Sexualities?

[freaxy]

I've never been too thrilled with my orientation, as it makes my life far more complicated than I'd wish it was. It's taken me quite some time to actually figure out exactly what it was. I've come to figure out that it gets harder each day just trying to live the 'normal' life and denying all feelings toward what I actually am. Lately I've been feeling that urge to just let it out, building and basically weighing myself down and wearing me out. Few months ago is when I started realizing and searching more into what it is exactly, what terms there are for it and all that stuff. I'm sure there's at least a few of you that know this process. so after some time, I got around to telling some of my more closer friends and recent friends as to kind of start fresh as who I really am. That went well for quite a while, but then it kept building still, cause of who I haven't told, so just recently I told my sister, and that was a huge relief. Now being that I'm posting in here, I'm trying to get it out in the open enough that my mom might actually read it and quite possible realize a bit more about how I am the way I am. This is getting a little longer than I expected and I know how much people like to just skip to the generals, so I'll get to that here..

I'm what I've come to call a 'lesboy', which I guess you could say is a lesser forms of transgender. In short, a lesbian in a male shell.

I've constantly felt shame, anger, depression, regret, frustration, and you name it, over the matter, and even in elementary school I felt something was very different about me. I guess there's a ton I could say on the matter, but I have high anxiety and I'm afraid enough typing this.

I guess you know why if you were wondering why I only said "too complicated" the first time.
oh great, top of the page. D;  

[Cyanna]

I picked straight due the the fact that the only person I've ever really been sexually attracted to is male.

Otherwise...asexual.

I used to think I really wasn't that different. I liked boys...that was considered "normal". But then the teenage and college years hit and all of a sudden I'm the last virgin standing (and I had a steady boyfriend too). At first my reaction was like "Geebers, have you any self control at all?! It's not THAT hard to resist the urge."

But then it kinda dawned on me that I've never really felt sexually attracted to anyone. Explicit sexual imagery, porn...even educational material...I found it all to be various degrees of repulsive. I mean I had crushes...and those crushes were on men...but I wanted companionship. Not sexual encounters. I knew my boyfriend didn't get urges either so we were totally on the same page regarding sex...we didn't need it. We were curious...but nothing more.

I did eventually learn what it feels like to be sexually attracted to someone. Took a while but I realized that I'd like to make love with my boyfriend...to have that feeling of being one with him. Heck I even got sexually frustrated over that.. Nothing big happened...but I discovered I could turn him on.

I'm still not that interested in sex in general. I'd like to have sex with my fiance...but that's really more out a desire to have sex with my fiance than to have sex. Neither of us are in any sort of hurry so we may as well do the "wait for marriage" thing.

I've just never been attracted that way to anyone else...  

[Revy-2-Hands]

I suppose you could call me a Lesbian. I've been in love with my best female friend for 9 years. But even so, I wouldn't deny the perfect man... I'm pretty damn fickle, so yea...

My heart is set, and even though, unrequitted through words, by actions, I'm liked back by that person. But if I wait too much longer and the right guy comes around with the patience to handle me, I wouldn't arbitrarily say no.  

[NecHocNecIllud]

Tatsuya Fujinaka

Hey, there. ^^

My name is Tatsuya, and I am 30-years-old.
I know that most of gaia are gay/bi/etcetra, but, I was wondering how many adults on gaia were.

So, just answer the poll and stay and chat if you want to.

Oh, and no bashing of any kind.
I really don't want to hear it. >.>

Transgender and transexual are not sexualities; they are genders.

I'm Androphilic genderqueer, but as transgender is not a sexuality and Androphilic is not an option, I'm at a loss as to what to click.  

[Demona_Darchanjel]

I'm a 24 going on 25 year old female who is definately a lesbian. I've known since I was 18, before that I was a scared homophobe. Turns out I was scared for a reason, I am a homo! I'd love to meet other bi/lesbian girls in the geezers guild so PM me to introduce yourself. I'll keep things PG 13 for gaia rules sake. I'm just looking for people I can relate to to chat with. sweatdrop Look forward to meeting you girls!  

[Setsu-P has stepped out]

Hetero. Alarmingly monogamous ^_^

Potential mates have always been evaluated on a long-term scale, as far back as I can remember.  

[[-Sunder-]]

I voted Bi. However, it not like I 'love' dude and girls. I'd never go make-out with another dude, I'd just ********. Example is I don't look at guys and say "Mmm...he's hot." I do that for girls though. I wouldn't know a hot guy if he danced naked in front of me.

I dunno it's really hard to explain.

I just think it's really that I'll ******** anything human that wants it.  

[kurridevilwing]

hrrmmmm......I would go ahead and say...Pansexual with transgender tendencies.


wrap your head around that one, considering Im in the military sweatdrop  

[Wixandrettas]

Hetero here.

My immediate supervisor is lesbian, coming out of a heterosexual marriage. When I met her for orientation at work, she asked me a general question of "How do you feel about diversity in the workplace?"

I told her of a really good friend of mine who is a cross-dresser, who embraces it without worry, and he is married to a woman who loves him unconditionally. That is what makes it so wonderful.. that you can be with people regardless of what different it is... and I love my friend for it. I commend him while being him and 'her'. I have a sister who is bi-sexual, and it doesnt matter to me. Ive told my daughter that down the road if she finds that she is discovering things that lead her to loving a woman, I told her that she is still my daughter, and nothing changes that and I will always love her for it.

My supervisor started to cry.... she had said to me that I was the first person in her life who had no grudge, no hatred and knew that her and I could work together well. That was when I learned she was a lesbian, and it was her way of knowing whether or not her employee would be accepting of her being lesbian...

I dont care what you are.. be good to me as a human being, and I will do the same.. the fact your orientation differs from mine makes no impact whatsoever...

My mother taught me differently, but I never listened! LOL

In fact, I feel safer going to a Gay bar with my best friends than a straight bar. In a Gay bar, everyone accepts you no matter what. The bartender, although hot as hell (WHOA!), knew I was straight when I didnt mingle with women... and he had asked me why a straight woman is in a gay bar with a gay guy? That gay guy was my best friend and I know what he is like under the influence so Im making sure he behaves himself... LOLOLOL

The bartender was so impressed despite the fact he was cracking up... he gave me a few rounds on the house, just because I was honest, and I was the only straight woman who was allowed to come in and feel welcomed... Everyone treated me with kindness because I did the same..

that is what it is supposed to be about...  

[Raevena]

Devilish Zukin

I guess some people would call be Bisexual, but really I'm Hetero.

I just like looking at girls. >>;

...Even though I am a girl. DX

me2, bb!

 

[Lady Asherat]

I don't feel that pansexual makes sense, because by your definition, you say you encompass all sexes...there are only 2 sexes. Male and female. Did a new one or two crop up? And by the definition of loving any and all people, wouldn't bisexual cover that? I'm asking this in a debate sort of questioning, I could care less about people's sexual orientation.

Btw I'm hetero and married. To a man. To clarify. 4laugh  

[Gussie_chan]

I picked one...  

[Justifi3d Tr3ason]

Bi sexual.

 

[bookviper]

I went with homosexual. Been out for four or five years and can call myself a gold-star. When I was little I though I might be gay and should have known but when I thought of it in terms that 10% is gay my little brain said "You can't be in that ten percent. To be in such a small number would make you above the average." So I was all for it but my self-esteem said I wasn't special enough and that was when I was in junior high sweatdrop When I told my girlfriend that she thought it was the cutest thing, I just think my brain was wired wrong...  

[Miniar]

Lady Asherat

I don't feel that pansexual makes sense, because by your definition, you say you encompass all sexes...there are only 2 sexes. Male and female. Did a new one or two crop up? And by the definition of loving any and all people, wouldn't bisexual cover that? I'm asking this in a debate sort of questioning, I could care less about people's sexual orientation.

Btw I'm hetero and married. To a man. To clarify. 4laugh

It covers all the genders and gender+sex combinations.

Yes, there are only two "standard" biological sexes. However, there are a few people out there who are born outside those biological sexes, they aren't "included" in the standard defenition of "bi" sexual.
There are also those out there that aren't defined by their biological sex. The transgendered and the non-gender-specific. They aren't "included" in the standard defenition of "bi" sexual.

Then there's hair-splitters like me out there who disapprove of how "bisexuality" implies that there are only two modes of human beings, biologically and psychologically male onese and biologically and psychologically female ones.
Well, as a bilogically one thing and psycholgically "both" and quite unhappy with being this restricted, biologially that is..