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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 3:26 pm
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I have a fiance.
We used to see each other and talk to each other every day, but due to financial problems and recent events, we see each other a lot less.
Because of financial problems, I can only call him ocne a day, and can only see him once or twice a week.
This arrangement is not only because money is tight, however. My fiance also arranged this in order to help me. I am very needy and dependant, and have few real friends at school. My fiance does not attend my school. I depend on him in order to cope with daily life.
Not only does he feel suffocated, but he also wants to prepare me for when he goes to college and gets a job.
It is very hard on me because, like I said, I have few people I can talk to/relate to. He is not just my fiance, but also my best friend.
Coping mechanisms for depression and separation anxiety would be greatly appreciated.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 3:41 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 3:55 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 7:57 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 8:02 pm
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 4:20 am
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 12:30 pm
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 12:48 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 4:47 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 9:01 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 6:39 am
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Nariko914 Calypsophia there was a time when I had co-dependency issues in my marriage. it drove my husband crazy. we separated mainly because of it, tho there were other issues as well. anyway, the separation was very good for me and I almost didnt get back together with him (because I was afraid the other issues would continue). I guess what I'm saying is the best way to beat co-dependency is to show yourself that you can not only have a life by yourself, but that you can function and succeed in that life by yourself as well. it's one thing to miss someone when they're far away, but in order to cultivate independence you cant let that feeling grow to dictate every other aspect of your life. it's really not up to him to prepare you (and there may even come a time when you actually resent his constant efforts to get you to let go).. it's up to YOU to prepare you. Thank you, this was very helpful! heart It is good to hear from someone who is married and who has been through something similar.
good! I'm happy I could help smile
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Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 7:31 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 8:54 pm
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