left me alone
on saturday. Sunday, though, he kept texting me and trying to talk to me.
I never replied. Well, today, he's trying to get in contact with me again.

He is spamming my phone and just won't leave me alone. It makes me sad
to not talk to him but I don't want him to keep teasing me, especially since
he refuses to listen to me. I'm kind of stuck and not sure what to do?

To understand why this is so difficult for me, read the spoiler. If you're
not interested in that, then skip it.

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You see, I haven't had romantic feelings for anyone since I was 12.
(I'm 19) Well, during the 7 years I've also... Like, stopped developing
a lot of feelings. Over that period, I kind of forgot how to recognize
emotions unless I feel them in extremes. So, when I realized I had
feelings for him, I didn't know what to do.

And, since I was basically rejected, I'm still not sure how to feel.

What should I do?
gonk

I miss talking to him but I know he'll keep flirty teasing me, so I don't
wanna talk to him! Should I ignore him until I think I'm over him or just...?

Any advice would be helpful.

 

[Fuit Gummy]

fawn freckles

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Ty for the reply emotion_kirakira
I was literally about to pick up my phone and text him back...

Also, do you think I should, like, ignore him forever or..? o .o
I mean, is there no way to fix this? ;w;

 

[xoAniLuv]

I had a similar experience with a friend I had a crush on a year or so ago. Continue being firm about your stance of not wanting to be teased, because it really proves frustrating. I don't think your friend means to hurt your feelings, but how I see it with some guys is that once they see that a girl likes them, regardless of whether or not they reciprocate the feeling, they almost want for that person's romantic feelings towards them to continue, just for the sake of the ego boost that comes from knowing that they mean a lot to someone.  

[cartoonromancer]

>.< I have a much nicer view towards things...but maybe it's because I deal with younger guys since I'm in high school. It depends on how often you see him. If you see him often, it might be very awkward to keep ignoring him, but don't let him off the hook either. I don't think you should let him out of your life completely. You liked him for a reason, right? He has to be a good person, no? But if you've told him how upset you were and he still didn't listen--then just let this continue for a few days until he says sorry and he's willing to listen to you this time. If he's not ready to be your boyfriend or whatever you want to be--then he needs to be prepared to give up that side of your relationship. I know how it feels though. My current boyfriend used to call me princess and things like that before we went out so I asked him to stop...but really, he did those things just because he liked me and maybe he's hiding those feelings too?  

[Fuit Gummy]

xoAniLuv

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I never thought of that o_o
I really hope he's not trying to keep me wrapped around his finger...

Because he WILL NOT. emotion_donotwant I will prevail.
I have been taking into consideration what everyone has said so far
and I think you're all right. gonk I'm thinking I might distance myself
a little longer but not kick him out of my life.

Why do boys have to be so weird?

 

[Fuit Gummy]

cartoonromancer

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Aww, that's cute. ;w; The whole princess thing.

Anyways, I am secretly hoping that he is hiding those feelings... >.>
I think I'm going to do what you said, distance myself a little longer
and when he's ready to see what he's doing wrong, then we'll talk.

I'm still going to try to not like-like him though, I don't want to complicate
our relationship anymore.

 

[xoAniLuv]

Brommiel

xoAniLuv

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I never thought of that o_o
I really hope he's not trying to keep me wrapped around his finger...

Because he WILL NOT. emotion_donotwant I will prevail.
I have been taking into consideration what everyone has said so far
and I think you're all right. gonk I'm thinking I might distance myself
a little longer but not kick him out of my life.

Why do boys have to be so weird?

Dudes are dudes, what can I say? xd  

[SoGummylicious]

aw he didnt reject you...